One thing I look for when I buy a harness is where the cock is going to sit at. The Sedeux Leather Couture Harness rides on the lower side. This gives the driver who hopefully is strapped in securely, a great sensation over the mons pubis during the drive.

Looks are also important. I think my partner would laugh at a fuzzy purple harness, or a Hello Kitty Pink harness. This one is sturdy leather. It runs more in the raw hide type, rather than the fine garment type. I found this one at the local shop in Honolulu for $90, it will cost you a lot less on line. There are many reasons it’s worth the price, and a couple that may detract for you.

This is an all leather harness with buckle straps, it can accommodate a person with 60 inch hips, and it can also accommodate a slim hipped person who wears size one jeans as well.

To get my best fit, I wet the harness and adjusted and cut the straps while it was wet. I only had to adjust the legs once, the next time I just stepped into it and buckled it on my hips. Its rather rough leather, you may want to soften it with frequent wear, non toxic oil, or beating it gently with something like a meat tenderizer. Oh, you don't have to do that, but it will stand up to the abuse and soften faster. It's not made of lovely soft garment leather like some harnesses; it’s a little more macho, a little more rock and roll...

The Sedeux Leather Couture Harness comes with a snap-on panel that will accommodate a dildo up to an inch and a half. Just slide the dildo unto the back of the panel, and snap it on. You can snap it on and off while you wear it (hey, Snap On Tools!). It also comes with a 2 inch o ring, with web attached snaps, that accommodate dildos that are 2 inches thick. You can not interchange O rings here, however.

One thing this harness does not have is, a whole to insert a double ended dildo like Nexus, Share, Feeldoe, etc. They will not work here, only dildos with flat bases. (I met someone who cut their Nexus in half to make two working dildos!)

As part of my follow up, I have still been trying to soften this harness - and it will never be garment leather quality soft like say an Aslan or Stormy Leather or even a Kink Lab product. No matter how much I work it with saddle soap and mink oil, it feels like a strap I could give someone a good belting with ! Its still a little stiffer than probably anything on the market.

Well I don't really soap it. I did the first time before use to get a good fit. Subsequent uses are washed off with soap and water, left to dry, and the stained side treated with almond oil (very sparingly). It’s held up very well.