Vixen Creations crafted an excellent strap-on dildo for both beginners and experienced players alike. While the dildo could be used without a strap-on harness, it was definitely intended to be used with one. It’s a great dildo made from a quality material and they even managed to make it vibrate.

The Mistress dildo is made from 100% silicone rubber and commands a “10” on Eden’s safe materials scale. Silicone is excellent for sterilizing and is non-porous. It’s also phthalate-free, latex free, and hypo-allergenic. It can even be used for temperature play. Sticking the dildo in warm or cold water can add a new dimension to your sex play.

There is a slight silicone/rubber smell and never really goes away. It’s not overly strong and you don’t smell it unless you’re putting your nose near the toy because you’re trying to smell it. The toy really doesn’t have any unusual taste. It pretty much tastes like you would expect of silicone rubber.

The texture is smooth which makes it easier to insert the toy during anal play. Add some lube and you shouldn’t really have any problems sliding this toy in.

As you can see from the product page, this dildo is realistically shaped. The head of the toy resembles a circumcised penis which helps in finding your (or your partner’s) g-spot/prostate. Underneath the head is a ridge that runs a couple of inches down the toy. This is also a great addition for providing added pleasure during use without being too much for most users. The Mistress is designed to give you just enough sensations without being too intimidating. This dildo also has a wide, flat base that makes it O-ring compatible and ideally suited for harness play.

The Mistress dildo has a nice average size. It’s only about 1 ¼ inches in diameter and 6 ½ inches in insertable length. It’s a great size for those new to anal play as it’s not too physically intimidating, but it also works well for experienced players or those who aren’t size queens. It’s just a nice all-around size that after a little experience you probably won’t have much issue with inserting it.

The vibrations for the Mistress dildo are courtesy of a small, silver bullet. There’s just one speed to the bullet that you cycle on or off by pushing the button at the end of the vibe. You’ll probably want to coat the vibe in a little bit of lubrication before pushing it inside the dildo so it will be easier to remove when you are done playing. The bullet also has a nice cord attached to the end that makes it easier to retrieve the toy when it’s pushed inside the dildo. It doesn’t feel like the cord will last forever, but so far I haven’t broke it in a couple months of play. The bullet runs on typical watch batteries and can barely be heard when it is inside the dildo.

The dildo is pretty flexible which can be good or not as good depending on your preferences. Less experienced anal players will probably like this feature since it makes the toy more forgiving during use, but I would actually prefer a little more rigidness in a strap-on dildo. The mistress still gets the job done, though, so I’m not taking off any for its flexibility. You could use this toy without a harness and thrust it by hand, but I think the wide, flat base as well as its flexible material is best suited for harness play. A harness will make the toy easier to thrust into place.

This set is also great for shower play. I wouldn’t use it in a tub as the bullet is not waterproof and if it were submerged for long it would probably ruin the toy, but in the shower will be fine especially when using this toy with a harness. The water won’t hurt silicone and the vibe will be tucked inside the dildo with the open end against the harness. My wife and I frequently use our Mistress vibe kit in the shower and have seen no negative effects so far.

This dildo is easy to take care of since it is made of silicone. Once you take the bullet out of the dildo, you can clean it by boiling it in hot water for three minutes, throw it in the top rack of the dishwasher, use a toy cleaner, or just soap and water. There aren’t any spots that you can’t clean thoroughly. For the bullet vibe, you’ll want to use toy cleaner or a damp, soapy cloth to clean with.

Some silicone toys can melt together with other silicone toys if they are stored in contact with each other. For this reason, I would suggest keeping this toy out of contact with other silicone toys for storage. The cylinder tube this toy comes in actually makes a pretty nice storage container for the Mistress.

It’s usually a good idea to use water-based lubes with silicone toys to avoid any negative reaction between silicone lubes and silicone toys. If you prefer a silicone lube I recommend you test a small spot on the toy (perhaps on the base of the toy) to see if there are any negative reactions with your favorite lube.

The dildo and vibe both come in a plastic cylinder tube that actually makes a pretty nice storage container. Vixen recommends storing this toy upright in the container to help the toy maintain its shape.

Because the cylinder tube is clear plastic this packaging obviously isn’t hiding what’s inside. There is a brief blurb about the product and the lifetime warranty that comes with it written on the container. It also gives tips on how to clean and store the toy.

The Mistress has been a great choice for us for our first strapon dildo. It’s big enough to hit the right spots for me, but not so big that I need to warm up before pegging play. Being made of silicone is an added plus. I wish the vibrations could be felt more during anal play, but overall I’m still happy with this dildo. For our next strapon dildo we will be looking for something a little bigger and with an end that goes inside my wife during pegging play, but the Mistress was a perfect starting point so we could find out what we wanted in a strapon. I’d definitely recommend this Mistress to other pegging couples and I imagine it will still make its way in to our anal play from time to time.