look, here's the deal: my gender is all over the place. I am pretty pleased with what my business district looks like, and I never really had a desire to pack. I had read so much and seen so many cases of really crappy packers, and they all looked like not even a small step above rolled up socks in your unders. but THEN...I was in a shop perusing things, and happened to see this little number. I have always been happy with other spare parts products I had used or heard about, but I had never seen this particular harness. (for the record, I bought it through EF, but the first time I saw it was in person.) it looked well-made, sturdy but not stiff, and not any major over-the-top features on it. I took a gamble and ordered it, and from the second after it arrived and I tried it on, I knew I had made the very very very correct decision.

to start with, the material it's made out of is high quality. It breathes well, it isn't bulky or thick, and the elastic doesn't pinch, but is also gentle enough that it is comfortable to wear. the pocket where the packy fits doesn't have any closure pieces (no Velcro, sticky anything, buttons, snaps, etc.) but you put it in, pull the shaft through, and then there are little fabric pieces that separate the base of it from your genitals. this is important because the material of the packy (the one I use is https://www.edenfantasys.com/dildos/realistic-dildos/mr-limpy-extra-small) is a little sticky on the back, so without the fabric pieces it would probably uncomfortably pull any hair you may have. the dividing fabric pieces do a good job of covering the back of the packy without being bulky.

fit-wise...it's hard to judge things from online, especially when they're one size fits all kinds of wearable items. the harness fit me well - I'm about 5'4" and around 150 pounds, much of which is concentrated in my belly. it is comfortable to wear. I don't wear it too often, but for the amount I have used it it has worn really well. the elastic isn't worn out, and it doesn't fall off of me or anything like that (and also isn't pinchy or tight).

I've only used the packy that I linked above with it, and I have no idea how it would wear with a hard pack instead of a soft one. it's totally washable, so if for some reason you do use lube with it, it's super easy to get it clean. if you're looking for it (or you are looking at me thinking I'm a cisgender dude) you can definitely see that there is something there, but it doesn't at all look fake from the outside when you're packing with it.

the only downside I would mention is that it's easy to have the waistband of the harness come up over the waistline of your pants, and sometimes it slips out - more easily than your underpants do) and it looks a little odd to have a single random black strap hanging out when you bend over.

i was able to use it while masturbating, but it took some finegaling to make it happen smoothly. probably easier if someone else is touching you under the harness when you have it on. definitely not a primary use of it, but possible if you're willing to poke around a little bit. :)

otherwise, the straps are totally comfortable and do a great job of holding everything in place. overall, I highly recommend this harness whether you get it from EF or somewhere else. worth the price, worth buying. ten gold stars.