One night as I was talking with the guys they began to twit me because I said a woman could fuck as well and as hard as any man. They, being men, and feeling much maligned, challenged me to prove it. So I bought the Bend Over Intermediate Kit from Tantus, in purple, of course. I reasoned that if I was going to strap on and fuck like a man I might as well have a nice sized cock! Ok, so I make decisions sometimes based on really weird criteria but it's all just part of my dubious charm.

I waited impatiently for my kit to get here, and just to show the guys I am a good sport I also threw in some sexy lingerie, since they love to see me in silk, satin and lace. That should look hot with a nice purple cock, right?

The kit arrives very attractively packaged in a plastic box that is clear so you can see exactly what you are getting. In this case you are getting a lovely nylon webbing harness that fits hips up to 60 inches, a bullet vibe that fits into the harness so you can get your freak on while you make love to your partner, two silicone O rings, and two dildos: a Tantus Silk Medium and a Tantus Silk Large. The vibrator even comes with 3 fresh watch batteries.

The harness is just plain beautiful. The triangle where the dildo sits is made with soft and glossy purple plus fabric over thin dark grey foam. The little bullet vibe fits into a pocket located at the top of the triangle and on my body it actually does provide stimulation to my clitoris during use, though I have heard from other users that sometimes this is hit or miss. The straps of the harness are threaded through the velvet fabric to hold it secure. You can unsnap the O ring straps and remove the triangle for cleaning in warm water and soap. I hand wash mine just because it's easier but you could throw it in with your lingerie just as easily. The fabric is sewn together firmly and the seams are finished. There are very few loose threads, but the openings for the straps to pass though are unfinished and could tear quite easily. Since there is little to no stress placed on the fabric while the harness is in use I don't see this becoming a large problem.

The straps of the harness are composed of nylon webbing material and it is silky though stiff when it's new. The edges are even and are not raveling. The stitching at the points where the hardware is attached is firm, sturdy and visually appealing. Most of the hardware is black, hard plastic and looks like it will stand up to years of use without any problem. The snaps that hold the O ring in place are the only metal bits on the harness. They are easy to unsnap but won't come undone during use. The straps wrap around the O ring and do not cause tons of bulk so you should be able custom fit your favorite dildos with ease.
There isn't a place to put another dildo for the wearer's enjoyment, which could be a drawback for a serious harness user.
The nylon webbing can be washed in warm water and mild soap or also thrown into the washer with your lingerie. I would caution against throwing it in the dryer, mostly because it will drip dry easily and quickly and also because the heat could cause damage to the plastic buckles. You could use air dry a place the harness in a pillow case or lingerie bag to prevent it from banging around.

The little vibe is about 2 inches long and 2.25 inches around. It's a push button variety bullet with one fairly vigorous medium intensity speed. It is fairly quiet though easily heard during use. I didn't find it distracting and was able to relax and enjoy a pretty intense orgasm from the stimulation. As always your mileage may vary! It uses 3 Lr44 size batteries and is waterproof.

The harness comes with one of the silicone O rings already attached to the harness and ready to use. The base of the dildo doesn't touch the wearer's skin, which can be more comfortable for some users. The rings measure 1.5 inches across and 2 inches across, respectively. The user is free to purchase other rings for the set to fit the desired dildo.

Since this was sure to be a long and involved review of this kit I chose to review the two dildos separately since they are also sold on the site. You can find the reviews here and here.

So, when I got the harness I was worried that it wouldn't fit my roughly 50 inch hips but the harness fits with plenty of room to spare. I was also worried that the fabric would slip around making using it impossible to use, but once again, I was proven foolish. The webbing stays put and feels amazing against naked skin.

I have to admit that I was a bit clumsy the first few times I tried using the dildo with a partner. The harness, however, made it easier to control the thing! The harness held the dildo exactly where I needed it to be for easier penetration and I was quickly able to learn the ropes, so to speak.

In the end, the guys were forced to admit that some women can, indeed, fuck as hard and as long as most men! This harness was a fun way to win a bet.

What do you do when your harness still looks brand new and all the other harness users call you a newb? You smile and tell them that it still looks new because it's quality made, that's what! Then you give them a power fucking they will never forget.