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Do you think losing excess weight improves your sex life?

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Contributor: gorgeous gorgeous
I have always been overweight, not just a little chubby. I could lose 100 pounds or so and I am currently working on that. Normally when I would have sex I couldn't get off without clit stimulation and honestly didn't feel much inside me. Well I have lost 20 pounds so far and tonight when I was riding him I could feel so much more. Pretty sure we found my g-spot a few days ago too. I actually got off riding him without a bullet or anything else.

Would this be because some of my excess fat is gone or maybe some other unknown reason?
02/25/2014
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Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Being over weight could have been a factor. Besides the fact that there are a host of health issues that go along with it which could cause sexual performance problems there is also the mental. People who shed excess weight tend to see a boost an energy, generally feel better about themselves and see a boost in their self esteem. Those alone could also lend to greater sexual pleasure.

BTW congrats on the weight loss. Watching my boyfriend go through this I know how difficult it can be.
02/25/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
well, since you can have a clit orgasm, I wouldn't think not having a G-spot orgasm is a self-esteem issue. I do understand how being overweight can affect one's self-esteem. but again, the clit orgasm doesn't indicate that.

lots of ladies have a difficult time finding their G-spot. and some don't ever experience a G-spot orgasm. maybe it just took all the exploration to find your G-spot. have you found it again since then?

maybe SaucyxGirl has a valid point, quote, "People who shed excess weight tend to see a boost in energy, generally feel better about themselves and see a boost in their self esteem. Those alone could also lend to greater sexual pleasure."

maybe being overweight does something to the vagina. I've never heard of that but it's certainly something worth Googling about. being very well endowed does affect may areas of our bodies. you may want to ask your Dr. if it affect the vagina.

good luck on finding the answer & finding pleasure.
02/25/2014
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
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Gorgeous - congratulations on losing 20 lbs. Don't get discouraged if you plateau for a while. Sometimes going up on your calories then dropping back down will get your metabolism kick started again. I lost 80 lbs about 5 years ago (then I lost 220 lbs of worthless ex-husband).

Being lighter did make it easier to get into more positions comfortably. That may be why you were able to hit your g-spot, just because you were more fit and flexible. Since I left my husband around the time I lost weight and was not having sex with him, I can't say I noticed a difference. I got with my current husband right after leaving my ex and sex has been amazing, so some of it could be the weight loss.

Being complimented about how good I looked did help my self-esteem. That makes you feel better about getting naked and wanting to have sex.

Losing weight is very difficult. It is more important to be fit than what the number on the scale says. Although I weight less now, I was more physically fit when I weighed 20-30 lbs more because I was able to work out everyday. Right now, I just do not have the time to devote to it but I know I would feel much better if I did.
02/25/2014
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by gorgeous
I have always been overweight, not just a little chubby. I could lose 100 pounds or so and I am currently working on that. Normally when I would have sex I couldn't get off without clit stimulation and honestly didn't feel much inside me. ... more
Congrats! Yes I think it could definitely have to do with the weight loss. Not only is losing excess weight generally a healthy thing to do - both physically and psychologically speaking - but the loss of weight could also affect how the two of you are connecting on a physical level. Maybe he is getting a little deeper than before. Maybe as you lose weight your sensitivity in that area is increasing.
02/27/2014