I'm in my early 30s and my friend in her late 30's just called me to let me know that they are on the way to the hospital so she can be induced. She has gained over 50 lbs and is smaller framed then me coming in shorter than 5'1" so is now pushing 200 lbs. As many of my girlfriends, starting in my 20s and following me still, have done they give me the nitty gritty details of pregnancy. The good(?), the bad, and the really really ugly. And as I get older, and attend countless baby showers, and witness way too many tits in a none sexual situation, and way to many National Geographic nipples, I feel less and less baby maternal. A new born and breast feeding and all that goes with it seems well, inconvenient. On the other side the man that has been in my life for many years has two kids, one just entering his teens, and had a Vasectomy not long after his second. Now before this turns into a 'you can still do it if you want to with your man', let me stop any of you right there, I know this, but it would still take some medical intervention either way, and I don't need him to have a baby, lets just be real. If I want one I can go out and impregnate myself anytime I want.
So down to my discussion point. Women of 30s and beyond- have you been in this mind set? Did you have a baby? On purpose or not? Did you adopt? Other circumstances I'm not considering. I know when things are right they are right, but is the universe maybe telling me babies are not something that is for me, now kids, different story, but babies? I do like the idea of a little person around that is half me, but a baby.... dunno.
May I ask that women (or men of women) in this situation answer? I appreciate people giving their input but it seems like things go off on tangents and the topic gets lost. I really would like to hear the experiences or opinions of the ladies that may be (or have been or will be) in a similar situation as me. less