Ive always asked n always used a condom
When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free?
11/25/2011
I ask. But before I got seriously involved with any guy, I went and got tested with them. Safety first!
12/14/2011
Quote:
my boyfriend and I are looking for a third partner and this is something i've wondered about. I think I want us all to get tested (possibly together--fun times) but I don't know if it would be weird to insist that. I mean, I didn't have my current boyfriend get tested, but he is only my second partner (and i'm his second partner)
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
12/14/2011
Quote:
Safer to ask then be sorry!
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
12/21/2011
Quote:
i understand the ridiculous stigma that STDs have, as I have herpes myself, but I'd also like to make sure that I don't get other diseases, including ones that can be cured. Condoms don't ensure 100% safe sex, but it makes sex safer.
Originally posted by
emiliaa
My question is, what if they aren't, like myself?
Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe ... more
Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe ... more
My question is, what if they aren't, like myself?
Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe and such, but even with condoms, I managed to get this, so it's not like worrying about the millions of risks will make them any less, just be informed. less
Do you just abort all ideas of a relationship simply because you might get a few warts if you have sex? I don't get the STD phobia this society injects into people. By all means be safe and such, but even with condoms, I managed to get this, so it's not like worrying about the millions of risks will make them any less, just be informed. less
Honestly, I would date someone with an STD because to me, it's not a big deal as long as they're doing what they can to keep it under control. If I can do it, so they can they!
Most STDs are just an annoying setback and are not at all a defining factor of a person, so I understand your frustration.
12/23/2011
Quote:
get tested togther
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
02/14/2012
Quote:
I definitely ask, but that isn't enough to go unprotected!
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
02/15/2012
Oh...as a follow up to the answers...some of us don't have health insurance. The planned parenthood in my area charges $60 just for the office visit before testing is even done. So, going and getting tested often would be unlikely even though it is the best policy.
02/15/2012
Quote:
Ask them
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
02/17/2012
Quote:
Well put!
Originally posted by
badk1tty
Get tested together - If you can't trust me enough to know what the status of your bits are, you aren't puttin' them inside me.
03/14/2012
Quote:
Agreed. If we're going to be in a relationship, we get tested before the condom comes off. Otherwise, protection is required to ride this ride.
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
03/14/2012
Quote:
ask, use protection, and no head (non protection contact) with rando's ..... and pray they dont have oral herpes
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
04/02/2012
Quote:
"inspecting" would not tell you anything at all. just ask if they get tested
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
05/14/2012
Quote:
Exchange medical paperwork stating last testing and results
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
05/16/2012
Both get tested when you decide to become sexually active. Wait another six months while being abstinent with partner sex, and test again for HIV etc.
05/30/2012
asking is a good first step, discreet inspection and a condom to start a relationship never hurt either.
06/12/2012
Quote:
This! I still use protection, however, as not STDs come from sex. Did you know it's possible to catch things from simply wearing your pants too tight (vaginosis) or liking rare steak (Hepatitis)?
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
We go get tested together, if we're gonna be serious and not use protection.
No glove, no love and retesting every year. I'm paranoid that way.
06/17/2012
I've only been with my current boyfriend, but before we had sex without a condom, I got checked (even though I was a virgin, just to be sure) and he got checked (as he has had past sexual partners, and he was pretty sure he was fine but didn't want to risk my health).
If I were to ever have another sexual partner (like a third person with my boyfriend and I), I would ask when they were last tested.
If I were to ever have another sexual partner (like a third person with my boyfriend and I), I would ask when they were last tested.
06/17/2012
Testing, since not all STDs are obvious
06/18/2012
Ask them, but don't trust them until you've been tested together. Use protection until then.
06/20/2012
ask them and get tested together is the best way to know
06/23/2012
Since my wife and I were each other's one and only, all we did was ask each other beforehand.
06/27/2012
Quote:
Ask them, Inspect them, and ask for proof from a doctor. If you are STILL unsure walk away!
Originally posted by
lick123
I have only been with one person but am curious about something. When you meet a new sexual partner how do you know if they are STD free? (not that there is anything wrong with people with STDs, but in order to protect yourself and be safe)
06/27/2012
I am really paranoid baout this, so I actually prefer to se their last testing results
07/02/2012
Quote:
Except being a virgin doesn't necessarily mean no STDS. Some can be passed through child birth- or like... herpes is often passed through relatives kissing children's faces.
Originally posted by
Coralbell
Both partners I have had were virgins, so I know they wouldn't have been exposed to STD's. Otherwise, I would make sure to get tested before we stopped using condoms.
07/21/2012
Condom. Then if you start getting serious, talk about both of you getting tested. Some more condoms. Did I mention how important condoms are?
07/24/2012
ask away and you can always ask for proof too, as in the last std test results, you can never be too safe.
10/25/2012
It depends on the situation. My current partner was a virgin before me, and had never gone further than making out, so I just got tested. We're getting HIV tested together soon too!
11/18/2012
while i dont always ask, though it's good practice, i always get tested after new partners. If something were to come up (thank god it hasn't yet) i would contact the last person i was with and discuss it with them as they may not know they were infected/to let them know they were exposed to said STD or STI.
01/21/2013
A deep and meaningful conversation needs to be had on both parts, but trust is involved.
01/22/2013