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Contributor: allme1 allme1
ok my wife is 39 and for the last year when we have sex its tender in there for her. She says its not to bad just tender . We know she has no stds or anything like that what could it be? Have any of you had this trouble

There is no vagina dryness,no smell or lumps or anything odd just its allways tender and it never was before. yes we have lube but shes good. She all ways has a lot of her own. The only thing is her insides are tender and sore when we have sex. We have looked up all kinds of stuff and we don't think its menopauses but we did not find much on caner and what we did find was vage on the pain part so we are super worried now.
11/13/2012
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Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by allme1
ok my wife is 39 and for the last year when we have sex its tender in there for her. She says its not to bad just tender . We know she has no stds or anything like that what could it be? Have any of you had this trouble

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When was her last pelvic exam/pap? Has she discussed this with her doctor? If not, i'd highly recommend it.
Also, does she masturbate with any kind of penetration, her own fingers or toys, and if so, is she sore from those things too, or just during partner sex? What about if you use your fingers to penetrate her before PIV sex?
11/14/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
It could be a minor to serious issue. Do not borrow trouble--it may be as minor as bruising from previous sexual penetration. I would suggest she get a check up to see if it could be a bladder infection or UTI. Good luck and please keep us informed!!
11/14/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Also recommending she see a doctor. Even if the irritation is minor, it could be a symptom of a larger issue.

Another thought though -- have either or both of you made any changes to your personal care products lately? I know I had some sensitivity issues one time that my husband changed bath soaps. Turns out I was allergic to something in the soap he switched to.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
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Originally posted by allme1
ok my wife is 39 and for the last year when we have sex its tender in there for her. She says its not to bad just tender . We know she has no stds or anything like that what could it be? Have any of you had this trouble

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I think it's best if your wife sees a doctor about this problem.
11/14/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
I would definitely agree with everyone else suggesting that she see a doctor. I would also recommend that your wife keep a pain journal prior to the doctors appointment. Ask her to write down when she has pain, what it feels like, and how she would rate it on a 1-10 pain scale. Journals like that can be helpful at the doctors office. Good luck, I hope you get everything figured out
11/15/2012
Contributor: allme1 allme1
Thank you guys for your help. i will post when we know more.
11/15/2012
Contributor: DirtyAngel7 DirtyAngel7
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Originally posted by allme1
ok my wife is 39 and for the last year when we have sex its tender in there for her. She says its not to bad just tender . We know she has no stds or anything like that what could it be? Have any of you had this trouble

There is no vagina ... more
As a woman in the medical field, I strongly urge an apointment with the gynecologist. Tell them everything that has happened over the past year and make a journal, that is great help for the doctor and staff.
11/25/2012