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Contributor: Anne Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and my mother asked the same question. They began to write down the names of the guys they had sex with... and I guess my mother kept going.

Taking that story with me, I've decided to keep a private list of my own, but don't wish to share it with anyone. I do it more for safety reasons, if there were a case of pregnancy, or STD, I could backtrack better. There are times I feel like a slut for having something like this, but I feel like I'm safe with sex, and last time I got checked, I was clean.

Does anyone else do something like this?
07/02/2012
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Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and ... more
Hey, that is a great idea! I'm 42 and been sexually active since I was 17, so I have NO idea how many or who for the most part. Was I a ho? At times..YES. So far I have had no STD (Thank GOD!!) but I'm married now, so I am letting that part of my life go!
07/02/2012
Contributor: talon4196 talon4196
I'm at 3; no list needed. There's nothing wrong with having a list.
07/02/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Sounds like a responsible thing to do rather than something that should make you feel ashamed. Who cares how many people you've slept with? It doesn't make you a bad person, you have nothing to feel ashamed over. Personally? I know my list will probably increase the older I get but even if it doesn't I am not going to feel shame for it!
07/02/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Having a list is responsible! Kudos to you!

I have a mental list.
07/03/2012
Contributor: rekarf rekarf
Honestly, after I met my boyfriend, I forgot about all the other guys I've been with. They're unimportant to me, and I've forgotten what most of them look like and even some of their names.

I have a really bad memory anyway.

I know about where my number is, but I'm not sure of the exact number.
07/24/2012
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
mine is a mental list too. I have not had more than my hands can count but not so many that i'd have to use more than my toes. There is 1 that I don't know his last name. That is why you make a list so something like that doesn't slip through, but we all make mistakes. I like the fact that if I needed to I could contact everyone that I've ever slept with...except that one.
08/14/2012
Contributor: misty82 misty82
I had a list until I got married and then decided I didn't need to keep one anymore.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and ... more
Not necessary. I wonder how many one would have to have for it to be a list they have to consciously remember. D:
09/22/2012
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
mental list
09/22/2012
Contributor: ibetannerz ibetannerz
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and ... more
i dont have one at least not written.... in my head yes.. on paper no
01/04/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Keeping a list (with dates) is responsible.

I can still count the number of guys I've been with on one hand.
01/04/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I keep a list....because I make lists for EVERYTHING.

I'm at 7.
01/04/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I don't have a list, but I remember every person I ever even kissed. I think it's great if you want to keep a list.

I remember this girl in college who told me her roommate had a list of every guy she'd kissed. When she got to 100, she was going to marry the guy! I still think that's pretty hilarious.
01/05/2013
Contributor: kitten07 kitten07
It's a responsible thing to do. I'd always write mine in my diary back in those days. I'm married now so I have no need to keep a list anymore.
01/05/2013
Contributor: jaynimal jaynimal
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and ... more
Iont think youre a slut..ive been with quite a few people and maybe this is a good idea for me too.
01/12/2013
Contributor: krissybby krissybby
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
My mother and I were talking in the car one time when I was still in my teens, and she told me about this story she had with her and her roommate and best-friend, Anne (also my name sake). Anne had asked my mother how many guys she slept with, and ... more
I'm 20, been sexually active since I was 15, and I have a list. It currently has 18 individuals on it. I am not ashamed by it at all.
01/13/2013
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
I don't have a list but one seems like a good idea. I think that no matter what you do, you should take pride it in!
01/13/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
A mental list...
01/13/2013
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
I have a mental list.
01/15/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
i've only been with 3, but good for you. stay safe!
03/12/2013
Contributor: angelcrossmarie1 angelcrossmarie1
My friends do that. With contact info in case they need it. It's a good thing to do. I'm only at 2 so I don't need a list yet. XD
03/13/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I guess, if it applies to your situation. in my case I only have had two partners, so if I needed a list to keep track I'd be worried about my brain! lol
03/13/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I don't think there is anything wrong with either having a list or not having one, but I have only had three, so no list needed!
03/13/2013
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I have been sexually active since I was 15...I am 50 now. I would have kept a list if I had thought of it. I have a selective mental list of the great ones. The rest? Who knows? At this point, I've no need to remember not so great sex. I agree it is a responsible thing to do. Luckily no diseased encounters here in the cave.
03/13/2013
Contributor: Meido Meido
Seems like a good practical idea should something go wrong. I don't have a list as it's only one person I've slept with (and now continue to do so)..
03/13/2013
Contributor: never shy never shy
I keep my list in my head
03/16/2013
Contributor: muffinlovesegg muffinlovesegg
having a list is a good idea in my opinion
04/20/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I have a mental list since I'm only at 2. If I were sexually active with more people, I'd probably keep a written list.
04/20/2013
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
if you cant keep track of all the men youve slept with its probably too many!
05/14/2013