When I ordered the Men's Pleasure Wand XL, the only available color was gray. I’d never had a battleship gray sex toy before, so let’s just say I wasn’t particularly excited by its appearance the first time I used it.

Nonetheless, given the toy’s unique shape I expected it to launch me into a whole other world of pleasure. However, I soon found that it lacked a simple item that’s unfortunately lacking from every male anal sex toy I’ve tried; detailed instructions on how to find and stimulate the prostate.

I literally spent hours and gobs of lube until just about every body part involved was sore, but all I ever felt was like I had, well, something unnatural stuck up there. I turned the vibrator on and up to the full setting with no real change in the sensation.

Not willing to give up just yet, I went on the Internet and tried to find articles that could help me out. A couple of diagrams seemed to point me in the right direction, but again I never really felt anything particularly enjoyable. It wasn’t painful, either; it just felt like I had something inserted into my butt.

I asked my wife to try stimulating me with the toy while I pleasured myself. Unfortunately, at that point the whole ordeal did turn painful, as unable to tell her exactly where to place the item or thrust she hit something that forced a sound akin to our dog’s yelp from me.

Not only was the anal part disappointing, I found the scrotum massager to be a bit gimmicky. It didn’t really seem to stimulate anything, and I think it would work a lot better if there were a vibrating motor in that part, too. As if to add insult to injury, my wife tried to move that part only to have it slip out of her lubed-up fingers; we had to take a few minutes off while I recovered and gathered my pride back.

I will say that the toy is made of a very smooth, soft silicone-like material that's easy to insert into the anus and clean (we have a Feeldoe and the pleasure wand is just as smooth and cleans up just as easily, despite it's much lower price). I've also found that it's easy to get rid of odors that sometime accompany anal play.

Nonetheless, this toy has spent the rest of its time with us in a shoebox in the closet. I think it really turned me off to anal play altogether, which I suspect is about the most telling thing about it I can say.