The Big Flirt|Anal Plugs: Big flirt butt plug by Tantus was my first introduction to the world of purpose-built anal toys, and I highly recommend it (or its smaller cousin Little Flirt|Anal Plugs: Little flirt Butt plug by Tantus) for those interested in anal play.

The smooth undulations of the Big Flirt beg “sit on me”, and the small starting diameter (about the width of a finger) combined with the gradual size increase inspires confidence that you can get started without discomfort – and your confidence is well rewarded by this plug. The upper portion (about 1.5 inches in length) stays around ¾ of an inch in diameter, but has enough of a wave to give you some stimulation while you're warming up. This toy doesn't disappoint when you get it all inside, either – the 1.5” diameter bulge was perfectly positioned at my prostate, giving it a nice bump as the Big Flirt slid home, my anus coming to rest around the 1” neck. The gradual size changes mean that the Flirt is suitable for thrusting activities, so you can enjoy that delicious bump over and over if you want, while the wide neck makes the Big Flirt an excellent way to warm up for further anal action.

The downside of the Big Flirt is its tendency to slip out. The wide neck and gradual flare that make the Flirt so nice to ride also makes it harder for your bum to get a grip on the plug to hold it in hands-free, especially while walking. You'll definitely need to be ready with a hand or something else to assist your sphincter when it starts to slip if you're doing other activities. I haven't tried using the Big Flirt while having intercourse, but some “dry runs” indicated it would probably slip out unless held in. As I want to be able to give my partner attention with both hands instead of using one to hold the Flirt in, I'd definitely want to investigate either a plug harness or a sex position where I could have my butt against the bed if I were to wear the Flirt during sex. Alternatively, your partner could help hold it in – the big base makes it easy to grab and wiggle the plug for more stimulation.

All is not lost-most definitely not! This is a great toy to use during more sedate activities, especially while lying down or sitting. One of my favorite ways to use the Big Flirt is while sitting, since the substantial base is big enough to rest against your chair and keep the Flirt stationary, ensuring that the inside of your neither regions (including the prostate in men) are stimulated and caressed with every squirm and fidget, even while your hands are otherwise occupied. A good way to add some spice to your life while filling out bills, but pretty much guaranteed to lead to attention problems as you start writhing and thinking about other things than how much you owe the power company. But hey- they can wait a bit, can't they?