I'm not a big BDSM enthusiast; in fact, I'm pretty vanilla. Headgear isn't worn in my bedroom, I don't walk my husband around on a leash, and I've never been subjected to needle play. All in all, I'm fairly timid, though lately I've been getting more and more curious about all sorts of kinky things that were once out of my comfort zone.

About a month ago, I purchased some love bonds and tied up my husband. In the past he would have said no, but we're starting to expand our horizons. It wasn't hard to persuade him with the premise of me straddling him while he's hopelessly tied up to our bed! After that night, I looked more into restraints, floggers, and whips. When I saw the Vibrawhip 9 tail, I knew it was something special and it really appealed to an S&M nervous novice like me!

When it arrived, it was a little smaller than I expected. The shaft of the flogging toy is only around 9" long and feels like it could snap with one really hard hit. The handle is around 5" and covered in a very soft & supple material which feels nice when you're gripping it firmly. It's highly pleasing to the eye being purple and black and it just screams "bad girl!" The cat tails are made of rough leather and they're 14" which seems to be the perfect length for a good thrashing. I was more than excited to try it out!

I pleaded with my husband, well, more like begged for him to let me try it. After a few drinks and some award winning fellatio on my part, he finally agreed, and away we went. The vibrations are surprisingly strong and deep, about 75% of them are in the handle and the rest trickle down the tails. The best part was when I was teasing them over his thighs and he could feel the vibrations in the very tips. He said that it felt great and highly erotic, like a dozen little fingertips brushing over his skin. We started out very mild but soon had a repertoire of a few good stinging whacks going in no time at all.

That night I was on both the giving and the receiving end of the whip. When the tails are being dipped over your skin it really tickles. I particularly enjoyed the feeling of the pulsing hard leather tips brushing over my nipples. When the night came to a close, I had little red marks all over my body, and I'm sure if he wasn't so gentle they would have been welts. While the tail causes discomfort and sometimes pain, the handle of the whip can be used as a massager to soothe your aches.

This is a fantastic sex toy; it's unique, fun, and sexy. I don't plan on stashing this away in my sex toy drawer... I'm leaving this out because it's just too pretty to be hidden!

So in my secret life I'm a web Domme. For almost 3 years now I've been an online Mistress and there are days I still feel like a noob. Now, I've never personally been involved within the local BDSM community but online I reign supreme among those who know me.

I want to say right now that my husband and I classify ourselves as "vanilla" and fairly "conservative," and we are. Within our marital bed we've only brought in rougher toys every now and then, nothing beyond "beginner BDSM." I don't really care for a thrashing but I do enjoy a good spanking|Spanking and Flogging. Usually we'll tie each other up with leather love bonds, sometimes I'll wear a mask, and occasionally we'll include the Vibrawhip or a paddle. Outside of our marriage I do not like to receive physical pain and while I have never physically inflicted physical pain on someone else, I get off on the idea of doing so.

What I do is not really real, it's fluff. I'm more of an actress indulging in the adult industry, but I love it. I love using text or my webcam to help others seek and fulfill their sexual and fetish fantasies|BDSM and fetish fantasies. My husband loves what I do too because not only is it empowering but it's a paycheck, lol.

The Vibrawhip has been used in MANY, MANY, MANY online "sessions." It's a beautiful toy and I include it as often as I can. When it came, I planned on keeping it on my bedroom dresser but it actually stays out on my office desk. Not only is it beautiful, but it's functional. I don't know how many times I've hit it against the desk. I love the leather "crack" sound I get when the tails hit the wood and those who are listening in always do as well. After 7 months the handle is still going strong. I was almost certain when it came that it might splinter if I hit it too hard, but after all the abuse it's taken from me it's really held its own.

The vibrations are a dream, the fact that this can vibrate sets it apart from other whips. It adds a whole new element when you think of "instruments of torture" but the Vibrawhip almost always comes across as an "instrument of pleasure." IRL, it will always have a place in my bedroom. While it's more for tickling or foreplay, there has been the occasion where I've been worked up enough to request it hard (but not too hard). There are really no extremes with us as a couple but as I explore this great big sexual world around me I've become more enlightened to the possibility of pain= pleasure.