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In an old interview with Eden Fantasys founder Fred Petrenko he says that he doesn't see sex toys as educational, but that's actually my primary experience with them. I've always been uncomfortable with the notion of discovering your body
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In an old interview with Eden Fantasys founder Fred Petrenko he says that he doesn't see sex toys as educational, but that's actually my primary experience with them. I've always been uncomfortable with the notion of discovering your body with a partner, especially with someone who is more experienced and set on "molding" or "training" their partner to satisfy their desires. Sex toys are a safe, comfortable way to help you understand your body in your own time.
Did anyone else use sex toys as educational tools before getting comfortable with partners?
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I think it depends on what you mean by educational.
And it depends on what sort of toys you're using.
Personally, I do not find vibrators educational in terms of finding out what you like/ "knowing your body" because no person will ever be able to replicate that feeling. It's sexual, satisfying and useful, but independent.
certain types of dildos and penetration devices could definitely be educational. However, I still don't feel it's as educational as "discovering yourself with a partner." If your partner is open and supportive and wants you to truly discover your body, they will not try and "mold" you any more than you will try and get them to do just what you want and like. The best way to learn what you like with sex is to have sex, imo. I don't like to be fucked in the same way I like to be fingered.
But as a "i'm going to get comfortable with sexual feelings and my body independent of someone regardless of whether it's really relevant to how sex will actually play out" sort of way, then yes. They're very helpful.