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Sex Fact: Sex Toy Use as a Couple

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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
While sex toys can seem like a solo thing, sex toys can also be used with a partner. Like Tristan Taormino says in her book, one of the most common complaints that she hears is that there isn't enough foreplay before intercourse.

Tristan mentions using sex toys as a way to speed up the foreplay process by using dildos, vibrators, and other items. She mentions that using a dildo before intercourse can even help make things more comfortable if you have a well-endowed partner.

She mentions that sex toys allow you to have an extra set of hands in the bedroom as you could insert an anal toy during other play or when a position keeps you out of arm's reach, the vibrator can be the stand-in. Plus, for long-term couples, toys can give a boost to your sex life by providing something new!

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Do you use toys as foreplay? What about using them during intercourse? What other ways have you used toys as a couple?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I use sex toys as foreplay.
100
I use sex toys during intercourse.
96
I use sex toys together with a partner.
117
I use sex toys solo.
102
Total votes: 415 (140 voters)
Poll is closed
09/12/2011
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Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Everything single one of those. And there's never a bad time for using a sex toy. Except maybe when you're at work or something
09/12/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
While sex toys can seem like a solo thing, sex toys can also be used with a partner. Like Tristan Taormino says in her book, one of the most common complaints that she hears is that there isn't enough foreplay before intercourse.

Tristan ... more
We both use toys all four ways mentioned.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
All of them. My partner says "toys make his job easier". Even though we use toys together, I usually have to be the driver for toys that are inserted into my vagina, I find it uncomfortable when he thrusts with a rigid toy and using an internal vibe, I just catch the pleasure spots better.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
My wife and I love using toys with each other. We don't always use them, I'd say probably about half of our sessions include a toy of some kind. We love it!
09/12/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
All of the above!
09/12/2011
Contributor: Ash1141 Ash1141
I use sex toys with all of the above.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I use them mostly for solo but will use some vibes during sex. If I use my toys for foreplay, it is likely going to be used in a mutual masturbation session then for PIV sex.

My guy is still clueless about foreplay. When he wants sex, he wants it now and foreplay is not part of his repertoire, lol....but I'm working on it.

My toys are growing more and more on my guy, which I am super happy about, but there is still some work to do.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
Another "all of the above" sex toy user.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Definitely all of the above.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
All of the above. I much rather use my toys with my hubby rather than solo.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Currently single, so I only use them solo, but I'd love to find someone who'd enjoy using sex toys together and join the "all of the above" club!
09/12/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
All of the above.
09/12/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I do all of them, depending on the situation. Sometimes we're just way too excited to think about opening up the ol' sex toy box, but other times things are most leisurely and drawn out. Depends on the mood!
09/13/2011
Contributor: ninaspinkturtle ninaspinkturtle
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
While sex toys can seem like a solo thing, sex toys can also be used with a partner. Like Tristan Taormino says in her book, one of the most common complaints that she hears is that there isn't enough foreplay before intercourse.

Tristan ... more
all of the above
09/13/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
My partner is not the kind of man to skimp on forplay. Seriously in the 5 years we've been together, we've never skipped forplay anymore than maybe 10 times! That's stretching it too. He always insists on forplay until I just can't hold off any longer. Lol. I ain't complainin' though! I rarely use my toys alone. He usually uses them on me as forplay. It's usually oral for 45 minutes to an hour (sometimes longer!) and then we go for a toy and then sex. I don't usually care for toys during sex since I'm too busy with enjoying that part alone. I don't know what I'd do if we didn't use my toys as a couple.
09/13/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We use toys in every situation you mentioned, but not every time we play. We also use them A LOT more often together than solo.
09/13/2011
Contributor: aimtoplease aimtoplease
ALL of them
09/13/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I did not have sex toys when I had a partner present, but I use toys with my cyber-partner, and when we meet, we intend to continue using toys with each other.
09/13/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
ALL OF THE ABOVE! Though, my current partner and I haven't used them much.
09/13/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
ALL OF THE ABOVE! Though, my current partner and I haven't used them much.
09/13/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
While sex toys can seem like a solo thing, sex toys can also be used with a partner. Like Tristan Taormino says in her book, one of the most common complaints that she hears is that there isn't enough foreplay before intercourse.

Tristan ... more
ive done all of these!
09/19/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
All the above....just like the rest of you. HEHE. Though usually I only use toy solo to give that perspective for my reviews. But I prefer that my husband uses the toy on me because he seems to hit my spot better than I can.
10/01/2011
Contributor: big b big b
allthe above
10/01/2011
Contributor: MissStormRyder MissStormRyder
Like everyone else, all of the above! Isn't that what they are for?
10/04/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
When my partner and I first got together, I'd never even owned a toy (NONE! And I was 17!). After about 6 months, a friend bought us a few starter toys, and that's when our intimacy really flourished. We use toys both before and during intercourse, together and alone.
01/11/2012
Contributor: smartbabi92 smartbabi92
I've used sex toys all four ways. it helps a lot with foreplay when we want things to go faster and also when he wants to please me more and last longer himself. so it works both ways
01/11/2012
Contributor: TexasFire TexasFire
I subscribe to all of them.

As mentioned in the topic, I am well-endowed. Foreplay is essential for us, as it allows her to warm up and for her vaginal muscles to become more relaxed. Toys during foreplay or intercourse add so much dimension to regular, run-of-the-mill intercourse.
01/11/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
All of the above!
01/12/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
All of the above
11/02/2012