This is my very first harness. I've never had any prior experience with a harness, but when I saw it, I knew that I had to have it. Not only because it's pretty but because I had a feeling it would be a great one. Now, I am not an anal player, so I only use this harness for vaginal penetration between my girlfriend and myself, though I can see where this may be good for pegging.

The dildo in this kit is made of 100% silicone. It's a brilliant pearly purple and is definitely a jewel for the eye. I was pleased that there was no noticeable smell when I took this out of the package. While there is a slight drag on the dildo, a little bit of lube or natural lubrication can fix this up right away. The dildo is a bit in between the soft and firm department. It's flexible, and when in use in the harness, I feel that it may be a little bit too flimsy. However, I really am thinking that this is more the fault of the O-ring than the dildo or harness itself.

The harness is made of purple crushed velvet and what I can assume is some sort of polyester nylon for the straps? I looked around and couldn't find much information on this bit of it. However, it is hypoallergenic.

The harness also comes with a small bullet, complete with batteries. It's a very powerful bullet and I actually did not use it in the strap-on and probably won't. It feels a little awkward sitting against my pubic bone. I do love using it for solo, though.

I love the way this strap-on is made. It's very pretty and comfortable. Not to mention, the dildo is very pretty and the flame design carved into it provides some phenomenal sensations whether you are using it in the harness, as a tool during partner sex, or solo.

I think that the harness is made well-enough. It has its flaws, just like I'm sure everything else does. It is adjustable, and very easy to adjust at that. The only real issue I came across while using this (which at the time of writing this review was only once) was that the O-ring almost seems as if it is too big for the flame dildo that the kit comes with. The dildo kept slipping out as I tried to thrust. Though, I think that the O-ring would be compatible with toys that are just a little larger.

This is very easy to fit to your own body. It says that it can fit hips up to 50". It wasn't until I got this harness that I realized exactly how large my hips are, and I've never considered myself to be a bigger girl, ever. It was very easy to trim the extra length of straps to make it easy to fit to me. My girlfriend is smaller than I am, but she too found it pretty easy to fit to herself as well. I wear a size 12 in pants, and she is closer to a 6 or 8. I think that this would probably easily fit someone up to a size 14, but much larger and I think it might come up a little short.

However, how this fit was very comfortable and I didn't feel like the straps were coming loose or like they were cutting off circulation. The way that the harness itself sat right at my crotch made it feel much more comfortable and natural. At first it took a little getting used to, but I really think that was due to the fact that this was my first experience with a strap-on.

I found this while viewing the product information directly from the Tantus website and found that it is very good advice and wanted to share it:

When playing with a harness you need to pull it flush against your pelvis for stability and to help you drive the dildo. Your bodies center of gravity will be changed when you wear a harness and dildo. Tantus recommends you wear it around for a little while to get used to the weight before you use it intimately.

Considering that this is meant to be used for strap-on sex, I was slightly disappointed. I'm putting the blame on the O-ring and the fact that it was my first time using it. I really do want to continue to try because I'm determined to make this work. For my first time, it didn't work the way that I was expecting, but it was comfortable, easy to adjust, easy to take on and off (minus a few little hiccups of trying to put it on in the dark).

Securing the dildo in the harness is actually very easy whether or not the harness is on or off you. It slips in very easily and stays well enough, at least when not in use. Again, though, I plan on trying this more and more to see if this is a fault of the harness or a fault of the user (me).

The bullet that comes with it fits comfortable within its little pocket until it comes to actually using it. I found that it sat a little uncomfortably against me when in action. However, it's definitely one of the best little solo toys that I own. I love clit play during solo and the bullet that comes with this harness is definitely boss for that.

Cleaning off the dildo is very, very simple. Just use your own method of cleaning silicone toys. You can boil it, put it in the dishwasher, use warm water and soap, or use a toy cleaner and let air dry or wipe dry.

I had also e-mailed Tantus to ask exactly how to care for just the harness. I know how to keep my toys clean, but the harness itself was a different story. I got a reply back and this is what they told me:

The harness itself is machine washable. The materials are mostly polyester and nylon, so a wash on the delicate cycle in a cold-to-warm wash works well, and it dries quickly with hang-drying. Please remember to remove the vibe from its pocket before throwing the harness in the machine!

Good to know that I could just toss the harness into the washer and be done with it! :D

The packaging of this toy is not discreet at all. It comes in a clear box with both toy and harness prominently on display. It's been over a month since I got the package, and I really cannot recall if there were any instructions on the box or not. I don't recall any, but I could be wrong.

This was the first time that I used this harness, and first time that I have used a harness period. I was disappointed that the dildo didn't seem to want to stay in place. I did struggle to get this thing on in the dark, but I may have been slightly tipsy and it was dark, so I'm really thinking any issues I came across while using this were user errors.

However, when it kept slipping out, I just decided to take it by the hand and use it anyway on my lady. I don't think I've ever seen her move that way or heard her scream that way before. I was VERY satisfied with the results of using the dildo on her. I've used it on myself as well (and yes, I do keep it clean!) and was very satisfied as well.

The dildo was pleasing. The harness not quite as much, but I'm willing to give it another few shots before writing the harness off altogether.