I have never had a g-spot orgasm. Does this mean I will probably never have one?
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10/17/2010
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Nope just means that you or your partner have not found it yet.
10/17/2010
Honestly it's not that hard. Knowledge of female sexual anatomy is surprisingly rare but extraordinarily helpful. If you want to you can - if you tell yourself you can't I assure you it will be a self-fulfilling prophesy.
10/17/2010
Theoretically, the G-Spot is just the "other side" of your clitoris. Maybe try eyeballing it from the outside and see if you can feel anything from that spot internally.
10/21/2010
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Nope, it might mean that, but more likely you haven't found it yet.
Originally posted by
socceras
I have never had a g-spot orgasm. Does this mean I will probably never have one?
10/21/2010
When I finally found mine...WOW! Its not hard. You will find it. And it will be soo worth the trouble it was to find it.
10/21/2010
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How did you find it? My lover doesn't beleive that she has one and that they really don't exist.
Originally posted by
Danielle1220
When I finally found mine...WOW! Its not hard. You will find it. And it will be soo worth the trouble it was to find it.
I would really like to work on finding hers. Any suggestions?
10/25/2010
I don't know how I could have missed mine. At least now it's got a name. I would absolutely believe it is the "other side of my clitoris because I feel like my clitoris is being stimulated when I am hitting it. (not literally hitting)
10/30/2010
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Originally posted by
mm4sa
How did you find it? My lover doesn't beleive that she has one and that they really don't exist.
I would really like to work on finding hers. Any suggestions?
I would really like to work on finding hers. Any suggestions?
10/30/2010
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Excellent link! (Also, oh YouTube, never change. *eyeroll*)
Originally posted by
Emma (Girl With Fire)
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10/30/2010
I looked it up specifically for that reason. I had ever seen it but figured it wouldn't take 5 minutes to find something good. I have to agree, that was the most information I have ever heard regarding the G spot.
10/30/2010
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this is a great link.
Originally posted by
Emma (Girl With Fire)
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10/31/2010
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Keep on trying patience and practice
Originally posted by
socceras
I have never had a g-spot orgasm. Does this mean I will probably never have one?
11/06/2010
Practice makes perfect! You will find it soon
03/11/2011
Listening to Sex W/ Jaiya, self proclaimed sex/anatomy geek, on podcasts she talks about how sometimes the g-spot has become numb/desensitized d/t trauma/childbirth and that regular massage can bring it down and increase sensitivity. I was/am not very sensitive vaginally but w/ massage/pleasure times I have increased the sensations in my vagina. So enjoy the process and focus on the sensations.
As far as squirting goes... I learned to continue GENTLY/KINDLY stimulating my clit w/ and after an orgasm (I call it "milking my clit") and relax the pelvic floor muscles and viola!! It can be small gush to a roaring squirt and afterwards a smile!! =)
As far as squirting goes... I learned to continue GENTLY/KINDLY stimulating my clit w/ and after an orgasm (I call it "milking my clit") and relax the pelvic floor muscles and viola!! It can be small gush to a roaring squirt and afterwards a smile!! =)
07/17/2011
Nope just means you need take time to find it as does your partner! Maybe try a g spot toy!
07/17/2011
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I like listening to Jaiya - but sometimes she seems a little over the top. One thing I agree with her on is the 'use it or lose it' hypothesis. Certainly more sexual activity designed to stimulate the vagina, the greater your capacity to enjoy it will become. I think some of that is mental - some physical. Being both mentally and physically engaged is creating/giving pleasure is vital for human/sexual health.
Originally posted by
Pleasure gal
Listening to Sex W/ Jaiya, self proclaimed sex/anatomy geek, on podcasts she talks about how sometimes the g-spot has become numb/desensitized d/t trauma/childbirth and that regular massage can bring it down and increase sensitivity. I was/am not
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Listening to Sex W/ Jaiya, self proclaimed sex/anatomy geek, on podcasts she talks about how sometimes the g-spot has become numb/desensitized d/t trauma/childbirth and that regular massage can bring it down and increase sensitivity. I was/am not very sensitive vaginally but w/ massage/pleasure times I have increased the sensations in my vagina. So enjoy the process and focus on the sensations.
As far as squirting goes... I learned to continue GENTLY/KINDLY stimulating my clit w/ and after an orgasm (I call it "milking my clit") and relax the pelvic floor muscles and viola!! It can be small gush to a roaring squirt and afterwards a smile!! =) less
As far as squirting goes... I learned to continue GENTLY/KINDLY stimulating my clit w/ and after an orgasm (I call it "milking my clit") and relax the pelvic floor muscles and viola!! It can be small gush to a roaring squirt and afterwards a smile!! =) less
07/18/2011
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Yes she is sometimes over the top, but right on w/ anatomy.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I like listening to Jaiya - but sometimes she seems a little over the top. One thing I agree with her on is the 'use it or lose it' hypothesis. Certainly more sexual activity designed to stimulate the vagina, the greater your capacity to
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I like listening to Jaiya - but sometimes she seems a little over the top. One thing I agree with her on is the 'use it or lose it' hypothesis. Certainly more sexual activity designed to stimulate the vagina, the greater your capacity to enjoy it will become. I think some of that is mental - some physical. Being both mentally and physically engaged is creating/giving pleasure is vital for human/sexual health.
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Not sure about losing it, I was 47 (ending a 27yr marriage) when I felt like I was awakened sexually. At 48 learned how to squirt and am enjoying the pleasure my body was created to have!! (not something that happened in my marriage)
07/23/2011
just means you haven't hit the right spot
12/14/2011
My partner finds mine easily while I have a slightly harder time. I am big on studying my body at least once aday. Weirdly it changes sometimes. Use your fingers and toys to explore ...pressing and rubbg on the front wall upwards to your belly button. You will feel a spot like a spongy walnut and when you stimulate it you will feel a urge to pee. That's the spot. Have fun exploring!
12/21/2011
I'm the same way I've been trying for something like 5 years to find my g-spot and read everything I can possibly find.. no dice!! I wish you the best of luck though, and do keep trying
02/03/2012
It takes time. I've had one and i've been working at it for ages.
10/29/2012
Keep looking!
11/04/2012
It's probably worth mentioning that the Gspot doesn't always become obvious until you are well and truly aroused. The anterior wall of my vagina feels just like the posterior wall (sort of rubbery and slippery!) but as i get close to a climax my Gspot becomes raised slightly and feels a bit "bumpy". Also, I don't like my Gspot played with too much until I am aroused.
11/05/2012
no. once you find it you will know! i recently found mine. I am now in love with my g-spot toys!
01/05/2013
I haven't had one yet either
01/06/2013
Here are my (long) thoughts on this, for anyone who hasn't 'hit the spot' yet: I'm 44, been sexual for now well over most of my life -- and though I know I've had at some point "some sort of g-spot orgasm," last weekend We Found The Holy Grail -- So, YES -- it's possible!
What started off as 'lying there touching and I thought there was going to be the first time of him actually putting a full hand inside of me' - something we've talked about for a while, and I knew he'd be able to do it easily as he's got small hands, so I was very relaxed...turned into something else ENTIRELY... No exaggeration here, because as I write, at some points, I almost wished it hadn't happened... and YET:
-----I honestly did not think it was humanly possible to come for (at least) 20 minutes straight (not to mention there were several instances of 'female ejaculation'). I lost it -- lost my mind, body, heart, whatever else you could put in there. (I actually said after the whole thing, "Okay. I can just shoot myself now!" As in, I felt both fully-satiated but personally-too-muched) . Completely undone, out of control, off the chain, forget any possibility of even controlling my voice, body -- anything.
Then we had sex, with me on top, and with him inside me, it happened several times more; at some point, I moved him out of me and laid on top of him and -still- continued to come; I actually had to concentrate on my body calming down.
Yes, totally awesome, amazing, never thought it was possible. That was the GREAT piece -- and so, yep, keep trying!
To be completely frank, as much as I loved it, I had a lot of what in "BDSM"-talk (which is not where we were) is called 'subdrop'. While, who -wouldn't- want to come for that long?! -- the residual feelings left me with a lot of conflicting emotions, feelings, and physiological chemical reactions mentally/physically that were confusing (wiki 'subdrop' and how that chemistry works if that doesn't make sense)... I needed a lot of reassurance that it was okay. It felt awesome that he told me I was radiant and sexy, because it sure felt anything -but- to lose all control! I adore and trust...yet I needed to do some reading, and really _get_ this understood, and personally reconciled. So I came home and started reading...
Here's something that resonated: (apologies to where I found it and can't remember; and, I'm _almost_ there; a quotation I found): "Knowledge about and stimulation of the G spot is every woman's birthright." Okay: I can start there, I thought.
See, there was a slight feeling of "somehow, he now has the 'upper hand'" -- I've always been a 'pleaser' -- and I've always been ably to please everyone else mayyyybe a teensy bit more than they've been able to please me. So, this was Amazing, Awesome, Incredible. And, I want more! But, I need to resolve some of my feelings about it, finish my own aftercare, and do still need to deal with finishing the open and honest communication between the other half and I...because, TO GET THERE -- at least if you're with another person : that's definitely where it starts, and where it continues.
YES -- I think it's possible for _most_ people. There are SO MANY RESOURCES -- too many -- "out there" that it gets confusing. I've done a LOT of reading in the last week, trying to figure out a lot of stuff. AND, I don't think -anyone- should feel 'badly' or 'less' if they _can't_ get there.
Thoughts on it from me are: 1-learn all the physiology possible -- every woman's body honestly is different. That damn squirrely thing literally can be in a LOT of places. 2-truly find a way to relax: it certainly wouldn't have happened, I don't think, if I hadn't been 'relaxing' because I expecting what I -thought- was going to happen; and if I'd been 'tensing up' in any way for any orgasm potential, it -never- would have occurred. 3-I've been trying (for a lot of reasons: 'reclaiming it' because of my own issues, mostly) to make it happen since -- and am finding 'too much stimulation,' doesn't work. Also, and this might help, 'bearing down' into it when you start to 'feel...something' yet keeping your _body_ relaxed may help.
Keep VERY relaxed, experiment, use a partner or a toy to find the spot if you can't feel it with your fingers, and read all sorts of resources of different 'places' or 'positions' to find it.
What started off as 'lying there touching and I thought there was going to be the first time of him actually putting a full hand inside of me' - something we've talked about for a while, and I knew he'd be able to do it easily as he's got small hands, so I was very relaxed...turned into something else ENTIRELY... No exaggeration here, because as I write, at some points, I almost wished it hadn't happened... and YET:
-----I honestly did not think it was humanly possible to come for (at least) 20 minutes straight (not to mention there were several instances of 'female ejaculation'). I lost it -- lost my mind, body, heart, whatever else you could put in there. (I actually said after the whole thing, "Okay. I can just shoot myself now!" As in, I felt both fully-satiated but personally-too-muched) . Completely undone, out of control, off the chain, forget any possibility of even controlling my voice, body -- anything.
Then we had sex, with me on top, and with him inside me, it happened several times more; at some point, I moved him out of me and laid on top of him and -still- continued to come; I actually had to concentrate on my body calming down.
Yes, totally awesome, amazing, never thought it was possible. That was the GREAT piece -- and so, yep, keep trying!
To be completely frank, as much as I loved it, I had a lot of what in "BDSM"-talk (which is not where we were) is called 'subdrop'. While, who -wouldn't- want to come for that long?! -- the residual feelings left me with a lot of conflicting emotions, feelings, and physiological chemical reactions mentally/physically that were confusing (wiki 'subdrop' and how that chemistry works if that doesn't make sense)... I needed a lot of reassurance that it was okay. It felt awesome that he told me I was radiant and sexy, because it sure felt anything -but- to lose all control! I adore and trust...yet I needed to do some reading, and really _get_ this understood, and personally reconciled. So I came home and started reading...
Here's something that resonated: (apologies to where I found it and can't remember; and, I'm _almost_ there; a quotation I found): "Knowledge about and stimulation of the G spot is every woman's birthright." Okay: I can start there, I thought.
See, there was a slight feeling of "somehow, he now has the 'upper hand'" -- I've always been a 'pleaser' -- and I've always been ably to please everyone else mayyyybe a teensy bit more than they've been able to please me. So, this was Amazing, Awesome, Incredible. And, I want more! But, I need to resolve some of my feelings about it, finish my own aftercare, and do still need to deal with finishing the open and honest communication between the other half and I...because, TO GET THERE -- at least if you're with another person : that's definitely where it starts, and where it continues.
YES -- I think it's possible for _most_ people. There are SO MANY RESOURCES -- too many -- "out there" that it gets confusing. I've done a LOT of reading in the last week, trying to figure out a lot of stuff. AND, I don't think -anyone- should feel 'badly' or 'less' if they _can't_ get there.
Thoughts on it from me are: 1-learn all the physiology possible -- every woman's body honestly is different. That damn squirrely thing literally can be in a LOT of places. 2-truly find a way to relax: it certainly wouldn't have happened, I don't think, if I hadn't been 'relaxing' because I expecting what I -thought- was going to happen; and if I'd been 'tensing up' in any way for any orgasm potential, it -never- would have occurred. 3-I've been trying (for a lot of reasons: 'reclaiming it' because of my own issues, mostly) to make it happen since -- and am finding 'too much stimulation,' doesn't work. Also, and this might help, 'bearing down' into it when you start to 'feel...something' yet keeping your _body_ relaxed may help.
Keep VERY relaxed, experiment, use a partner or a toy to find the spot if you can't feel it with your fingers, and read all sorts of resources of different 'places' or 'positions' to find it.
02/05/2013
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