Many of the couples toys, Under the Bed Restraints, can involve both of you without having anything to do with vibes that he might feel left out. Then, as you start getting used to having those things around the bedroom. Show him how you can use a vibe at the same time you're with him - such as cowgirl style. Then, finally, you can introduce him to vibes that he might enjoy for just himself like a vibrating ring or plug.

My husband started out with small things for me. I wasn't threatened as much as embarrassed and a bit insecure about using them with his knowledge. A few movies and the old-that looks fun. Making a movie of him masturbating and getting off -- as a surprise for me!! (Loved that!) He played with me using small toys he bought for me, a vibrating cock ring, rabbit vibe, pocket rockets, etc. Start with small, fun and non-invasive items or movies and slowly, with a lot of understanding, work your way up!! I am now the toy selector and reviewer, have legally downloaded more porn than most people have ever seen, masturbate for and with him regularly and we both have fulfilled the majority of our current fantasies and are working on more!! The closeness is amazing and sometimes it can extend to other parts of your lives. We are going through a bit of a difficult time right now but are working hard to make us work out. Without the bond from sharing so much of our deeply personal and sexual thoughts and actions (most people keep secret), we would not have been able or wanted to work it out. There are other benefits of the added sexual adventures you share together as well!!

Lingerie or restraints of any kind is an awesome choice. Everyone loves cuffs!

We (men) are just afraid we are being replaced... My wife goes out of her way to assure me she wants the real thing more than any toy we own.