I think everyone will describe it differently. For me, it's like... I don't know... like... I have to pee, and sneeze and yawn and then Boom! I do those three things at once and it's like a giant relief. Then I get really tired and I don't want to move. :-D

You'll get to that point someday, you just have to figure out what works for you! I found that if a toy I use has really intense vibrations, I just have to use it on the side of my clit instead of directly on it.

I feel like I get almost there, sometimes. Like I'm at the cusp of something that's going to be really phenomenal, but I can't reach it. The only way I can really describe it is like walking the wrong way on an escalator - you can see the end, but you can't get any closer to it.

I have a friend that has the same issue. Her and I aren't THAT open about sex, but the topic has come up. I wish that I could help her by giving her advice but I think it would just make her uncomfortable. I hope that I can help you somehow!

It's hard for a lot of women to get off just from sex alone. What kind of toy do you have? If it's purely clitoral, you could try using it WHILE having sex. I find that this gets me off rather quickly. Keep in mind, you're not broken, and you're not the only one that is in this situation!

You might want to try a different kind of vibrator that might work better for you. Also, choose a time when you have plenty of time so you won't feel pressured. Then, start to explore by yourself. Don't worry about having an orgasm, just pay attention to how things feel. If something feels good, keep doing it. Just enjoy the feeling and let go of your desperate desire to have an orgasm.

Also, I don't know how old you are, but a lot of women do not have orgasms until they get to a certain age. I didn't have any until I was well into my 20's - it was just a function of physiology as far as I can tell, because now in my 30's I always have multiples. So that might be making a difference for you too.

For me, an orgasm feels like a build up of tension, and then wave after wave crashing down on me... but from the inside. It's like every muscle in my body wants to simultaneously flex and relax at the same time.

The toy I have is this one from Hustler (my beau's mom likes to go to the Hustler casino for poker nights). It's kind of like a ghetto version of the Hitatchi magic wand. It's small compared to the Hitachi, hot pink, with four or five settings, none of which are comfortable for an extended period of time. Not to mention the material is this kind of disgusting lint trap.

My boy and I have tried using it while we make love, but it is too bulky for most positions, and definitely for the ones that feel best. I'm working on getting myself a smaller clitoral vibe (maybe the Mimi or Siri), but the quality ones are too far out of my price range for right now.

My suggestion is a pocket rocket. They aren't too pricey and, for me, it's amazing! Mine has just the right intensity for me, and it's small enough to use during sex. As indiglo said though, you really have to just explore yourself!

I'll check out your reviews and try to save up. Thanks!

For me I have two types of orgasms. I have one that is localized around my pussy, and that one feels like, this is harder to describe than I imagined, ummm the closest thing I can comare it to is imagine you have a really really intense workout and the feeling after you stop, that let down feeling combined with a intense muscle cramp when you release the muscle, the sensation after the muscle cramp is gone but the ache is still there and the blood is really pounding in the area. The other type if more of a intense full body orgasm. Those start in my pussy and then grow more intense of an aching type feeling and then the feeling extends from there to literally every nerve in my body. I will sometime actually get chills. I think the blood flow to my brain literally shuts off as my head will get really hot afterwards as the blood returns. I actually blacked out once after a really intense long orgasm. My skin feels like after you have been out in the really cold weather too long and the blood is returning to your skin and you get that almost burning warm sensation. The smaller orgasms for me will last maybe 5 seconds after they peak but the big ones the sensation will last probably 20 seconds or so at its peak (if I had to guess, time has no real meaning at that point) If I can think of how to describe it better I will come back, but I think it is hard to describe. Kind of like describe the taste of double fudge brownie ice cream to someone who has never had it.The small orgasms are usually a result of clitoral stimulation where as the most intense ones I get from a combination of clit and penetration and come easiest when I am riding on top of him.