Fingering a girl, question about some G-Spot technique I keep seeing in porn

Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Okay. This is somewhat difficult to explain, as well as stupid sounding. Bear with me

For starters, I'm a pervert and watch stupid amounts of porn. Well, not that much, just like a bit 2 or 3 times a day. But I have stupid amounts of porn downloaded and 'check out' a lot of different stuff.

A few months ago I started seeing a certain 'move' being done a lot to a girl, and they would just love it every time and cum really hard. My question is going to be: What exactly is being done here when I'm doing this?

Let me try and describe the 'technique'. I speak in the first-person, and suppose I'm with some girl named I dunno Barbara.

So, Babs and I are in bed laying down next to each other and I'm fingering her. Then I put my middle finger and my ring finger inside, palm up. And I move onto to my knees a bit so I'm positioned better. Then, I just put my fingers in most of the way, press up a bit towards the stomach (since that's where the G-spot is, right? I'm not an expert on anything), and then start 'shaking' or 'vibrating' my arm and hand. Like decently hard. I'm certainly not gentle with Babs here.

After seeing this in porn so much, and seeing the girls go crazy, I had to try this out on whichever girls I started seeing or hooked up with or whatever. I think I've done it to like 5 girls or so over the past few months, and all of them seemed to like it a lot, and 2 or 3 (can't really remember) came really hard during this.

So I assumed that this was some sort of G-spot thing going on, but, when I would stop the 'vibrating' for a few seconds and do that sort of 'come hither' motion that the internet keeps telling me to do to her G-spot (which, as best I can recall, has not worked one damn time), she immediately stops moaning/screaming/etc. as much.

So:
1) Does anyone have any idea what I'm talking about?
2) If yes to (1), what is being stimulated during these 'shaking hand' and 'vibrating' hand motions?
05/13/2009
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Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I think I know what you're describing, but I'm not sure I would like it. I've never had it done to me. You never know tho, every girl's body is different and responds to different things.

The sure way to get a girl's g-spot while you're fingering her is to put a couple fingers in, somewhere between the second and last knuckle but not all the way in, and make a "come-hither" motion. Be sure she's good and aroused before though, it makes the g-spot more prominent.

Hope that helps!
05/13/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I've seen that technique, tried it myself, and have had it done to me. When it was done to me, the internal result was a fast stroking of my g-spot which lead to me ejaculating. When I did it to someone else, I found I could either use it to quickly stimulate the g-spot or just to provide extra sensation to the vagina. It seems that many female bodied people enjoy extra stimulation to the first bit of the vaginal wall - myself included.
So this technique could actually be doing different things depending on the person doing it and the person receiving it - if that makes sense.
The "come hither" motion works great for g-spot stimulation, but it's been my experience that I have to already be quite aroused and my g-spot already swollen for this to be effective. Also, when you are trying to find a g-spot, you should just gently feel around and ask your partner to tell you when it suddenly feels like she has a "need to pee" sensation.

PS: DO NOT STOP doing what is working! You said you would be doing the "vibrating" motion and then change to something else and she "immediately stops moaning/screaming/etc. as much". Trust me, I know hands/arms/mouths get tired, but you've got to keep going with what is getting her reaction until she tells you to stop/do something else/orgasms. As a woman, that has to be the most frustrating thing that has ever happened to me sexually.
05/13/2009
Contributor: ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~ ~*SurrealisticFantasy*~
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I've seen that technique, tried it myself, and have had it done to me. When it was done to me, the internal result was a fast stroking of my g-spot which lead to me ejaculating. When I did it to someone else, I found I could either use it to ... more
"As a woman, that has to be the most frustrating thing that has ever happened to me sexually. Reply "

Haha, here here!!

I really love this "g-spot vibrating" technique you've described, my boyfriend does it to me from time to time. I wonder if he got it from porn too, or if he just went with what seemed to be doing the job in the moment. He's good at communicating with me during sex, both verbally and silently, and usually ends up "inventing" spur of the moment little techniques to compliment what works at that time. ...and let me tell you, that one definitely works for me!

I think Happy Lady is right, it seems to do a better job stimulating the inner vaginal wall as well as the g-spot. For me, I need a lot of stimulation like this at first, before other more subtle "come hither" motions carry as much weight. Another thing that I think makes this more successful is that you're more likely to caress the g-spot all over, rather than in one small area as many people tend to do when going into the "come hither" movement. Maybe try the "come hither" with more rotating/side-to-side movements incorporated into it, ifthat makes sense. Then you're arousing the whole g-spot instead of just a little piece of it.
05/13/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I've tried something similar a few times, but she always rolls me over and mounts before she comes from my hand.

You can also add your thumb on her clit as well for added stimulation.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Someone send me a clip of this so I can see.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I think I know what you're describing, but I'm not sure I would like it. I've never had it done to me. You never know tho, every girl's body is different and responds to different things.

The sure way to get a girl's g-spot ... more
Yeah, I've never noticed this working. Maybe I'm doing it wrong? It seems simple enough, though. Should I be 'come hithering' as lightly as possible, would you say?

And the thing I described seems to work quite well. Which is what makes me wonder if it's G-spot being hit? I dunno
05/13/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I've seen that technique, tried it myself, and have had it done to me. When it was done to me, the internal result was a fast stroking of my g-spot which lead to me ejaculating. When I did it to someone else, I found I could either use it to ... more
Hahaha, yeah I got "lectured" about that once after doing just that while going down on a girl. I apologize to you and the rest your Women's 'I was sooo close you bastard' Foundation

And yeah, I'll definitely have to try that 'need to pee' question, that sounds pretty straight forward, good advice thank you
05/13/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I've tried something similar a few times, but she always rolls me over and mounts before she comes from my hand.

You can also add your thumb on her clit as well for added stimulation.
Yeah that does work too, although I use my free hand if I do that. Women have too many damn parts
05/13/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Quote:
Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Someone send me a clip of this so I can see.
Hahaha, next time I'm watching porn and notice it I'll try to cut that portion into a small file and send it to you.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
The come-hither motion doesn't really do it for me. Your shaking/vibrating technique that you describe sounds like something that my boyfriend does quite often and effectively. I can't explain why I like it when he does it, but it's good! I always trust experience over what the 'net says should work. If you've found something that works really well--stick to it!
05/13/2009
Contributor: Nickisonehere Nickisonehere
Oh yeah. I've also seen this performed while this "technique" is being done in porn.

So with his free hand, the guy puts his hand palm down on the girl's stomach and seems to press down a bit. I've tried this a couple times, but I have no idea if it did anything. Anyone know what I'm talking about?

Maybe I'll just ask this and 100 other questions next time I'm seeing someone more seriously
05/13/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
Quote:
Originally posted by Nickisonehere
Yeah that does work too, although I use my free hand if I do that. Women have too many damn parts
Some assembly required.

But seriously, I need to get my porn-loving man to find these clips (or re-find, since he's probably seen them by now) and learn, because that sounds like a lot of fun! Just using a come-hither motion, even a modified come-hither, has never done much for me, unfortunately.
05/13/2009
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
"Women's 'I was sooo close you bastard' Foundation"

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!
05/13/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Quote:
Originally posted by Nickisonehere
Oh yeah. I've also seen this performed while this "technique" is being done in porn.

So with his free hand, the guy puts his hand palm down on the girl's stomach and seems to press down a bit. I've tried this a couple ... more
Asking questions is always good when discovering new lands.

It's probably not her stomach he is pressing on -

For many women, if you press just above the pubic bone you can stimulate her g-spot from the outside.

It would probably be helpful for you to read the forum posts on g-spots. I think you'll find lots of helpful information there. Sure, most of it is from women to women, but the technique is outlined pretty graphically in some places.
05/13/2009
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
I've had this done to me and while I didn't orgasm (I think I need very firm and consistent pressure) it felt great.

All in all, if the girls you are with like it, keep doing it!
07/11/2009
Contributor: Fun Lover Fun Lover
Quote:
Originally posted by Nickisonehere
Oh yeah. I've also seen this performed while this "technique" is being done in porn.

So with his free hand, the guy puts his hand palm down on the girl's stomach and seems to press down a bit. I've tried this a couple ... more
While using the Magic Wand on my wife with the Tri-Pod attachment on. I press just above her pubic bone and it makes her scream and she gets very wet while cumming. I don't know why a hand or toy wouldn't work also. As stated all women are different that is what makes sex fun and interesting. What may work for some may not for others.
07/12/2009
Contributor: Tera Topco (no longer active) Tera Topco (no longer active)
I belive what happens a lot of the time when people are using the come hither approach is they are missing the spot. Yes, it seems like very easy directions, but some g's are more pronounced and some are less, and many other differences. What is nice about the move that you're using is the 0% fuck up rate Meaning, with several fingers (stimulating a larger area) and the extreme motion (intense vibrating of the hand) there's almost no way to miss the spot!! Keep up the good work!!!
08/11/2009
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Tera Topco (no longer active)
I belive what happens a lot of the time when people are using the come hither approach is they are missing the spot. Yes, it seems like very easy directions, but some g's are more pronounced and some are less, and many other differences. What is ... more
I was thinking something similar, in fact.
08/12/2009
Contributor: Rocky LaFemme Rocky LaFemme
"Women's 'I was sooo close you bastard' Foundation" LOL and I really need to know where I can find the porn you speak of. When you described it I was not interested but after reading all of the response...umm yes please.
08/13/2009
Contributor: Mari Fanger Mari Fanger
i just saw a how-to video on this, my fiance tried it, it didn't work it just felt weird
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