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Contributor: Review It Review It
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Sensual hot wax review
I dont know about these, I HATE pain!
11/07/2011
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Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I hate wax-play. I'm a self-described pain slut, and even I think it's "Bad pain."
11/07/2011
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
I've had about 2 or 3 massage candles, and the wax is never hot enough to be painful, once it's melted and poured. I'm guessing, since you can't spread normal wax, it's painful because the wax sticks to your skin and traps the heat?
11/07/2011
Contributor: Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
I have a high pain tolerance, and an even higher tolerance to heat, and I find hot wax massage to be very relaxing. I've done it with a variety of partners (it's my "gate-way" - the first slightly kinky thing I'll try with someone new), and have had no complaints.
11/11/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I don't receive pain very often because I'm always the dominant in my dynamic but when I was younger and introduced to BDSM, and then when I trained to be a domme, hot wax was by far my favorite kind of pain. And we weren't using paraffin massage candles that melted at lower 'body safe' temperatures...just plain tapers. It's definitely a higher level of pain but if heat/burn pain is what you're into, it's a blast. There's something very sensual, at least to me, about something that begins at such a high level of pain and then goes from hot to warm, warm to room temperature...it's like it's a self soothing torture.
11/11/2011
Contributor: Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I don't receive pain very often because I'm always the dominant in my dynamic but when I was younger and introduced to BDSM, and then when I trained to be a domme, hot wax was by far my favorite kind of pain. And we weren't using ... more
I agree totally. It's like relaxing into a slightly hotter-than-comfortabl e bath... you get to explore every level of the experience, and prove to yourself that as long as you're patient, the initial burn will fade into subtle warmth. It's a very introspective activity, and a nice subspace Totally different from the fast pace of most impact play!
11/15/2011
Contributor: Review It Review It
I actually ended up trying wax massage candles and the wax did not heat up hot enough to hurt me. it cooled very fast and felt wonderful!
12/01/2011
Contributor: AndromedaJane AndromedaJane
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I hate wax-play. I'm a self-described pain slut, and even I think it's "Bad pain."
Fascinating!
12/29/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I hate wax-play. I'm a self-described pain slut, and even I think it's "Bad pain."
Were they doing it correctly? As in: the candle is non-scented and colored, they kept the wick trimmed to 1/4 inch, and dripped the wax about 2 feet or higher above you? People often make the mistake of getting candles that burn at higher temperatures and hold the candle too damned close to the person, resulting in burns. As a helper, lotion should be rubbed into the skin to make wax easier to take off.
12/29/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
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Originally posted by AndroAngel
I hate wax-play. I'm a self-described pain slut, and even I think it's "Bad pain."
I love wax, I just hate getting it out of my sheets. I burned myself with an iron this way- talk about bad pain!
12/31/2011
Contributor: mandaj mandaj
not about all the pain
12/31/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Wax play doesn't have to be inherently painful. You can get a very mild sensation from paraffin wax, which is commonly found in tea lights or the kind of candles you can get at the grocery store.
12/31/2011
Contributor: firepower442 firepower442
Its not really not, just warm. It is more of a relaxing thing for us not so much a sexual thing. Getting it off your skin can be a pain sometimes though.
02/18/2012