Several years ago, a friend bought me a strap-on as a gift. It was my first time experimenting with a strap on and I found it to be pretty disappointing. I immediately went searching for something a little better. I purchased the Vac-u-lock system after hearing wonderful things about it and I was pleasantly surprised! I was afraid that the Vac-u-lock system would not hold on to the toy itself, but it has worked perfectly for my partner and me!

The plug allows for the toy to be taken off and cleaned very easily and the hole in the harness for the plug can be fitted with different sizes. The harness itself helps with control, as it can be hard sometimes to keep the strap on toy from falling out. I recommend a toy bigger than what you might feel you need, because there is no hard and fast rule about actually using the entire length. A longer sized toy allows for more movement and more thrusting, while a shorter toy may fall out of your partner during sex. The harness is strong and, if worn tight, really does allow for lots of different positions and movement. The straps of the harness can be a bit abrasive if worn too tight, though.

I am generally on the receiving end of this toy, but my partner has no complaints about the comfort of the harness itself, though she has said that the straps can be a bit uncomfortable sometimes, and particularly if worn too tightly or for too long. The customization of this harness is what makes it so wonderful. Although it may be a hassle to re-size constantly if you're sharing with someone who is sized quite a bit differently than you are. The wide front panel allows your partner to really control where the strap on goes and how it works. The fact you can use different toys on the plug is a great selling point! We even bought a vibrating Vac-u-lock toy to wear with it and it's been pretty amazing.

My only complaint about this toy is that the position doesn't actually do much for my partner. I had read before that some toys will actually pleasure the wearing partner by stimulating with pressure. This toy doesn't quite do that. You may get some pleasure from trusting, but not enough. You can always purchase something like a remote control vibrating egg or even a pair of vibrating panties for the partner wearing the strap on! It is also crotchless, so you can easily please your partner that way while using it!

I also recommend that the wearer of the strap on keep their hand near the toy when engaged in activity. Having your hand near the shaft or at the base will allow the wearer to make sure the toy remains inside your partner. It also makes sure that you aren't going to deep or not deep enough. It should be noted that you can't tell how hard or how deep you're going while using a strap-on, so good communication is key! Don't get discouraged if you can't keep it in at first. You'll eventually learn how to maneuver the toy and trust the harness. You can always lessen your thrusting movements if you're having a problem and try different positions!

We really do love this toy and we love all the additions you can get for it. My partner and I have very different ideas of what makes a good toy and its great that we can just change out depending on our preferences!

This is still our favorite harness, though we have several. It is the most comfortable and is very easy to use. We've branched out into other vac-u-lock toys, which is a lot of fun!