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Pulling out? How confident are men?

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Contributor: Anne Anne
My boyfriend and I are strictly monogamous, and have been tested, so we trust each other to not have any STDs. The only thing we worry about is pregnancy, and sometimes, we forget to put on a condom, or choose not to because of the form of sexual activities anticipated. I cannot take any form of hormonal birth control (the pill, IUD, implant, etc.) because my medications decreases the effectiveness.

I don't mind using the withdraw method, as he assures me he's good at knowing when it's the right time. Is it wrong for me to doubt his ability even if it's a small percentage? He does pre-ejaculate sometimes, and so far I've managed to dodge the bullet.

So have I been lucky? Does pulling really work? I hear so many stories from health pamphlets that raise concerns. Advice? Suggestions?
06/30/2012
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Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Anne
My boyfriend and I are strictly monogamous, and have been tested, so we trust each other to not have any STDs. The only thing we worry about is pregnancy, and sometimes, we forget to put on a condom, or choose not to because of the form of sexual ... more
No pulling out is a crap shoot. I couldn't take bc either and I have a 6 yr old daughter now. My ex bf would pull out, and apparently he has SUPER SPERM! LOL
06/30/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
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Originally posted by Anne
My boyfriend and I are strictly monogamous, and have been tested, so we trust each other to not have any STDs. The only thing we worry about is pregnancy, and sometimes, we forget to put on a condom, or choose not to because of the form of sexual ... more
According to Planned Parenthood:

— Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly.
— Of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 27 will become pregnant each year if they don't always do it correctly.

It sounds like the numbers are in your favor, but it's not out of the realm of possibility that you could end up pregnant. As Noelle said, it really is a crap shoot. I've known people who relied on the withdrawal method and had it fail (though I don't know how often they had sex, or how accurately they executed the method), and I've known others that have purposefully tried to get pregnant (the opposite of the withdrawal method) and had zero luck. Biology does not always behave in a predictable way.

I say that if you continue using the withdrawal method, both of you should do it with the understanding that a pregnancy may result, and if it does, you will have to share in the responsibility of whatever decision(s) follow.
06/30/2012
Contributor: quantumspork quantumspork
I got pregnant after having unprotected sex twice, and both times the guy put a condom on well before he orgasmed. It is entirely possible.
07/01/2012