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Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I suffer form vaginismus

Definition- sometimes called anglicized vaginism is the German name for a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is the result of a reflex of the pubococcygeus muscle, which is sometimes referred to as the "PC muscle". The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, which makes any kind of vaginal penetration—including sexual intercourse—painful or impossible.

A woman suffering from vaginismus does not consciously control the spasm. The vaginismic reflex can be compared to the response of the eye shutting when an object comes towards it. The severity of vaginismus and the pain during penetration, including sexual penetration, varies from woman to woman



Dont know why i suddenly developed this but im just curious am i alone or has anyone else delt with this problem?
05/09/2011
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Contributor: zizfaye zizfaye
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I suffer form vaginismus

Definition- sometimes called anglicized vaginism is the German name for a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse, insertion of tampons, ... more
You are defiantly not alone. Approximately 1/500 women will experience vaginismus at some point in their lives.
I myself have recently been diagnosed with vaginismus. I have problems with examinations and often experience a
higher level of discomfort using tampons than is normal. There are treatments which have apparently been highly
successful. If you haven't already, I recommend talking with your gynecologist about what your options are for treatment.
05/09/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
Quote:
Originally posted by zizfaye
You are defiantly not alone. Approximately 1/500 women will experience vaginismus at some point in their lives.
I myself have recently been diagnosed with vaginismus. I have problems with examinations and often experience a
higher level of ... more
I'm so glad to know that iam NOT alone. I eneded up talking to a doctor and to find out mine has happened because of past sexual abuse, and im now dealing with it and it's showing up in this way.

but before this i had never even herd of it. When she said it to me i was like WTF lol

but im working on it and im SOOO glad that im not alone.
so i thank you so much for writing because some women do have it but they dont talk about it or even know they have it.
05/10/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I totally can relate! I have endometriosis and have since my teen years and I just had surgery for it this year, but still have it. To keep it from growing, I was put on depo-provera (7 years now) right after my surgery this year I was put on pain and anxiety meds which make a world of difference. Many don't know, but IBS is a common problem that shows up with endo. It's terribly uncomfortable and I've honestly not been able to live a regular life at all until recently. I've really just started to live. I know how you feel with the pain during things like tampons. I cannot use them at all! I don't have periods now, we finally were able to stop them with meds, but it took a few years and my partner and I couldn't ever have intercourse without me doubling over and holding my lower belly. It's much better now, but I wanted to ask you. Have you ever tried aloe vera pills? You may want to really look into it. I started taking coconut oil too and have only been regularly taking it for a week and today I started aloe vera pills (you can get them online but you need to be VERY careful which brand you choose as some of them will say 100% pure and it's not. the best bet in my opinion is natures factory because I'M very familiar with them and know they're 100% pure. Anyways, the aloe vera is supposed to be amazing and it's not pricey so it's worth the shot.

You can also request a VERY helpful booklet from them & theyll send it. Aloe pills help anything. They have been known to shrink tumors, help relieve rhumetoid arthritis, vaginitis, vaginosis, IBS, candidiasis, PMS symptoms, menstrual like pain, cramps, staph infection, hemorrhoids, psoriasis, herpes, aids, dandruff, ulcerative colitis, seborrhea,genital herpes, chronic fatigue syndrome, diabetes, allergies, bursitis, colic, constipation, dermatitis, acne, carbuncles, warts, vericose veins, and more!

It would probably help your condition. IF YOU'd like, I'd be happy to let you know how it works for me & my somewhat similar symptoms. It takes a while to work and see results, but I plan to write out mine and my experience. I'd be glad to let you know how it goes after Ive taken enough to know?
05/16/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
My best friend has recently developed this. She has been sexually active since 18 and is now 23. According to her doctor, vaginismus is particularly a mental thing. There are other reasons such as UTI or Endometriosis that can contribute.

If a female is upset or uncomfortable during forplay, this can lead to sex being painful. If you have had a recent rape/sexual abuse (or ever, for that matter) this can also cause a more mental form of vaginismus.

To pinpoint whether it is a bodily reflex or something mental, there are tests. Are you comfortable with inserting toys? Are you comfortable with inserting tampons? If you answer yes to one or both of the above, it may be more mentally/health related.

This doesn't mean you're crazy, it just means that there is something in your mind that may be keeping you from enjoying sex. You may not be fully opened up to your partner. You may engage in sexual play at times when you are upset or uncomfortable. Etc. Try working on longer foreplay, and start out with fingering before other penetration. Masturbating before can also help.

As for the health related - I mean another condition. Frequent untreated or recurring UTI's and yeast infections can worsen this. Try to get those under control. Take a cranberry supplement. AZO makes great ones. Your doctor can also prescribe some for you. Drink twice as much water as you have been drinking, and go to the restroom when you need to. Don't hold it in. Treat yeast infections as soon as you get one. Try to lessen their recurrence by eating foods that promote healthy yeast production of the body. Yogurt is one thing that is really good for you and should always be in your diet.

Try (if you can) and do your kegel exercises regularly with ben wa balls. These are AMAZING for those with vaginismus. Ben wa balls helped my best friend get over hers. It introduces that feeling of fullness to the vagina. Try using them while just walking around, meditation, yoga, etc. This also helps your body know when to squeeze, and when to release. Lessening that reflex of squeezing that leads to the swelling and pain. Glass is recommended. Once you have successfully mastered these balls, try incorporating a glass dildo. Something smooth on one side, and nubby on the other.

Good luck, please message me for more help! I have tons of tips but I'm ready to hit the sheets here soon. I hope you get better soon so you can enjoy your body! I also developed this when I was 15 due to a rape. It lasted a year and it was painful and depressing. Althought I should not have been having sex at the time, I couldn't even masturbate or use tampons. I know how you feel.
05/16/2011
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
I had never heard of this before...interesting.
05/17/2011