You can use this on your girlfriend (for those of us who like women) or you can use it on your boyfriend (if he lets you . . .). You can use the dildo by itself, but that isn't much fun. You can wear this at a play party if you are into that kind of thing too.

I myself would most definitely wear this at one of the parties that I attend, and I know everyone would be offering to let me give it a test run.

If you wanted to try a gender switch, you could put this on under your clothes, but you may have to find a more flexible dildo as this one would really stick out in a crowd.

I just received this harness. While I don't normally like to use harnesses because they never fit me, this one does and is very adjustable. The nylon used is comfortable and not scratchy, which is important if you are bigger. The material covering the pubic area is comfortable and doesn't get tacky (with sweat at least). I have seen some harnesses with material that is stiff and gets very sticky and uncomfortable, but this one really is placed in the perfect spot.

I love the nylon straps. They are sturdy and will not fray easily. It's not too stiff, but it's not flimsy by any stretch of the imagination. The plastic buckles are small enough to not be uncomfortable but sturdy enough to last. The snaps for the O-ring are easy to use and cause no sticking or slippage. The pink lamé is a bit crinkly, but that doesn't detract from the overall craftsmanship of the product. I love the shape of the pad . . . heart shaped. How could you go wrong for style? It only adds to the prettiness of the harness.

I am a plus-size woman, and normally I have a good deal of trouble finding something that fits me. This is not the case with this harness. With the buckle slides, you can adjust the length of nylon strapping so that you get the perfect fit every time. The nylon doesn't chafe against my skin, which is why I have always shied away from purchasing anything like this before. I have only owned one other nylon strap product that didn't cause any chafing. I would so recommend big girls to get this because you won't regret it.

While I think that the dildo is small for my taste, the fact that you can interchange dildos anytime you want only makes me like this even more. If the dildo had been the only one available to be used, then I sure would be very sorely disappointed. The fact that the harness is so adjustable only makes me like this product so much. My weight fluctuates, like most women's, and this harness is going to be great no matter what my body shape does.

Personally I have only one criticism for this product. I wish the maker had provided a velvet bag to use for storage. Not including one makes me wonder how I am going to discreetly store my toy. As far as maintenance goes, I wash the harness by hand. I would suggest air drying. I don't believe that this product is going to need to be washed all that often since I can't really imagine how dirty it could really get. For each use between washings, spray with a little rubbing alcohol and air dry. As for the dildo, use rubbing alcohol to sanitize it, but you can also use just regular soap and water.

The product came in a very beautiful box with a very sexy, large-sized lady---great eye candy for an aficionado of women's bodies. Its compact box is great too; it's not too much trash for those eco-friendly people.

The harness and dildo are bagged in separate plastic baggies.