I'm a girl who is typically away from my partner (sometimes for months at a time). And so, I have developed differing ways of pleasuring myself, by myself. For a while, I had fantasized about bondage play, but it seemed I'd be waiting for months in order to play with my partner. Finally, I decided to order the Kitty Kat Mask with Whip|Kitty Kat mask with whip and find a way to lovingly discipline myself in private. I wasn't sure if I could do it, but the results were wonderful. For those of you who wish to feel the gentle crack of a whip on your hot flesh (but you don't have a partner or he or she is away) here's how! Nowhere in the rulebook of pleasure does it say "partner necessary for bondage." So, let's liberate ourselves and have some fun the naughty way.

The first thing I noticed about the Kitty Kat Mask with Whip was its softness. The mask is surprisingly flexible and feather light. A typical Halloween mask it is not. I actually enjoyed wearing it! The fabric nuzzled my skin without any hint of tightness or discomfort. One look in the mirror was transforming. While I have to admit that I felt a little silly, I was able to play out my fantasys (in front of a mirror) because the mask provided me with a sense of hiding (so to speak). In essence, I was free to do whatever I wanted, because as soon as the mask came off, I was the sweet woman I always was, but when put back on, I was transformed into my darkest hottest fantasys.

The whip was unintimidating, which was a plus since I am new to bondage play|Bondage & Fetish. The handle, covered in soft faux leopard fur, is quite slender. So small, in fact, that holding it within the palm of the hand is quite impossible. Instead, a firm grip with the fingers is necessary. Upon squeezing the handle, I found that it only consisted of the ends of the leather whips and the fabric which bound them; meaning this whip will not hurt, because it cannot be applied with much force. Will it provide a nice sting? Yes. Will it take your skin off or leave welts? No. The tails themselves are made from synthetic soft leather and measure slightly over a foot in length. Fourteen tails in all, this toy provides a nice sting without after-effects.

I quickly slipped on the mask and promised myself that I was my own dominator. While running the whip over my body I was overcome with light tickles. Then came the real test, could I whip myself? I leaned over my bed, exposing my butt, and let the whip crack, hard. The whip left a pleasurable stinging on my flesh, a wonderful pain (I didn't know pain could be wonderful, but in this case it is) that heightened my arousal. Yet, I knew that I couldn't fondle myself while over the bed, so I laid down on my side. I ran the whip over my breasts, watching myself in the mirror. Then, I just let it go on my butt while fingering my clit. After about ten cracks of the whip I was almost over the top, but allowed myself a little cool down, then it was back to business. Without warning, I hurled myself into a screaming orgasm which felt oh so liberating.

Cleaning was a breeze. I had added some warming lube to my butt, so I simply wiped the whip clean and that was that. No mess, no fuss. Then I just stored the whip and mask away in my toy box (there is a loop to hang the whip by).

So, how exactly do you become your own dominator? First, tell yourself that you will do whatever a second party dominator would do to you. Then, lube yourself up with arousing lube (i.e. butt area) and run the whips over your entire body, watching yourself in the mirror. Without warning, let it crack on your butt and finger your clit or pump your penis. Do that a few times, and you're at your own tantalizing mercy. What's your fantasy? It's time to live it out. You're the only one who will know, so let your darkest secrets reveal themselves to you, and you alone.

I wanted to touch upon the small handle of this whip and its use by individuals who may have a hard time grasping smaller objects. I have found that wrapping a washcloth around the handle works wonders for better gripping ability. I take a washcloth and fold it in half before laying the whip handle on the edge of the washcloth. Then, I simply role the washcloth around the handle, creating a grip which is three times the size of the original. With a better grip, I am also able to apply more force if I wish, which heightens arousal and fun.