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Arousal and masturbation during times of genital unhappiness

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Contributor: toxie m toxie m
This is a rant and a poll, all in one!

As you may or may not know, I have genital herpes. This rarely affects my life because outbreaks are fairly infrequent, but this week an outbreak decided to show up. Terrible! Beyond all the discomfort and inconvenience, I'm especially hurtin' at not being able to get off right now. It's been about a week and I could really use the stress and tension relief. I even have a brand-new review toy sitting and waiting for me, and now my review's probably going to be late because I have to wait to fully heal to try it out. Sigh.

My question: What do you do when you're horny but can't get off for a physical reason (I don't just mean the herp - maybe it was a yeast infection or any other kind of issue that generally requires hands-off healing). Do you just ignore it? Do you go for it anyway?
I posted this in Women's Sexual Health, but men should feel free to answer as well
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I go for it anyway - nothing's gonna hold me back from my pleasure!
6
Ow, I definitely don't touch. Wouldn't wanna set back the recovery time.
10
How could you even be aroused at a time like that?
1
I just ignore those urges, it's not that hard
5
I keep arousal at bay with a technique I'll explain below
I deal with my arousal in a non-masturbatory way, I'll tell you about it below
1
Other
Total votes: 23 (18 voters)
Poll is closed
10/21/2011
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Contributor: toxie m toxie m
To start things off: I'm usually someone who can easily ignore my urges if I have no outlet. However, happenings in my life have been just a little too sexy to forget about lately and it's killing me! The frustration is intense and I have no coping mechanisms for this. I suppose it just comes down to waiting and.. thinking unsexy thoughts?
10/21/2011
Contributor: BlackxxxRose BlackxxxRose
I work out more often, focus on work a lot more and eat a lot. I eat like Louis from Family Guy when Peter stopped having sex with her. :S I experience this fairly often because of complications from my health problems that cause me to be more likely to tear at certain times of the month than others. I take a lot of cold showers and get kind of grumpy too, lol. I just basically throw myself into whatever I'm working on at the time and don't let myself stay alone for too long.
10/21/2011
Contributor: Piña Colada Piña Colada
It may be difficult but I know it'll be better in the long run!
10/22/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
ugh! i know where you're coming from. I usually just wait till I'm healed though. Most of the time, I'm not horny when I have an outbreak or a UTI (I've never had anything else, so I can't say how this would affect my sex drive).
10/23/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I don't have herpes, but every so often I get a yeast infection. I do my best to avoid sexual activity of any kind. I would rather hold off on pleasure than risk aggravating my condition and delaying recovery.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I can easily ignore urges. I just focus on something else that could use my total concentration.
10/23/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Ignore the urges. Find other ways to relieve stress. You don't want to make healing time last longer.
10/23/2011