Perceptive forum discussions on Anal Sex:

All Anal Sex Toy Pros!
So I believe it was Kendra who posted a forum question about anal fissures JUST this morning. Oddly enough, my husband found out he has a minor one. I

Anal Sex?? Anal anything?
I have NEVER done anything anally? Is that the word? Really the only people I know in real life who are into anal stuff are men, they seem quite...

For those who enjoy anal play, is there some activity you have tried before, and don't want to do again?
Like vaginal sex, some positions or activities just don't cut it for everyone. If you enjoy anal sex, is there some aspect or activity about it you...

When Do You Crave Anal Sex?
I've noticed that I crave anal during the day and in the evening more than I do at night. What time of day do you most crave anal? Why do you think...

ANAL SEX
MY GF AND TRY ANAL A COUPLE OF TIMES AND SHE IS NOT INTO IT. SHE LOVES HER BUTT PLUG BUT SAYS WHEN MY PENIS IS IN HER SHE DOESNT LIKE IT.SHE ACTUALLY.

There is a lot of preparation. You can't just "stick it in." It took My Man about a month or two to train me and teach me how to have anal sex with him.

There are dozens of pages on anal sex on the site, you will want to go through them, and read each one, and see if they answer your questions.

Here's a link to those link

Thanks for the link, I've actually started looking at some of these and will continue to read.

Lubricant, lubricant, lubricant! Go slow and warm up with a small toy. I use a small glass toy with lots of lubricant to warm up. There are also some desensitizing lubricants on the market, but that may affect your penis in a negative way. Don't rush the process and maybe start with fingers, toys etc... Move your way into insertion. I know for me, we tried it several years ago the wrong way and it took me years to even think about wanting to try again. Caution is always your best bet. Good Luck!!

Lubricant is a necessity. But just as much is going slowly. My Man and I played anally with fingers (I didn't care for toys until after we had actually had full on anal intercourse, then I loved them)

I do need to warn people against any kind of numbing agent. Pain should NOT be part of an anal experience. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong, or going to fast or the recipient isn't relaxed enough.

When one dulls the perception of pain, say with a numbing creme, the person may not be able to know when something is wrong, and could get badly hurt without realizing it.

My Man trained me by first doing gentle finger movements on the outside of the anus. Then gentle penetration with lube. It was a month or so before we even tried a penis. We tried a toy, and I didn't like it at first. (But, some people do well with toys, every one is different.)

Take it slow.

I plan on it. I want her to enjoy it as much I me. Starting with fingers is a good idea and we will probably put off getting a toy if/until she/we are used to that first then we will see. We still need to talk about it more I think before we start anything, I just wanted to start a little research myself and ask others that have had experience.

I totally agree with p'gell pain is a warning alarm for your body. If it truly hurts don't do it. I started with my husband using one finger then two and then a beginner plug. It only took us 3 weeks to get to anal intercourse, but everybody is different. Don't forget to make sure no anal lube drips onto her girl bits. That makes for infections. Missionary is a good style to help avoid bacterial vaginosis.