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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Hey y'all, I got approval for a couple of work shops today. While I think I have all the bases covered, I figured it could not hurt to get some input from everyone. So if there is something you would like to know about, post it here for me.

The first one will be about prostate massage: Lube, how too, toys, partner play, solo, plugs etc.. This will focus on massage/milking the prostate with some health benefits thrown in as well. I think this will be very helpful for those new to P-spot fun.

The second one will be about cock rings; How to find the right size, different ways to wear them and how to put them on (Mostly metal/stone rings), safety and materials.

I am pretty excited about these work shop's, I have a great visual aid on the way that will work awesome for both of these work shops.
08/29/2011
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Hahahaha, I would love to know your experience with the c-ring I reviewed today. That would be awesome!
08/29/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I can't wait to hear about the prostate milking.

Although my guy isn't really into this right now, he might be one day and I want to make sure I can help him!
08/30/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I will definitely look forward to learning about both things, especially the prostate milking. We've talked about it, but I'd love some additional information.
08/30/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Ansley
Hahahaha, I would love to know your experience with the c-ring I reviewed today. That would be awesome!
I would give it a good try, I just can't believe it is so big.
08/30/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I can't wait to hear about the prostate milking.

Although my guy isn't really into this right now, he might be one day and I want to make sure I can help him!
I might have a few things that may help, like some of the health benefits.
08/30/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by indiglo
I will definitely look forward to learning about both things, especially the prostate milking. We've talked about it, but I'd love some additional information.
Cool, that is why I am doing that one, mostly for those looking to try it.
08/30/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Ok...so one thing I would like to know about with the P-spot stuff is what is my responsibility as the giver instead of the receiver. What things do I need to pay attention to in order to make sure everything is going smooth and safe and things I could suggest during the session that would make it more pleasurable. Like maybe the top five positions to use or something like that. I'm terrified that I'm going to hurt the guy and then he'll never want to do it again.
08/30/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Ansley
Ok...so one thing I would like to know about with the P-spot stuff is what is my responsibility as the giver instead of the receiver. What things do I need to pay attention to in order to make sure everything is going smooth and safe and things I ... more
Good input! I will cover most of this but since it will be a few weeks or so I'll tell you this; COMMUNICATION is key to most things. Ask him if it feels OK, any pain/discomfort, enough lube etc.. Any position that is comfortable for him will work fine. I like to be on my back so the wife has access to the rest of me for oral or hand work, but a doggie style position works better when she is using a finger.

One thing about safety, that the wife does for me, is to use a latex type glove. This keeps the fingernail(s) from causing pain and of course makes clean up easy. If you have long nails you can use a cotton ball inserted into the finger of the glove.
08/30/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Good input! I will cover most of this but since it will be a few weeks or so I'll tell you this; COMMUNICATION is key to most things. Ask him if it feels OK, any pain/discomfort, enough lube etc.. Any position that is comfortable for him will ... more
Sweet!!! Thanks. I keep my nails short, but sometimes I get really bad hangnails and he says he can feel them so I'll definitely keep that in mind. You're awesome-sauce!
08/30/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Ansley
Sweet!!! Thanks. I keep my nails short, but sometimes I get really bad hangnails and he says he can feel them so I'll definitely keep that in mind. You're awesome-sauce!
Glad I could help.

Keep your eyes on the community calender for the work shop.
08/30/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Glad I could help.

Keep your eyes on the community calender for the work shop.
Will do!!
08/30/2011
Contributor: Purple Feathers Purple Feathers
I know this is simple, but probably the best types of lubes to use in both cases and why. Removing a C-Ring without lubrication is too close to a horror story for comfort, at least in my opinion =P
09/08/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Purple Feathers
I know this is simple, but probably the best types of lubes to use in both cases and why. Removing a C-Ring without lubrication is too close to a horror story for comfort, at least in my opinion =P
I'll be covering that for sure.

Until then though, I suggest looking first at the type of material the ring is made of. About 80% or so of the rings (made of soft materials) do not work that well with silicone lube. In that case water based lube is your only option. Use some to put it on and then, if needed, a bit of spit or water will reactivate the lube and make removal easier.

For materials that work with silicone lube, you should not need anything to reactivate it.

Hope that helps a bit. Feel free to post anymore questions here or message me.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
GREAT topics! I'm thinking you'll probably already be covering this, but I'd be sure to touch upon the stigma surrounding penetration being something associated with "weakness" or homosexuality in men. It'd be nice to make a note of how this idea is disturbingly sexist (for women that enjoy penetration, we're not weak because of that!) and also homophobic (heavens forbid anyone be mistaken for gay, right?) I know it's more of a how-to workshop, but I think a HUGE step in learning "how-to" is learning how-to get over your phobia of being perceived as weak or gay (if you're a straight man).

Also, I've always been afraid of trying metal rings with my partner. A silicone ring I could always carefully snip off with manicure scissors if needed, but I can't exactly weld off a metal one. Maybe tips on how to handle emergency situations, and the inclusion of a emergency kit (one of the gel-filled ice packs that gets cool but not so cold that it would damage nerve endings, cuticle scissors, etc) and that?

Anyways, looking forward to your workshops! They're always very thorough. I don't often comment, but I follow along at home for the pictures/videos
09/08/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
GREAT topics! I'm thinking you'll probably already be covering this, but I'd be sure to touch upon the stigma surrounding penetration being something associated with "weakness" or homosexuality in men. It'd be nice to make a ... more
Ya know, I did think about that. I am afraid it would just take too much time though. (I am already up to about a two hour work shop.) Still, it is worth a mention though. Good idea.

Good thoughts on the rings too. I am planning on mentioning going bigger with metal rings at first and how to properly measure. Emergence removal is a definite, like you said, you can not just cut off a stainless ring.

Awesome Owl, thanks for the ideas.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I have nothing to add but I am sure the workshop will be awesome
09/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Will there be some anatomical diagrams? I have a fairly good working-knowledge just from going by feel, but I'd be curious to see diagrams of where the prostate is relative to other important parts of male anatomy.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I love this, what an awesome idea! Nothing really to add here, but looking forward to the workshop for sure!
09/08/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Antipova
Will there be some anatomical diagrams? I have a fairly good working-knowledge just from going by feel, but I'd be curious to see diagrams of where the prostate is relative to other important parts of male anatomy.
Yup, sure will. I have two I am thinking of using, also I have the Ultra Realistic Cock and Ass to help out.
09/09/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Yup, sure will. I have two I am thinking of using, also I have the Ultra Realistic Cock and Ass to help out.
OHMYGOSH I am so envious of you! I hope you put it to lots of good work after the workshop, too. That looks like the most amazing thing for one-partner DP (from a lady's perspective, of course. Though I'm sure you and your wife will find valuable uses for it).
09/09/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Antipova
OHMYGOSH I am so envious of you! I hope you put it to lots of good work after the workshop, too. That looks like the most amazing thing for one-partner DP (from a lady's perspective, of course. Though I'm sure you and your wife will find ... more
Honestly, its not my thing but I have tried it, if it was a little firmer it would be a lot better. I am hoping the wife will try it out as well, it would be awesome if she rode it while giving me oral. Threesomes are one fantasy that will never happen with another person so this would be the next best thing, eh? If I could get her into anal play, it would be a dream come true to try DP.
09/10/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I am in the last stages of planning for P-spot massage/milking folks, last chance to give me your suggestions.
09/17/2011
Contributor: LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
i want to know about the prostate milking
09/18/2011