First off I have to say I was never a backdoor girl whatsoever! I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years, married for 15, and he has been a very persistent, yet not overbearing, man when it comes to anal sex. He has always wanted to try however; I could just never get past the typical stigma, fear, and anxiety over the whole topic. On a very rare occasion I would let him try a finger and that usually ended quickly and the topic would not come up again for several months. He would ask for anal play on himself once in a while which I have no issues with and only want to make him feel great. In fact I always found penetrating him to be exciting and very naughty.

Being intimidated by probes and plugs himself, my hubby ordered up a Silicone slims Self Satisfier for “his own use” which I felt was harmless enough and figured he deserved the fun. When it showed up I was impressed that it was reasonably small and not so overbearing. I'm sorry however; most anal toys I had seen were just downright intimidating! California Exotics made the Self Satisfier “cute” in a way that anal beginners like me actually say to ourselves “I still don't think I will enjoy it but this one might not hurt so much..” It is made of high quality silicone and does not carry the offensive odors that some of the jelly material toys have. It's about 2 inches long and only about 1 inch in diameter and it necks down to a small area before the flat base. On the insert able part it has a series or raised rings which are small but are enough to “get your attention” while inserting or removing. The base has some small bumps on it with a slight dome on one end which looks like it might have been an attempt by the designers to make a clit stimulator. I had to try it out in the “conventional manner” and sorry to say but the clit simulator part was not long enough for me. The control box is at the end of a 20 something inch wire and has a subtle dial control which stays nicely where you set it. Install two AA batteries and you're off! The battery cover is also captive to the control box which means it doesn't fall off and get lost in the toy chest or while rattling around in your luggage. It has strong vibrations and is surprisingly quiet.

I decided to be a good sport and surprise my husband by actually asking him if I could try out his new butt toy as long as I didn't have to make any guarantees of success. He was astonished I would ever ask and eagerly helped to get me in the mood any way possible. Now even though we are beginners at anal sex we are very accustom to sex toys so we picked a good water-based lube which is most compatible with the Silicone slims material. He started by lubing up my butt hole and the Slim and holding it against the soft tissue of my ass with the vibe on high. It felt nice. Once he saw I was receptive he started to gently move it in at out being careful not to penetrate me completely. This felt really nice. Next thing I knew it was in and buzzing away. This felt great! This was my first enjoyable anal experience ever. The necked down area between the base and vibe area fits snuggly in place and stimulates my anus which apparently does have very sensitive nerve endings. Removing is no problem either by simply grasping the base between thumb and forefinger and removing gently. I did that part myself to make sure I experienced no discomfort.

“My” Silicone slims cleans up nicely with anti-bacterial soap and water. Condoms are recommended if you want to make the process quick and simple. This is a great price for a great product. Although my experience and rating is purely from a beginners viewpoint, if all goes well I hope to publish a follow-up review after I gain more confidence and experience. I might even let my husband try it and let you all know of his experiences. After all it is “his toy.”

Well a few weeks in use and we have become insanely involved in anal play! Yes, I thought this would never happen to me.. (blush) We actually bought a second Silicone Slims so each of us can enjoy them simultaneously. We tied a knot in the wire on my husband's so we don't mix them up. Eden Fantasys had them on sale for $14.99 last week and it could not be passed up! Overall these stay in place very nice for each of us. The speed control box cords are sometimes an inconvenience so we are staring to investigate other anal toys. Still no success with "conventional" anal sex. Perhaps practicing with a slightly larger toy will help. At least now I'm not hesitant to engage in anal play and I enjoy the stimulation.