The New Intimacy

Have you moved in with someone before you were engaged or married?

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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretKinksters
Agreed, its like a test drive of a car. I wouldn't buy a car without taking it around the block a couple of times...
I agree, it's better to know their flaws and habits before getting the marriage license.
09/18/2012
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We lived together for years before we got married.
09/18/2012
Contributor: lovekink lovekink
My now husband moved in with me while we both were still in high school. Then we got engaged and then married. I would never have married anyone including him if we had never lived together before.
09/18/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I lived with my ex for five years. I'm glad we lived together, because it gave me (and I'm sure him as well) some serious insight into what it would be like to settle down with someone and be prepared to share a home with them forever. I think it's wise to see if you can live with someone before you tie the knot. Some people just are not compatible living partners. I stopped speaking to a good friend after living with her for only a few months...she was a tyrant to live with, and we had an argument that she refused to work through with me. There were four people in that household--none of us speak to her anymore, and one of them was her long term boyfriend who had been living with her for just a few months before I moved in. Sometimes when you get a glimpse into someone's life while they are at home...they're not who you thought they were.
09/18/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
Totally with you on this one!

Wouldn't it suck to find out your partner was a total slob or had a closet of babies AFTER you bet half your stuff you'd stay with them forever (marriage)?
The closet of babies would be a deal breaker for me! I lived with Sigel for a few months before we were hurried off to the justice of the peace by the folks. We never needed the certificate so it's kind of superfluous. I moved in with Arch the minute I could and I split my time with them both. We are working to make it a permanent living arrangement.
09/18/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Several times. Some times better than others.
09/18/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Yes I have and sometimes were good and some not so good.
09/18/2012
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We did, but kept it well hidden from my parents.
09/18/2012
Contributor: PinkySt PinkySt
My husband and I were engaged before we moved in together but that was mostly for our parents piece of mind lol

We did live together for two years before we got married though since like cars, we feel its important to take a test drive before you sign anything.

I just feel like living together changes the relationship dynamic too much to leave i to chance. but to each their own =3
09/18/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by Beck
Yes. I think it is EXTREMELY important to live with someone prior to getting married. You never know someone good enough until you live with them.
I agree with Beck on this one. You can't get the feel of how they really are on a day to day basis and what not without living with them. You also learn how they live whether they are slobs or neat freaks, you see where you both stand on household things as well. I would rather live with someone before marriage an know it will or won't work before marrying moving in and it being hell.
09/18/2012
Contributor: aryce aryce
I prefer to live together before marriage to see if it would work out. You start finding out about the person a lot more by living together and if both are compatible
09/18/2012
Contributor: mbrdr2012 mbrdr2012
I lived with my ex bf FOREVER and we didn't work out so well! I did not live with my husband before we got married and it has been an amazing almost 14 years!
09/19/2012
Contributor: General Iroh General Iroh
marriage is a big decision, I'd like to really know the person I'm marrying before it happens, and it's difficult to do that without even seeing what living with them is like.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
I would never do that
09/19/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Ayup! And I've moved in with someone I wasn't even dating to end up dating them after awhile any way.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
yeah, being same sex it's kinda hard to avoid!
09/19/2012
Contributor: AliMc AliMc
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
It seems a little old fashioned since lots of people move in together these days without the anticipation of marriage, but what are your personal experiences?
I've never lived with a boyfriend but I'm not against the idea of living together before marriage, I would rather live together first anyway as a way to test the waters.
09/19/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I've lived with my partner for 3 1/2 years and we have no plans on getting married (other than jokingly). We are -far- from old fashioned.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Yes for the 2nd time
09/19/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Thumper Logic
It seems a little old fashioned since lots of people move in together these days without the anticipation of marriage, but what are your personal experiences?
No but I would. Need to test it out before marriage
09/19/2012
Contributor: leanright69 leanright69
Nope.
09/19/2012
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Yes, and I still made the decision to marry him. I wish I hadn't of done either. We last 2 years.
09/19/2012
Contributor: pixylove101 pixylove101
Yes, But we were already engaged.
09/19/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I was friends with my husband before we got together. We lived together as friends. Then we lived together when we were dating.

I think it's important to live together before marriage. You learn a lot of little things about someone by living with them that you wouldn't know otherwise. I've seen lots of people not do this and wind up hating their living situation over it. Not the best start to a marriage.
09/19/2012
Contributor: sexfairy sexfairy
Yes. Never been married nor engaged yet.
09/19/2012
Contributor: smlove smlove
The funny thing is, I wasn't living with my wife until 4 months after we were married. For financial reasons, I had to keep my job and apt an hour away from our house until we finished paying off a big bill. Then I finally got to move in with her.
Before that, I'd never been engaged and I'd never lived with a significant other. Wouldn't be opposed to it, though.
09/19/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Yep, I have.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
We lived together several years before we were even engaged, but it was clear that where we were headed.
09/20/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Yes, but we ended up living together much sooner than I think we would've on our own. I'd recently moved from another state and was staying with my sister, met my boyfriend soon after. Not long later my sister and her husband decided to split so my boyfriend (now husband) broke his apartment lease to move in to help her out as a renter so she could make her mortgage payments. It worked really well for all of us and we didn't move out until we bought a house two months before we got married.
09/20/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
No, I lived alone in an apartment before getting married.
09/20/2012