More and more I am realising that I am identifying as one of the people who likes to walk the fine line between pleasure and pain. But generally I think of myself as more of a sensual connoisseur. A gentle touch, an unexpected sting, focussed scratching, a firm pinch... and a patter of hot wax. I’m a fairly new player by many people’s standards, I imagine. If you are not someone who is wired to get a kick out of pain, you’ll probably wonder what all the fuss is about and you might even be too sensitive to handle the brief sting. But then again you might never suspect that you are wired with this handy little pleasure mechanism until you try. Candles can be messy BUT it’s a completely different experience to other forms of pain such as paddles whips and clamps. I find its thrilling and beautiful. It’s also slightly phallic when you think about it.

The candles themselves are small column style candles with a tapered tip.

I did not see any directions in the box when the candles eventually came out to play, so I’m doubting there were any. There are some safety considerations and rules of conduct to follow when using wax candles. I was once the willing recipient of very pleasant wax play and found it was a great experience. Unfortunately I found it was difficult to replicate a good experience for my current boyfriend. I have had to learn from my mistakes and it’s time to share some solutions with you.

1. A towel or something to cover the bedsheets is probably a good idea just incase the wax doesn’t fall where it’s supposed to.
2. Keep some water and towels handy incase you or your partner is burned or scalded. It probably will not constitute an emergency, but it could be very uncomfortable.
3. Test the temperature of the wax on yourself first. It’s polite and you are prepared for it.
4. It is important to make sure there are no oils or lotions on the skin prior to wax play. Being the lovely yet unthinking girl I am, I gave my boyfriend a very sensual oil massage followed by a very uncomfortable experience with a single drop of wax. L
5. Start on your partners more tough skin areas such as arms and legs, and let them decide whether they want you to go to more sensitive areas on the trunk of the body. People might have different skin sensitivities so don’t assume anything.
6. I think that the higher up the candle is held away from the body the less the wax is going to burn the skin. However according to some players on other websites it doesn’t make a huge difference. Just don’t flame your partner.

I can’t guarantee knowing everything, but thinking about these things first will take you further than I did.

The cooled wax crumbled slightly when lifted from the skin but did not seem to leave a residue.

Although I haven’t tried these particular candles on my back yet, it was still a thrill to test the candles on the back of my arms and the front of my thighs and I felt mostly pleasure with very little pain. However wax on the inside of my arm really hurt. I have been trying to experiment with the shape of the candle to see if that makes a difference, but I’m waiting on my liberator throe to come through the post before I drip any more wax on my newly cleaned sheets.

If you keep your bed covered and attempt to stick with the thicker skin (at least to begin with), wax play has the potential to be very rewarding, but I think it requires an art and science. I am still learning but I am going to have fun while I do it...there is a wealth of information on the net about wax play. And if you decide that wax play isn’t for you, then you have four very good quality candles that could be used on birthday cakes, or during blackouts! These are the first hot wax candles I have tried that are specifically made for the use on the body. Even though the wax was uncomfortable on sensitive areas it is still better to buy candles that are designed for this purpose as many non designated candles have a potential to be dangerously hotter. Birthday candles and those containing beeswax are apparently common culprits.