Sportsheets is the main harness manufacturer that we carry in the company I work for, with that in mind, I was mainly trying to go for something that was readily accessible. I'd seen this harness for the 9 months of work and have been extremely curious to try it out. Valentine's Day proved to be the most opportune time for me. A couple of weeks before my boyfriend came to visit from WA, I went ahead and bought the Menage a trois harness and tried it on to see how comfortable it was.

Starting with the ring that I put my cock and balls through, I already had to stop. The ring they chose as the initial ring was too small, so I took the liberty of changing it out with the largest they'd supplied. Yes, this harness does have the capability to change out rings as needed. It came with a large 2” steel ring, 2 medium 1 ¾” rings (one steel and the other is an O-ring), and 2 small 1 ½” steel rings (one is usable and the other is a fixed ring that holds the straps at your back).

This harness kit does come with a small silicone dildo, the Sportsheets Sedeux Flare. This actually isn't a bad little dildo, its 5 ½” overall length, it has a little bit of a curve at the tip to hit either the G-spot or P-spot. Though I do prefer Tantus dildos, the Sportsheets Sedeux dildo line is of a good quality. It's made with a medium density silicone, so it's not a goopy soft silicone, or a too firm harder silicone. This dildo is boilable, bleachable, and dishwasher safe. Remember to only use water based lubricant with this, as silicone based lubricant can cause harm to this product.

The harness itself is definitely interesting the first time it's worn. It is a thong style harness, so guys that hate that feeling, just stay away. This harness is created out of nylon straps, metal snaps, and 3 plastic strap adjusters (what are they called?). The quality of the harness itself is mediocre. Some of the metal clasps are not centered in the material so it loses a few quality points. It's set up as a small steel ring at the small of your back, permanently holding 2 of the straps and 1 of the strap adjusters. The 1 strap adjuster attached to the back ring goes to the strap that goes between the butt cheeks. The 2 straps go around the hips and after going through the 2 other adjusters, the straps are not permanently attached to the adjusters, they finish off at metal snaps that attach the top ring. The top ring is the one that holds whatever dildo is to be used, and a small piece of strap with metal snaps is used to hold the top ring and the bottom ring, which is the one the guy wears.

I'm not used to thong style, so it was a little weird, after changing out the rings to the 2” ring, I put my stuff through and pulled the adjustable straps (which go up to 60”) till they were holding tight. It did look awkward at first, but I went ahead and put the dildo that came with it in and saw the function past the look. I was excited and couldn't wait to try it out on Valentine's Day.

When the day finally came, I strapped my boy down to the bed with the Sportsheets bondage bed sheet set (review coming soon to a computer near you) and got the harness on and chose to put my Cyberskin Dream Dick on. Because it has no backing to hinder size, the harness did hold the dildo very nicely; however, Cyberskin was a bit too floppy and ended up tearing in the rings. I was able to go with the harness for quite a while, but it did get a little uncomfortable after a while. The harness itself was good, but the ring holding my member and balls chafed a little where the straps were.

As a gay male, the harness helps if I am wanting to have a much longer session, letting me go on my own, than I can add a dildo to keep going when I'm not up. For a straight couple, the guy can use this harness in the same way, or he can use it to double penetrate the female. The representative of Sportsheets gave another idea, if actually engaging in a Menage a trois, to put a dildo in the ring on the back, and let the second woman hump/ride from behind.

Though I'll be using this harness again, I am looking forward to trying a male harness from Aslan Leather.

The nylon straps don't hold well to the adjusters at first, but after using the harness for a little while, it's easier to keep them from sliding and getting loose. As for the chafing, it does get a little annoying, but it's fairly easy to get past in the heat of the moment. If you (the male) are especially sensitive down there, you might want to decide against this product so it doesn't hurt your skin. When it comes to washing, I would suggest hand washing because nylon wouldn't do well in the dryer.