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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I was just wondering. Often, if I don't orgasm during sex, especially if I really wanted to, I get "female blue balls." Cramps similar to menstrual cramps, cramps in my legs, swollen and uncomfortable genitalia, etc.

I know men feel this affliction, but I wonder how many of the women do.

I know, usually, an orgasm will alleviate it, but sometimes, if we have a quickie in the morning, I want to "save it" for the evening (if I come in the morning it is often difficult for me to again in the evening, as I have multis and it is just difficult) and if I couldn't come, then it's even more frustrating.

Do you, ladies, and what symptoms do you get?

And, what shall we call them?
08/09/2010
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Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I know what you're talking about. Mine is not as bad as yours, but I get the uncomfortable feeling too. I think that is why electric toothbrushes were invented. "That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth".... jk
08/09/2010
Contributor: SydVicious SydVicious
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Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I know what you're talking about. Mine is not as bad as yours, but I get the uncomfortable feeling too. I think that is why electric toothbrushes were invented. "That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth".... jk
LMAO!

If I get close but don't finish, I notice that my muscles seem kind of restless... If that makes sense. I also get kind of bitchy. LOL
08/09/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
First two years of my marriage. (Where's the 'face of disgust' smiley on this thing?)

It's enough to cause violence.
08/09/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I was just wondering. Often, if I don't orgasm during sex, especially if I really wanted to, I get "female blue balls." Cramps similar to menstrual cramps, cramps in my legs, swollen and uncomfortable genitalia, etc.

I know men ... more
I get the same thing sometimes, when I just can't finish (due to distraction or whatever). Usually just general restlessness of muscles and stuff.

I think we call them blue lips.
08/09/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
I get the same thing sometimes, when I just can't finish (due to distraction or whatever). Usually just general restlessness of muscles and stuff.

I think we call them blue lips.
Blue Lips. I like that.

It doesn't happen every time (we had a quickie this morning and I just didn't have time) but I better get to finish tonight, or else......
08/10/2010
Contributor: Lady Venus Lady Venus
Quote:
Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I know what you're talking about. Mine is not as bad as yours, but I get the uncomfortable feeling too. I think that is why electric toothbrushes were invented. "That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth".... jk
"That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth"....LMAO! I almost spit my coffee out just now! too funny!
08/10/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
Quote:
Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I know what you're talking about. Mine is not as bad as yours, but I get the uncomfortable feeling too. I think that is why electric toothbrushes were invented. "That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth".... jk
ROFLMAO! Good one!!!

I get irritable and restless if I don't have a clitoral orgasm during intercourse. I found it's just best to grab one of my little vibes and disappear for a bit, like sybarite1 said.

Another thing I notice though, is if for some reason I haven't had an orgasm for a while, I start having something similar to cramps around the clitoral area. And I found that using one of my little vibes (again) seems to relieve the pain.
08/10/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I've had this, I also get cramps that feel like menstrual cramps. I call it blue box
08/10/2010
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
I don't get severe cramps but I do get knots in my stomach and tight from my abdomen down sometimes.
08/11/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I get them often. With enough time even my periods become painful. I found this out after I had my first orgasm at 21. It's not fun and one of the reasons why I try not to get so sexually excited as I have very few days I can actually 'take care' of any issues I have.

But yeah, they feel like menstrual cramps, and sometimes they feel so bad it's debilitating almost.
08/11/2010
Contributor: joja joja
It's not as bad as menstrual cramps for me, but I definitely get some uncomfortable feelings in the same area. It seems to be worse with potential clitoral orgasms than vaginal - PIV sex without orgasm is still really satisfying to me, but if I can't come from head/fingering I get pretty uncomfortable.
08/11/2010
Contributor: TheCleansing TheCleansing
I've heard pink balls before.
08/30/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I've had something like it before and I actually looked it up when I did. Mine is like a light cramping/aching along the back wall of my vagina and is only relieved by penetration. The term for what I was feeling is vasocongestion. Per Wikipedia: "If orgasm is not achieved, blood and lymphatic fluid tend to pool, and the blood becomes oxygen-deprived." (Oxygen deprivation -> blue.... Now I get it.)

As for me, I like the term "blue box" for us ladies.
08/30/2010
Contributor: kck kck
My clitoris literally turns blue-ish and RAWR! it's such an irksome feeling of unfinishedness. Definitely relate. Sigh...
09/13/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
Blue Walls.

I can only really fix it with penetration. From a real penis. One that's attached to my boyfriend. Preferrably his own penis is attached to him...

Well this is getting weird quickly.

I need to get laid.
09/13/2010
Contributor: kck kck
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
Blue Walls.

I can only really fix it with penetration. From a real penis. One that's attached to my boyfriend. Preferrably his own penis is attached to him...

Well this is getting weird quickly.

I need to get laid.
Hahahaha! Book a flight already!
09/13/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
Hahahaha! Book a flight already!
If I could fly over there for about $18, I'D DO IT.
09/13/2010
Contributor: PrettyPurple PrettyPurple
my clit just becomes swollen, uncomfy and slightly numb. i hate it
09/23/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
I've never actually gotten cramps from not being fulfilled sexually, but I definitely feel "on edge" and agitated. Not fun.
09/24/2010
Contributor: Unconventional Unconventional
LOL, on the rare occasion that hubby gets off and I don't, I'm definitely aggitated, but that's it. More at the hubster for not fulfilling his husbandly duties though, haha.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
I so get emotional and physical "Blue Balls," I tend to get depressed instantly after sex or foreplay that does not lead to sex and of course the big "O". I have encountered pain before but I don't think to the extent that males do. It just feels like i have pressure in my lower abdomen, like I have to pee really really bad but I can't. On the emotional side I get disgusted and feel inadequate
11/08/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I was just wondering. Often, if I don't orgasm during sex, especially if I really wanted to, I get "female blue balls." Cramps similar to menstrual cramps, cramps in my legs, swollen and uncomfortable genitalia, etc.

I know men ... more
This is a great question! I thought something was wrong with me! This happens to me once in a blue moon. Next time I'll know how to fix it!

I happen to like blue walls and blue box. Very funny!
11/16/2010
Contributor: socceras socceras
wow ive never even heard of this. maybe cause im still young. but still ive never had anything like it
11/16/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by socceras
wow ive never even heard of this. maybe cause im still young. but still ive never had anything like it
I've been married 8 years and have never heard of it. But I can usually orgasm more than once a day. Also, if for some odd reason it doesn't happen, I just get hornier... usually My Mister takes care of that problem really quickly....by giving me an orgasm... don't know what y'all were thinking!
11/16/2010
Contributor: Collodion Collodion
Quote:
Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I've had something like it before and I actually looked it up when I did. Mine is like a light cramping/aching along the back wall of my vagina and is only relieved by penetration. The term for what I was feeling is vasocongestion. Per Wikipedia: ... more
*giggles*

Blue box...I like it.

I get this as well, but only if I don't get off after a lot of teasing/foreplay...it' s more like mild cramps and a feeling of irritability than anything.
05/13/2011
Contributor: sexygoddess sexygoddess
Quote:
Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I know what you're talking about. Mine is not as bad as yours, but I get the uncomfortable feeling too. I think that is why electric toothbrushes were invented. "That was great honey, now I'm going to brush my teeth".... jk
hahaha awesome!
05/15/2011
Contributor: Rachel Nunez Rachel Nunez
hehe.. blue lips..
05/15/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Blinker
Blue Walls.

I can only really fix it with penetration. From a real penis. One that's attached to my boyfriend. Preferrably his own penis is attached to him...

Well this is getting weird quickly.

I need to get laid.
Ha Ha Blue Walls! That was absolutely perfect!
05/15/2011