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Soooo ladies! How to you let your partner know you're cumming?

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Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I meant how DO you let your partner know.. Sorry for the mess up


I've talked to a couple of close friends who say they just say "I'm cumming". I have one friend who has a tap system, because she doesn't make noise during sexual activity (odd huh?). With me I don't have to say anything. He knows by the way the sounds change. My boyfriend says that the moaning chages that how he knows.

Do you have to let your partner know its about to happen? Or can they tell on their own?
09/03/2011
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Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
If I'm about to come, I have no way to let him know. Once I'm to that point, I'm incapable of talking or thinking clearly enough to do anything to let him know. But he usually can tell just by the way my back arches or I speed up, or on the rare occasions that I'm moaning loud enough, he can tell from that.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
We don't do anything special, we just read each other's body language. It's usually pretty easy to tell.
09/03/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
He just knows lol
09/03/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
He knows from my heart rate and my breathing (and the noises I make when I get noisy.) I've never seen the need to announce it, if he can't tell, he doesn't need to know. (he always knows...)
09/03/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I think body language (includes arching back, changing heartbeat, changing breathing, and usually my vagina squeezing him extra-hard, and squirting if that happens) usually gets the point across, but I also will occasionally breathe a "fuck!" out before I lose control of my vocal chords.

If it was a small one without definitively arched back, but I still need a minute's respite before continuing, I'll either ask him "hold me," or I'll hug him real tight, or whatever is appropriate/possible given our positioning and the mood of sex that session.

And if it's not the type I need a minute to recuperate from, I'll either let him know by continuing my half of the thrust, or telling him "keep fucking me" or something.

We usually have a pretty clear idea of where we both are, I think. My eyes tend to be rolled back a greater % of the time than his, so he's usually almost as aware of how my body's feeling as I am. It took a fair amount of communication early on to make it to that point, though.
09/03/2011
Contributor: BellaDonna2884 BellaDonna2884
My breathing and the sounds of my moans change.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Antipova
I think body language (includes arching back, changing heartbeat, changing breathing, and usually my vagina squeezing him extra-hard, and squirting if that happens) usually gets the point across, but I also will occasionally breathe a ... more
I do pretty much the same things like you did -- I thought I'm the only one who rolls my eyes and arches my back when I'm cumming!
09/03/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Sometimes I make a lot of noise during sex sometimes I don't, but he can always tell by my body language or even feel changes while he's inside of me
09/03/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
I'm fairly vocal so he knows by how loud I get, he groans so I know as well.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
tell him before hand.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I meant how DO you let your partner know.. Sorry for the mess up


I've talked to a couple of close friends who say they just say "I'm cumming". I have one friend who has a tap system, because she doesn't make noise ... more
I usually just tell him! But he can always tell when I'm close!
09/03/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I don't generally announce when I'm about to cum. He pointed out recently that he knows when I'm about to cum because my thighs start to quiver, I breathe harder and I start pulling him closer to me.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ace <3 Ace <3
I usually wrap my legs around her and pull her onto me even more. It's usually pretty obvious. We've gotten really good at reading body language.
09/03/2011
Contributor: EJ EJ
I usually quiver and my muscles tense and release, then I relax and become quiet.
09/03/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
Usually I have to ask permission but even when I don't he knows by the way my sounds change and then I usually say something
09/03/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I will tell him, he is constantly asking me "are you close?" talk about pressure to cum!!!!

Seriously though, I am not sure he would be able to tell, I am a very moany, fidgety type of girl during sex. It gets hard for him to tell if it's an orgasm moan or if it is just plain good sex moaning. I think the only way he would know is if he felt my contractions around his shaft, that would be a big giveaway.

I tell him when I am close, then as I feel the orgasm roll in, I tell him I am cumming and tell him to fuck me like crazy (I like rapid hard thrusts as I orgasm).
09/03/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I tend to make a fair amount of noise when I orgasm (as long as I don't HAVE to be quiet) so my partner will usually know. However, there are times when I will say "I am cumming".
09/03/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I don't have to let him know, it's pretty obvious for me.
09/04/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
we dont need to tell each other, we just know.
09/04/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I almost always say when I'm about to come, but even if I don't say it he tells me I make a pretty distinct set of noises so he can still tell.
09/04/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Body language and I also tell him I am going to cum beforehand - I am a squirter!
09/04/2011
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I meant how DO you let your partner know.. Sorry for the mess up


I've talked to a couple of close friends who say they just say "I'm cumming". I have one friend who has a tap system, because she doesn't make noise ... more
I dont let him know ..i dont have to.He can tell by the way my body tightens
09/04/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
If a guy can't read my body language - we aren't going to make it far!
But a partner who is in tune with me will learn the signs pretty easily.
09/04/2011
Contributor: Fantasy Treasures Fantasy Treasures
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Originally posted by shySEXXaddict
I dont let him know ..i dont have to.He can tell by the way my body tightens
Same here, pretty much. If we're engaging in some other play besides vaginal sex, however, there are pretty obvious outward signs as well.
09/07/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by Miss Anonymous
I meant how DO you let your partner know.. Sorry for the mess up


I've talked to a couple of close friends who say they just say "I'm cumming". I have one friend who has a tap system, because she doesn't make noise ... more
Well... this seems to work for me ( Its a quick vid of me in the throws of passion on a little mid day hook up and its naughty so only look if you want and its not safe gor work) lol

link
09/07/2011