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Would you use a pre-owned toy?

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Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Incendiaire
Assuming the item in question was made entirely of a material that could be completely sterilised, and it had been boiled / bleached / irradiated with gamma waves, so it was completely clean and free from bacteria and odours, and the only ick factor ... more
MAYBE glass or silicone that can be completely sterilized. And I'd do it like 3 times before it came near me. But I just don't know...
03/03/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
From a family member O_o
03/03/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
if it came from a personal I was already sexually active with but other than that no.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Kush Kush
Noop.
03/04/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Um theres no way id do this lol
03/04/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I wouldn't. It may be sterilized, but it would still gross me out. Unless from a partner, of course.
03/04/2012
Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Incendiaire
Assuming the item in question was made entirely of a material that could be completely sterilised, and it had been boiled / bleached / irradiated with gamma waves, so it was completely clean and free from bacteria and odours, and the only ick factor ... more
If its completely sterile, yes, from someone that I know VERY well.
03/04/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
never. it has to be a new toy.
03/04/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
No, I don't think I would.
03/05/2012
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
Yeah, but only if it belonged to a partner or someone SUUUUPER close to me. A stranger or someone not as close would still ick me out, even if it was sterilized!
03/06/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
No, I would not want to.
03/07/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Nope, I don't think I would.
03/07/2012
Contributor: AzealiaB AzealiaB
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Viral diseases, mostly. Technically, everything on Earth is porous, even silicone. The pores on silicone and other "non-porous" materials, however, are too small for the average bacterium to enter into. Many viruses, on the other hand, are ... more
Viruses can get into pores, yes, but if you boiled the toy, the pores and anything inside them would be sufficiently heated to be destroyed.
03/07/2012
Contributor: Jenimi Jenimi
no nope nadda never, sorry but this is were i would draw the line, i'm all for reduce reuse and recycle but NO
03/08/2012
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
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Originally posted by AzealiaB
Viruses can get into pores, yes, but if you boiled the toy, the pores and anything inside them would be sufficiently heated to be destroyed.
Yeah, the "pores" on silicone aren't the issue. If heat can take care of it, it'll "die" whether it's on the surface or in the pores.

The real risk is viruses like Hepatitis C, which can withstand both heat and bleach. But here's the thing: Our salons don't sterilize for Hep C (think clippers and razors), and the restaurants we eat at don't sterilize for Hep C (think utensils you put in your mouth). Better yet, most folks have Hep C for YEARS before they have any symptoms, so you're technically "at risk" when you have sex with anyone ever, kiss anyone, share drinks, etc.

Really tough viruses are pretty much always a "risk," so using someone else's sterilizable toy isn't more risky than... existing, really. (But using a toy that you can't soak in beach solution or boil is more risky, for obvious reasons.)

That said, I'm just being pedantic. I totally understand the ick factor many folks mentioned! Getting a discount on a used toy obviously isn't worth it if you're not comfortable with the idea or perceived risks.
03/08/2012
Contributor: FruityCloud FruityCloud
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Originally posted by underHim
I wouldnt be able to get over my own personal ick factor of it being in someone else.
Agreed. Unless it was only used by my boyfriend.
03/10/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Incendiaire
Assuming the item in question was made entirely of a material that could be completely sterilised, and it had been boiled / bleached / irradiated with gamma waves, so it was completely clean and free from bacteria and odours, and the only ick factor ... more
nope, I don't use used toys. Not even if I can sterilize it.
03/10/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
I wouldn't be comfortable using anything that is second-hand. Some things just need to personal. Like tooth brushes and sex toys.
03/10/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I don't think I would. Maybe a paddle or a flogger, but not something that goes inside the body.
03/25/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
My lover and I share our glass and silicone toys.
03/25/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
Yes, if it belonged to my partner, but no one else.
03/25/2012
Contributor: GS500 GS500
Quote:
Originally posted by Positwist
Yeah, the "pores" on silicone aren't the issue. If heat can take care of it, it'll "die" whether it's on the surface or in the pores.

The real risk is viruses like Hepatitis C, which can withstand both heat and ... more
good reply, thanks!
03/25/2012
Contributor: Kithara Kithara
I bought a silicone toy that was preused and just boiled it for a good length of time. I definitely wouldn't buy something that I couldn't clean 100% of it by myself.
03/25/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
No, that's weird and unsanitary.
03/29/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
I have no problem sharing with my wife of more than 25 years. Even then, only the safest materials, silicone, glass, etc. We go to great lengths to sterilze - even something as 'curable' as a bacterial infection is no fun. Nobody else though. It simply isn't worth the risk. Think about it. Even luxury toys barely cost more than a tank of gas. Certainly less than a doctor visit. Is it worth risking your life and possibly a lover's? Granted, I came of age during the time when HIV was a guaranteed death sentence. Though things have changed, there is still no cure, and even the new drugs don't work for everyone. Just about all the STDs out there are going to change your life forever, along with anyone you pass them along to. Think also about all the bleach commercials. There are always 3 or 4 germs left after they clean something. Why? Because even Chlorox knows bleach doesn't kill 100% of the bugs.

When I do a risk assessment, the small financial gain to be had is nowhere close to justifying the possible consequences. I love a bargain as much as anyone else; I simply believe sex toys aren't the place to penny pinch.
03/30/2012
Contributor: michael scofield michael scofield
i had a fuck my face masturbator that i sold on ebay. i used it several times
05/03/2012
Contributor: powerandintent powerandintent
If it belonged to my partner, yes. Not like we haven't shared everything else.
05/03/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I don't have much of a logical reason for saying no to any used sterilized toy, I wish I did, because really there's nothing wrong with them if they're totally clean. Something still squicks me out a bit though. Me and my partner share, that I don't mind at all.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
Quote:
Originally posted by Incendiaire
Assuming the item in question was made entirely of a material that could be completely sterilised, and it had been boiled / bleached / irradiated with gamma waves, so it was completely clean and free from bacteria and odours, and the only ick factor ... more
The idea as a whole grosses me out a little, but I'm not sure why if it can be completely cleaned.
05/03/2012
Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
I personally wouldn't but to each their own.
05/04/2012