Do you think sex hidden in public places is "okay?"

Contributor: Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
As in, there's the possibility that some people might end up forcibly exposed to it against their will. Is that too close to rape? Do you think it's dubious, but do it anyways? Do you think it's okay as long as no one's nearby? Even if people are? To what degree do you consider it reasonably acceptable?
10/27/2012
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Contributor: K101 K101
No, I don't really think it is okay, if there is any chance people will accidentally be forced to see it. However, if you're in public, but say somewhere in the woods, very far off somewhere in a car, I don't see much wrong. I have done that. But no, not out where it's even close to likely people will see.

Being forced to see someone have sex = rape? No. Absolutely not. If that were the case, I'd have been raped each time I entered the a regular gas station that carries pornography. I think it is a violation to someone, yes! Not rape. And I don't think it even comes close to amounting to the life-long pain and suffering brought on by rape. No, rape is definitely not the word for it.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Wow...what a question.

No, it isn't rape. Though, judging by the laws in my state it's heinous enough to land you as a registered sex offender for life if you're caught (and they only arrest the "unattractive" people, not the "pretty" people).

Eh, I think if you're in public you have a reasonable expectation to see things you're not necessarily ready for; case and point?

Last night, I was dead tired and needed a bit of a breather to finish up some of the stuff I'm working on for you guys and I stepped out onto my balcony.

Two men pulled up in a car right beneath my balcony, got out, pissed all over the parking lot, got back in and drove to their destination. I stood there watching the entire time and almost shouted down to them how their class had no bounds...but I didn't.

That's mild obviously, but even if I stumbled across someone having sex in the middle of a store, I wouldn't be offended or feel victimised. I would have to merely assume these people have no concept of social boundaries and had lost their minds.
10/27/2012
Contributor: kkizzee05 kkizzee05
I would never have sex in public where there is a chance of someone seeing me naked lol, but I know people who have and I would not want to see that. I've been on back roads out in the middle of no where, but never when there was other people around. Rape though, I would think not. I can see where people would get offended and alarmed at seeing something most people would look down on, but I would not call it rape. You can technically walk away or avert your eyes. I, personally, would and will not have sex around other people mostly because I feel that when my boyfriend and I have sex that is private and an loving and sensual moment between the two of us, not sharing it with anyone who might be close by.
10/27/2012
Contributor: The Majikat The Majikat
I think its unfair and inappropriate to compare this to rape. It may be unpleasant, but that is in no way the same thing.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I think it's great, as long as genuine precautions are taken not to involve other people. I'm wary of the r-word here - I think it depends on your community standards, but people are kind of used to the idea of occasional naughty people having public sex.

There is extreme play out there that I know would traumatize me (anything that would cause people to think there is a victim or a crime taking place is unforgiveable even if there's a small risk of being found), but I assume that we're talking about wholesome All-American vanilla in exotic locations. I'm pro-.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Wait, comparing indecent exposure to rape? How is the connection even made here? There's plenty of shit I wish I could unsee, but I'm not violated on the level of a rape victim.

I'm not one for exhibitionism or voyeurism, so I never understood the thrill of semi-public sex. Although an acquaintance did make a point that if you're performing a private act in public, don't have the nerve to be shocked if you get a peanut gallery or participators - you're the one who invited the world in on it.
11/06/2012
Contributor: pestilence pestilence
I definitely find public sex where others might run into you extremely inappropriate, but public sex in a secluded area isn't morally wrong in my book even if I would never do it.

I wouldn't call accidentally forcing others to see you having sex rape, though. More sexual harassment if anything.
11/22/2012
Contributor: Danneh Danneh
If you're in your car? go for it. Woods? go for it.

Anywhere kids could see? nonnononononononono.
Somewhere a nosy adult/ small chance an adult might find you? go for it.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Genderfree Genderfree
I say just use common sense. If those around you are cool with you having sex, have sex. If you don't know, then I'd say at least find a little more secluded area.

If you guys knew what I was just imagining, you guys would say I'm suuuch a hippie.
02/16/2013
Contributor: xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Wow...what a question.

No, it isn't rape. Though, judging by the laws in my state it's heinous enough to land you as a registered sex offender for life if you're caught (and they only arrest the "unattractive" people, not ... more
I agree with this completely
06/28/2013
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
Quote:
Originally posted by Danneh
If you're in your car? go for it. Woods? go for it.

Anywhere kids could see? nonnononononononono.
Somewhere a nosy adult/ small chance an adult might find you? go for it.
Yeah basically. I'm super uncomfortable with the chance of exposing a child to such things.
06/29/2013
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
Quote:
Originally posted by Kenneth Fort
As in, there's the possibility that some people might end up forcibly exposed to it against their will. Is that too close to rape? Do you think it's dubious, but do it anyways? Do you think it's okay as long as no one's nearby? Even ... more
I think that more people are having sex in public places than we may know about.

I have done so. And, my lovers and I were always very careful not to be seen. We never had anyone scream or gawk at us, so I believe we were successful in our hiding.

No, I don't consider the possibility of being seen close to rape. Rape is a very strong, personal word.
07/07/2015
Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
Quote:
Originally posted by Danneh
If you're in your car? go for it. Woods? go for it.

Anywhere kids could see? nonnononononononono.
Somewhere a nosy adult/ small chance an adult might find you? go for it.
I agree. We never did it anywhere where small children were present or could see. That would be too weird. No thank you!
07/07/2015