my hunsband is 21 and can not last at all!!!! i love him to death but this is starting to get hard for me. he cums in about 2 minutes and then he's done. is there any help for this topic?
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Looking for pre - ejaculation help
09/23/2012
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there are penis rings and creams that are supposed to help, but I'd personally go with something I read in a magazine once. If you can get him to, have him finish you first with foreplay and do some teasing beforehand, so by the time he's done, you will be satisfied too.
Originally posted by
pink chains
my hunsband is 21 and can not last at all!!!! i love him to death but this is starting to get hard for me. he cums in about 2 minutes and then he's done. is there any help for this topic?
09/24/2012
Yeah, I'd take the second route hmb mentioned. Check out the book She Comes First. The author suggests that the male partner first tend to his female lover's needs - through oral stimulation, manual stimulation, use of toys - whatever works for you. Once YOU get off once (or twice, or however many times you want to) it can be your partner's turn. And, since you're well satisfied, he doesn't need to worry about how long he lasts!
09/24/2012
Being someone who has a hubby dealing with this for several years now. My hubby is 32 and we have been working around this issue for 3+ years. Hubby has gotten to where he doesnt want to have sex any more because it is too much work for him. I am lucky to get him to have sex 2 times in a month. Hubby told me that having to do so much work before he gets his 2 minutes is not worth his time. Makes him feel unimportant and unnecessary because I could do it myself. I honestly think that it does bother men if they cant last long enough to pleasure their women during sex. They do have feelings.
I suggest you have him talk to a dr. there might be an under lying issue that could be causing it. If you try to work around the issue at hand instead of finding out why and fixing it, you can cause more stress on his part and make him not want to have sex.
I suggest you have him talk to a dr. there might be an under lying issue that could be causing it. If you try to work around the issue at hand instead of finding out why and fixing it, you can cause more stress on his part and make him not want to have sex.
09/24/2012
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yea ok thanks i want him to go to a dr about it but he's to scared that someones going to over hear about it!
Originally posted by
funluvinmama
Being someone who has a hubby dealing with this for several years now. My hubby is 32 and we have been working around this issue for 3+ years. Hubby has gotten to where he doesnt want to have sex any more because it is too much work for him. I am
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Being someone who has a hubby dealing with this for several years now. My hubby is 32 and we have been working around this issue for 3+ years. Hubby has gotten to where he doesnt want to have sex any more because it is too much work for him. I am lucky to get him to have sex 2 times in a month. Hubby told me that having to do so much work before he gets his 2 minutes is not worth his time. Makes him feel unimportant and unnecessary because I could do it myself. I honestly think that it does bother men if they cant last long enough to pleasure their women during sex. They do have feelings.
I suggest you have him talk to a dr. there might be an under lying issue that could be causing it. If you try to work around the issue at hand instead of finding out why and fixing it, you can cause more stress on his part and make him not want to have sex. less
I suggest you have him talk to a dr. there might be an under lying issue that could be causing it. If you try to work around the issue at hand instead of finding out why and fixing it, you can cause more stress on his part and make him not want to have sex. less
09/26/2012
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Your Doctor can assure him that his confidentiality is very important and most doctors are very sensitive on this subject. If the problem is a sensitivity issue then wearing a heavy condom or using desensitizing gels and sprays can work wonders...but if he gets excited in his mind it's gonna pop! Does he have trouble getting erect after having achieved orgasm? Generally men last a bit longer naturally the second and third (fourth or fifth) orgasm. Maybe you could suggest he orgasm using oral sex first and sort of work up to penetrative sex. If you work together and you are really sensitive he can train himself to orgasm when he wants.
Originally posted by
pink chains
yea ok thanks i want him to go to a dr about it but he's to scared that someones going to over hear about it!
Also reassure him that lasting forever sounds nice but gets pretty damn painful for both partners (my life partner had the opposite problem!)so maybe you guys should forget what popular opinion is about the "lasting time" should be and work together to figure out what works for you! Have some fun, let's face it; he's excited to be there and this could be something that makes you both feel so very connected rather than frustrated!
Using a dildo can allow him to watch you move and enjoy yourself and feel like he is #1 lover. He might even orgasm watching you...and then after some down time he'll be ready for the real thing.
Take the pressure off and I bet you will find that the problem can be worked around in a way that is special and unique for you guys.
09/26/2012
Two things that worked for me back in the day.
One; get him off first. Make him lay back and give him oral and/or a hand job. After he catches his breath he can then work on you until he recovers a erection, like Airen is saying the second time around he should last quite a bit longer. For me the second time would average an hour, sometimes more.
Two, and this one is kind of touchy for some. One thing that always works for me is thinking about something else, not to the point of ignoring my wife but rather something to take my mind off of the sensations I am feeling. Since so much of the male orgasm is rooted in the brain, being able to ignore the feelings being felt goes a long way in prolonging ejaculation. In a way, this goes along with "She Comes First" thinking. Focusing on what the partner needs and not what you need/want.
One; get him off first. Make him lay back and give him oral and/or a hand job. After he catches his breath he can then work on you until he recovers a erection, like Airen is saying the second time around he should last quite a bit longer. For me the second time would average an hour, sometimes more.
Two, and this one is kind of touchy for some. One thing that always works for me is thinking about something else, not to the point of ignoring my wife but rather something to take my mind off of the sensations I am feeling. Since so much of the male orgasm is rooted in the brain, being able to ignore the feelings being felt goes a long way in prolonging ejaculation. In a way, this goes along with "She Comes First" thinking. Focusing on what the partner needs and not what you need/want.
09/26/2012
Instead of just dealing with it how it is, have him do kegel flexing exercises. Kegel exercises aren't just for females! My partner has done a TON of kegel exercises and he can choose when to cum. When he feels like hes getting close but doesn't want to finish yet, we stop for a moment, seriously just a moment, and he's ready to go again. I actually have a lot of fun seeing how long I can tease him with MY kegels before he can't hold it anymore, it's like a really pleasurable workout session
Possibly get him a Fleshlight too, so he can practice, I've heard training with one can work wonders.
Possibly get him a Fleshlight too, so he can practice, I've heard training with one can work wonders.
09/26/2012
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The fleshlight grew out of sleeves that are routinely used to treat premature ejaculation. It can certainly help a guy really get in touch with his orgasm and begin to really exert control. Just remember to take the pressure off and not turn sex into a fight for control every time, sometimes the best learning happens when you just relax and learn your body's rhythms.
Originally posted by
butts
Instead of just dealing with it how it is, have him do kegel flexing exercises. Kegel exercises aren't just for females! My partner has done a TON of kegel exercises and he can choose when to cum. When he feels like hes getting close but
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Instead of just dealing with it how it is, have him do kegel flexing exercises. Kegel exercises aren't just for females! My partner has done a TON of kegel exercises and he can choose when to cum. When he feels like hes getting close but doesn't want to finish yet, we stop for a moment, seriously just a moment, and he's ready to go again. I actually have a lot of fun seeing how long I can tease him with MY kegels before he can't hold it anymore, it's like a really pleasurable workout session
Possibly get him a Fleshlight too, so he can practice, I've heard training with one can work wonders. less
Possibly get him a Fleshlight too, so he can practice, I've heard training with one can work wonders. less
09/26/2012
Your husband should exercise and practice how to control early ejaculation, this can be due to first timer or problem in mentality focus. HE should not think on pleasuring himself instead he should think of making you horny. There are available premature ejaculation pills available in the market.
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