Ever get jealous of a sex toy?

Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
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Yes
5  (8%)
No
58  (89%)
Other
2  (3%)
Total votes: 65
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09/13/2011
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Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
Neither of us have ever felt any jealousy over a sex toy, though I can understand why some people may feel this way. We've spoken about this before, and it's not an issue for us. The toys we use are enhancing our sex lives, and are not replacements for each other.
09/13/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I've never been in this situation, but I can't really see myself getting jealous. I use dildos, so why should I feel insecure if a guy uses a masturbator?
09/13/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I don't get jealous, I think it would be hypocritical if I did. I enjoy using toys, why should I be upset at my partner for doing the same thing?
09/13/2011
Contributor: CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
I don't get jealous, but sometimes I wish that I could have a penis the size of some of our dildos, even just for one day. I'm not lacking in the size department, but what guy hasn't wondered what it would feel like to be in John Holmes shoes (before aids).
09/14/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Not really, but I don't think it's uncommon. I've heard of people being jealous about their partner masturbating even without a sex toy. I think if it bugs you in such a way that it is affecting your relationship, it's healthy to communicate your feelings - and maybe you could try using your toys together to see what it's all about!

Just remember it's not replacing you in any way, it's just an addition to your sex life
09/14/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I won't be jealous IF my husband wants to use a masturbator occasionally. My problem is, he's totally not into male-oriented sex toys.
09/14/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
There's no reason for me to be jealous because he only uses them (begrudgingly, I might add) when he can't get any action from me.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
My partner was originally absolutely negative on all my sex toys but he has so come around. Not actually jealous but just turned off by them.

He does use masturbation sleeves, its OK by me as long as the sleeve isn't a substitute for me.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Perpetua
Not really, but I don't think it's uncommon. I've heard of people being jealous about their partner masturbating even without a sex toy. I think if it bugs you in such a way that it is affecting your relationship, it's healthy to ... more
Yeah, that's true.
I think the thing that bothered me, is that if I say something about using a vibrator while he's at work or something, he looks all offended.
More of a double standard thing, ya know?
09/14/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
So far no
09/14/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
Yeah, that's true.
I think the thing that bothered me, is that if I say something about using a vibrator while he's at work or something, he looks all offended.
More of a double standard thing, ya know?
That makes a bit more sense. If he has a masturbator, then he really shouldn't get offended by your vibes. Double standards annoy me, too.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Not at all.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
That makes a bit more sense. If he has a masturbator, then he really shouldn't get offended by your vibes. Double standards annoy me, too.
Exactly. I'm glad it's not just me.
09/15/2011
Contributor: acessorie acessorie
As long as he's not obsessively using it and shunning me I'm cool.
09/15/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I don't get jealous of toys. If my fiancee started using a new toy and practically replaced me...that's a different story.
09/15/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I am the one that buys most of the toys, so why would I get jealous if she uses them?
09/16/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
No, I encourage my hub to use his. Pretty sure he doesnt use it cuz hes too lazy to clean it. Only time he has, is when I offer to clean it. I did use to get upset when hed masterbate. Hurt my felling that hed rather use his hand than me. now, it doesnt matter.
09/16/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
No, not at all. I would never get jealous over a toy. That being said, of course, my man doesn't own any because he does not like most of the male-oriented toys on the market, so it isn't an issue at all, nor is it likely to ever be one.
09/16/2011
Contributor: SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
I chose no, mostly because my man doesn't like to use em!

bbuuttt if he did have one, I mmaayy get a little jealous. But only if he used it more than he used me! Haha
10/08/2011
Contributor: TheCleansing TheCleansing
So far no, but if I'm ever denied in place of a toy I might.
10/09/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I would encourage a partner to use toys for different stimulation. After all, I get to use a wide range of toys to create different pleasure for myself. Only fair!
But I would like to watch sometimes....hehehe. Yummmy.
10/09/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I would never say I was jealous, maybe wishing I had a cock sometimes
10/09/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I thought I might get jealous once upon a time, but since we both started using toys, it hasn't been an issue. I'm still trying to find something just right for him.
10/09/2011
Contributor: Maxx Maxx
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
If your in the mood to do something and they would rather use it then I guess so but other than that... no
12/11/2011
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
Not really, I never really thought about it except from the males perspective. In that a man would be jealous of all his "woman's" vibrators/dildos
04/25/2012
Contributor: ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
no why should you be?
04/25/2012
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
Depends on why they masturbated instead of using you
04/25/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
No, but that's because my partner doesn't use the masturbators. I would feel funny if he was interested in them, considering that I am happy to have sex ANY time. It'd feel that I wasn't good enough. We're not the kind of couple who goes without each other ever so I would wonder why he wanted a piece of plastic to do the job instead. So I think it's very understandable to have those feelings. Maybe some of us are a little sensitive in that way, but what was ever wrong with being sensitive, right?

My partner has no interest in the masturbators and I am glad because I'd want to be the one he goes to for sex. I'd be missing out.

For me, toys just don't do it like the real thing. I do not use my toys as a replacement for sex EVER. They are strictly used for foreplay only and that's how I want it to be so I expect the same from him. Masturbators ARE a replacement for sex.

Other male toys, although there aren't many, I wouldn't mind him being interested in. Foreplay toys wouldn't bother me, it's the replacing me that would bother me.
04/25/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
I found myself getting slightly jealous about my boyfriend's masturbator last night. Even though I know it's silly. Does anyone else get like this?
No, I don't.
05/01/2012