My BF is a salesman and I sell advertising on line, with the terrible economy we have both struggled the past 2 years and I feel like a lot of the reason why I have no sex drive can be due to all the money stress. Do you think this is true?
Does economic stress affect your sexual drive?
03/12/2011
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Any type of stress I think depresses my sex drive
03/13/2011
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same with me.
Originally posted by
SexyStuff
Any type of stress I think depresses my sex drive
03/13/2011
Indeed. :/
03/13/2011
I think that when I am stressed about money or homework or other personal problems then my sex drive suffers as well
03/13/2011
Stress can affect sex drive but only if you let it. You still have to be able to turn off the stress and just let go with some great sexual energy because life is just too damned short to worry and kill yourself with constant stress. I know it's easier said than done but sex and love is truly above everything else in the end. Money IS secondary and when I'm on my deathbed I hopefully am going to have memories of the great sex I had rather than all the money that I didn't have.
03/13/2011
My husband and I have experienced a tremendous amount of stress over the past few years (husband got laid off, teenage son getting in lots of trouble, increased stress at my job, etc.), but we have found sex to be a fantastic outlet for the stress. We try to spend a lot of time together being much more intimate with each other.
Yes, the stress has been really tough, but we have never had better sex in our 20+ years together. When you are in the throes of a powerful orgasm, you're not thinking about the finances, or the kids, or anything else...you are just focused on the intense pleasure you are experiencing
Yes, the stress has been really tough, but we have never had better sex in our 20+ years together. When you are in the throes of a powerful orgasm, you're not thinking about the finances, or the kids, or anything else...you are just focused on the intense pleasure you are experiencing
03/13/2011
Money has never affected my own sex drive, but stress in general seems to affect my lady's. Stress just tends to make me want to have sex more: it becomes a downward spiral.
03/13/2011
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Other stress sometimes effect my mood, but not eco- stress. I do however see how it could certainly effect your sex life. Stress in general is hard to deal with.
Originally posted by
virtualmirage
My BF is a salesman and I sell advertising on line, with the terrible economy we have both struggled the past 2 years and I feel like a lot of the reason why I have no sex drive can be due to all the money stress. Do you think this is true?
03/13/2011
I voted for the wife as mine has only grown. Since I lost my job two years ago, the wife's drive has gone down, I was lucky to get some once a week. But, since I got a job last week, we have had more sex than the last month.
Stress of any kind sucks!
Stress of any kind sucks!
03/13/2011
Whenever I'm stressed, whatever the cause, I lose my drive. I tend to put a lot of pressure of myself, thereby creating more stress and during those times, my sex life is usually found wanting.
03/13/2011
I sort of oppose the general rule- stress definitely affects my sex drive, but usually by sending me diving for the bedroom *more* often than usual. Sometimes it seems like the easiest way to clear my head.
I was really interested to read the "Dating a Banker Anonymous" blogwhen it first went live during Sept - Nov 2008, when the DOW tanked and many girls accustomed to men living high lifestyles were confronted with lots of change. Many of the girls cried about their boyfriends complete disinterest or declines in performance. One or two said "This is insane, sex is all he ever wants to do anymore."
Most of that blog was interesting, but I did get really upset when reading about how some girl with a Wolf oven used it as a shoe rack. I would sell my own teeth for a Wolf oven! I felt like I should have gone and swapped her for my Kitchenaid- I'm sure they hold shoes equally well.
I was really interested to read the "Dating a Banker Anonymous" blogwhen it first went live during Sept - Nov 2008, when the DOW tanked and many girls accustomed to men living high lifestyles were confronted with lots of change. Many of the girls cried about their boyfriends complete disinterest or declines in performance. One or two said "This is insane, sex is all he ever wants to do anymore."
Most of that blog was interesting, but I did get really upset when reading about how some girl with a Wolf oven used it as a shoe rack. I would sell my own teeth for a Wolf oven! I felt like I should have gone and swapped her for my Kitchenaid- I'm sure they hold shoes equally well.
03/13/2011
Yes, money stress and sometimes other factors affect my sex drive. Same with my husband. Sometimes we just aren't that into it.
03/13/2011
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I read this on another post too, so I guess some couples can actually bond even more when going through problems but for some reason we are not. If anything we are drifting further and further apart.
Originally posted by
Kitt Katt
My husband and I have experienced a tremendous amount of stress over the past few years (husband got laid off, teenage son getting in lots of trouble, increased stress at my job, etc.), but we have found sex to be a fantastic outlet for the stress.
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My husband and I have experienced a tremendous amount of stress over the past few years (husband got laid off, teenage son getting in lots of trouble, increased stress at my job, etc.), but we have found sex to be a fantastic outlet for the stress. We try to spend a lot of time together being much more intimate with each other.
Yes, the stress has been really tough, but we have never had better sex in our 20+ years together. When you are in the throes of a powerful orgasm, you're not thinking about the finances, or the kids, or anything else...you are just focused on the intense pleasure you are experiencing less
Yes, the stress has been really tough, but we have never had better sex in our 20+ years together. When you are in the throes of a powerful orgasm, you're not thinking about the finances, or the kids, or anything else...you are just focused on the intense pleasure you are experiencing less
03/14/2011
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Good for you! I am both happy that you got a job, because right now it is really tough out there and happy for the more sex.
Originally posted by
ToyTimeTim
I voted for the wife as mine has only grown. Since I lost my job two years ago, the wife's drive has gone down, I was lucky to get some once a week. But, since I got a job last week, we have had more sex than the last month.
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Stress of ... more
I voted for the wife as mine has only grown. Since I lost my job two years ago, the wife's drive has gone down, I was lucky to get some once a week. But, since I got a job last week, we have had more sex than the last month.
Stress of any kind sucks! less
Stress of any kind sucks! less
03/14/2011
Unfortunately, it does.
03/14/2011
I couldn't answer. The economy which has effected My Man and I VERY seriously, doesn't effect my sex drive, but it does effect his.
I'm the one out of work. Yet, he worries about money, even when we used to have it. His parents were misers and he is terrible with money. The thing is, he thinks he great with money.
I'd love to have more of a say in our money issues, but it's not just our dynamic (a D/S relationship) but he has this horrible remnant from his father "I make the money so it's up to me what happens." Yet, he recently gets upset when I'm not bringing money in.
His mother NEVER worked outside the home. I gave up Medical School, a while ago, because he wanted me to stay home and raise the kids. I'm glad I raised my own kids, but this economy has TRASHED us like nothing else. We are at the age where we should be settled, but we are worse off than we were BEFORE the Bush Administration.
It sucks. But, he lets it effect his sex drive. I put it out of my mind, and I am basically horny all the time. IMO, sex relaxes us, so I think we should go with it.
We usually have sex 6 to 10 times a week. We went FIVE day without sex last week (I think there was a quickie in there, but still) and that doesn't happen to us.
He needs to chill......or stop spending so much fucking money on booze and cigarettes.
I kind of put my foot down yesterday and let him know our little one needed SHOES, for God's sake, and some clothes, and he finally gave me a credit card that wasn't maxed out, so I could get some things for her and for the house.
It REALLY SUCKS.
I'm the one out of work. Yet, he worries about money, even when we used to have it. His parents were misers and he is terrible with money. The thing is, he thinks he great with money.
I'd love to have more of a say in our money issues, but it's not just our dynamic (a D/S relationship) but he has this horrible remnant from his father "I make the money so it's up to me what happens." Yet, he recently gets upset when I'm not bringing money in.
His mother NEVER worked outside the home. I gave up Medical School, a while ago, because he wanted me to stay home and raise the kids. I'm glad I raised my own kids, but this economy has TRASHED us like nothing else. We are at the age where we should be settled, but we are worse off than we were BEFORE the Bush Administration.
It sucks. But, he lets it effect his sex drive. I put it out of my mind, and I am basically horny all the time. IMO, sex relaxes us, so I think we should go with it.
We usually have sex 6 to 10 times a week. We went FIVE day without sex last week (I think there was a quickie in there, but still) and that doesn't happen to us.
He needs to chill......or stop spending so much fucking money on booze and cigarettes.
I kind of put my foot down yesterday and let him know our little one needed SHOES, for God's sake, and some clothes, and he finally gave me a credit card that wasn't maxed out, so I could get some things for her and for the house.
It REALLY SUCKS.
03/14/2011
I couldn't answer. The economy which has effected My Man and I VERY seriously, doesn't effect my sex drive, but it does effect his.
I'm the one out of work. Yet, he worries about money, even when we used to have it. His parents were misers and he is terrible with money. The thing is, he thinks he great with money.
I'd love to have more of a say in our money issues, but it's not just our dynamic (a D/S relationship) but he has this horrible remnant from his father "I make the money so it's up to me what happens." Yet, he recently gets upset when I'm not bringing money in.
His mother NEVER worked outside the home. I gave up Medical School, when we first got a home together, because he wanted me to stay home and raise the kids. I'm glad I raised my own kids, but this economy has TRASHED us like nothing else. We are at the age where we should be settled, but we are worse off than we were BEFORE the Bush Administration.
It sucks. But, he lets it effect his sex drive. I put it out of my mind, and I am basically horny all the time. IMO, sex relaxes us, so I think we should go with it.
We usually have sex 6 to 10 times a week. We went FIVE day without sex last week (I think there was a quickie in there, but still) and that doesn't happen to us.
He needs to chill......or stop spending so much fucking money on booze and cigarettes.
I kind of put my foot down yesterday and let him know our little one needed SHOES, for God's sake, and some clothes, and he finally gave me a credit card that wasn't maxed out, so I could get some things for her and for the house.
It REALLY SUCKS.
I'm the one out of work. Yet, he worries about money, even when we used to have it. His parents were misers and he is terrible with money. The thing is, he thinks he great with money.
I'd love to have more of a say in our money issues, but it's not just our dynamic (a D/S relationship) but he has this horrible remnant from his father "I make the money so it's up to me what happens." Yet, he recently gets upset when I'm not bringing money in.
His mother NEVER worked outside the home. I gave up Medical School, when we first got a home together, because he wanted me to stay home and raise the kids. I'm glad I raised my own kids, but this economy has TRASHED us like nothing else. We are at the age where we should be settled, but we are worse off than we were BEFORE the Bush Administration.
It sucks. But, he lets it effect his sex drive. I put it out of my mind, and I am basically horny all the time. IMO, sex relaxes us, so I think we should go with it.
We usually have sex 6 to 10 times a week. We went FIVE day without sex last week (I think there was a quickie in there, but still) and that doesn't happen to us.
He needs to chill......or stop spending so much fucking money on booze and cigarettes.
I kind of put my foot down yesterday and let him know our little one needed SHOES, for God's sake, and some clothes, and he finally gave me a credit card that wasn't maxed out, so I could get some things for her and for the house.
It REALLY SUCKS.
03/14/2011
Yes, stress of any kind affects my sex drive. It can become nonexistent even depending on how stressed I am. Which really sucks, because sex is supposed to be a stress reliever.
03/14/2011
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same here.
Originally posted by
SexyStuff
Any type of stress I think depresses my sex drive
03/14/2011
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I can't see how it doesn't. Although if I push through the no drive thing I usually feel a LOT better afterwards, but that is on the rare occasion when I'm that stressed out.
Originally posted by
*Ashley*
same here.
03/15/2011
not really sometimes it does but i try to think it will all work out in the end
08/09/2011
I definitely feel less sexy with worries of any kind on my mind, money or other.
08/09/2011
Yeah, everything has to line up for me to enjoy sex.
04/05/2012
sometimes, but I try not to let it get to me
04/05/2012
I'm weird. Stress makes me want sex even more. I'm like, "Man, I'm stressed. Wish I had some sex to distract me for a while."
04/05/2012
I need more sex and reassurance that things are good in other sectors of life when money gets tight. My man wants sex less because the money problems drop his self-esteem. It is not a good mixture of things to deal with.
04/05/2012
Same for me any type of stress will depress my sex drive. Until I finally just have to get off and then I feel better.
04/05/2012
Sometimes.
04/05/2012
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