Spin-off: what is your number?

Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'm curious as to the average number of sexual partners people here have had (for the purposes of this forum, let's say male partners that you've had intercourse with.) I was sort of shocked when my friend revealed she's slept with 13 guys (she's a little younger than me, 21.) Is that uncommon or do I just need to get with the times?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
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married with children , Dusk , mandiegk , ily , tickle me pink , PiratePrincess , The Curious Couple , IrishLassie , HotCouple , potstickers , Miss Anonymous , cheetahpita , ksparkles16 , pootpootpoot , Girly Juice , xOhxSoxScandalousx , LadyDarknezz , Doll In Dungarees , RiahPapaya
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two
bayosgirl , Jenyana , Coralbell , ZenaidaMacroura , Swish , PropertyOfPotter , peachmarie , Envy
8
three
darthkitt3n , Taylor , joja , cburger , geliebt , LusciousLollypop
6
four
js250 , Sweet-Justice , ToyGurl , LikeSunshineDust , Ace <3 , gloomybear
6
five or more
zeebot , BBW Talks Toys , boobookittyfuk , Waterfall , Vanessa Weiss , melissa1973 , Orion , JessCee , TheeGirlNextDoor , toxie m , Linga , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Beck , aliceinthehole , sexyintexas , emiliaa , l'amour , CoffeeCup , Tess , Tessa Taboo , kellyg , sarki , shySEXXaddict , daveysgirl , angel142stx , padmeamidala , Ms. Spice , levellc09 , Apirka , Katelyn , Do emu , TwistedTruth , SubmissiveFeminist , blacklodge , Kitka , epiphanyjayne , Nirelan , HannahPanda , beautifulbombshellVI
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I'm a virgin
DeliciousSurprise , Ansley , anonymouse , Booktease , Megan Jean , KyotoAngel , SalmiakkiVodka
7
Total votes: 85 (85 voters)
Poll is closed
07/09/2011
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Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Well, okay, here's the thing...

If we figure the median number for people is two a year (which I don't find to be an unreasonable number, if we average out for all those one-night stands, and the long term relationships that make us monogamous.) and figure that people start having sex at 18, by 30 you've fucked 24 people. By your fortieth birthday, you're working on number 44.


Using my algorithm, if she started having sex at 15, she's right on target with that 13. And, to be honest, I started having sex at fourteen, so she's behind my bell curve...


And, on the topic of your poll; I've never had sex (with a man).
07/09/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
just one, my wife. Same with here.
07/10/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Well, okay, here's the thing...

If we figure the median number for people is two a year (which I don't find to be an unreasonable number, if we average out for all those one-night stands, and the long term relationships that make us ... more
When I saw the "I'm a virgin" with your name behind it, I giggled. Well, actually, I snorted. But then I read your post and it makes sense and I can no longer giggle or snort.

I don't know how many men I've had sex with. I went through a time when I was about 19/20 where I was intoxicated and very promiscuous. But it's definitely more than 5. But I would say that according to the formula given by Delicious Surprise, it's fairly accurate for my number. Of course, for the past 10 years I have only had sex with one person.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Vanessa Weiss Vanessa Weiss
My number stands at less than ten, which I think is reasonable given that the number of people with whom I have been sexually intimate is, in general, in line with the actual relationships in which I have been involved. However, being BDSM/Kink-inclined, I have had several non-sexual play partners (whom I do not count) and a couple of "friends with benefits" whom I do.

Honestly, though, I don't know if there's a "normal" number — everybody's different!
07/10/2011
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
I started fooling around at 17 and now I'm 38 I've been with to many to count over the yesra (thank God I'm still 100% clean and never caught anything) but now I only have 2 that I play with.
07/10/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I'm curious as to the average number of sexual partners people here have had (for the purposes of this forum, let's say male partners that you've had intercourse with.) I was sort of shocked when my friend revealed she's slept with 13 ... more
Not as many as quite a fwe of my friends, but I never took sex casually. I still don't. But I sure like exploring the options within a relationship[!!!
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
If the voting wasn't public.
07/10/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I think that "five or more" category is going to turn into a huge pile-up of names. I was reading some magazine the other day and it was talking about the average number of partners an adult will have and it was anywhere between 10-20, depending on the gender and what country you were looking at.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I gave the actual number in another poll so I won't here but it is over 5 and in the last 9 years it's only been 1 person
07/10/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
Just my husband.
07/10/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Argh, I wish I could edit my post to make voting private and make more options instead of just 5 and over.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
gahhh totally ended up scrolling to 4. but the answer should be one ^^;
07/11/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
I've only been with my current partner.
07/11/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
hubby makes 6 guys but 2 girls so i guess thats 8! looking for more interested females though! for both of us to share
07/11/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
im 25 years old and i passed double digits at age 19, after starting having sex at age almost 18 yrs old.
that freshman year in college was a drunken doozy.

delish surprise's algorithm is quite accurate for me. i'm pushing 30 partners. i dont consider myself sexually promiscuous but i happen to end up in situations where the vibes are flowing and i feel a genuine connection with a person, and it has happened alot.

passionate beautiful sex has been the result. with alot of folks. lucky for me, still clean, and not too many regrets.

07/13/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I both had our first time together.
07/13/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
I love Delicious Surprises formula. I breathed a sigh of relief. I am 41 and got married to my first husband at 16, he was my first. By her formula that is 25 years. I have had between 25-30 partners. 5 of them women and the rest guys, most were in my late teens and early 20's. I got divorced at 18. Now it's just me and the mister and an occasional lady for fun
07/13/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
9 guys and 5 girls.
07/19/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I'm curious as to the average number of sexual partners people here have had (for the purposes of this forum, let's say male partners that you've had intercourse with.) I was sort of shocked when my friend revealed she's slept with 13 ... more
Probably should have been a poll without people's names showing.

You were "shocked" that someone had 13 partners? Really? Then you ask.... us?

As it is, I'm not answering.

Why only male partners? That would work for the straight women and the gay men. But, what about the hetero men and the lesbian women? Don't they count? (If they choose to participate.)
07/19/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
I've only been with my husband. My husband had 3-4 partners before me.
07/19/2011
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I've only been with my ex husband and my current boyfriend. It's just worked out that way.
07/20/2011
Contributor: HotCouple HotCouple
Just my husband for me I'm his only as well.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I'm curious as to the average number of sexual partners people here have had (for the purposes of this forum, let's say male partners that you've had intercourse with.) I was sort of shocked when my friend revealed she's slept with 13 ... more
Well, I had to answer that I'm a virgin. Though, I don't consider myself as such. I've had sex with only one person-- my current partner, a woman.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Probably should have been a poll without people's names showing.

You were "shocked" that someone had 13 partners? Really? Then you ask.... us?

As it is, I'm not answering.

Why only male partners? That would ... more
I was curious about the fact the names were shown, too. Hah. And yes, us poor lesbians! I felt strange saying I was a virgin. I sort of wish I hadn't done the poll at all!
08/14/2011
Contributor: Booktease Booktease
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Well, okay, here's the thing...

If we figure the median number for people is two a year (which I don't find to be an unreasonable number, if we average out for all those one-night stands, and the long term relationships that make us ... more
"And, on the topic of your poll; I've never had sex (with a man)."

Ditto.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
one
08/14/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Probably should have been a poll without people's names showing.

You were "shocked" that someone had 13 partners? Really? Then you ask.... us?

As it is, I'm not answering.

Why only male partners? That would ... more
Yes, was shocked...and am shocked.

There are plenty of other polls on this topic or I'd start another, anonymous one.

"Male partners" because this is a thread in the women's health section, and I consider "intercourse" to be penetrative sex between a man and a woman. No offense intended at all towards lesbians.
08/15/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
When I saw the "I'm a virgin" with your name behind it, I giggled. Well, actually, I snorted. But then I read your post and it makes sense and I can no longer giggle or snort.

I don't know how many men I've had sex with. ... more
funny!I snort when I laugh hard too!-it gets embarrassing!
08/15/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Booktease
I was curious about the fact the names were shown, too. Hah. And yes, us poor lesbians! I felt strange saying I was a virgin. I sort of wish I hadn't done the poll at all!
Yep. There's a lot of ways to have sex, and some of them don't include "intercourse with a man." Yet, IMO, they certainly count as "sex" as well as anything else.
08/15/2011