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Who is kinkier? You or your partner(s)?

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Contributor: RadRach RadRach
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
This was actually hard for me to answer. I'm more obviously kinkier than my husband..but I think deep down he's very kinky and he's never minded any of the kinky acts we've done..he just doesn't seek them out as much as I do.
You basically put my exact answer... only im from a lesbian perspective.

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09/19/2010
Contributor: evanovca evanovca
i'm definitely kinkier than one boyfriend but kinda vanilla compared to boyfriend number 2.
09/21/2010
Contributor: the bedroom blogger the bedroom blogger
I am way kinkier than the boyfriend, but he is getting there. He thinks he's too nice to be kinky, but he's slowly realizing that just because I like it when he's a little less nice in the bedroom doesn't mean he's a bad guy. I find it quite silly, really...but it is a very hard concept for him to grasp.
10/06/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I totally am. The man has never been with a woman like me before.... but he likes it
10/09/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
What about "I'm female/male and in both hetero and lesbian/gay relationships"? Or even more casual "I'm female/male and dating" Cmon! Show the kids without significant others some love
10/09/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Trashley
What about "I'm female/male and in both hetero and lesbian/gay relationships"? Or even more casual "I'm female/male and dating" Cmon! Show the kids without significant others some love
I'm sorry.

I was kind of looking for the dynamic in one specific relationship. When you are dating a number of people, you could be kinkier than the guy you see Wed night, but not as kinky as the girl you meet up with on Saturday. I kinda meant your balance in an ongoing relationship.

Sorry, it's so hard to get everything IN with these polls.
10/09/2010
Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Up until I found eden here, I'd say we were about the same. Now I'm kinda trying to get us to break out of our shells a bit more.
10/09/2010
Contributor: clp clp
In my relationship, I thought I was the kinkier one--but it turned out, I was simply the one with the vocabulary; my sweetheart would and continually does surprise me with his tastes and ideas. It is definitely hard to tell who is kinkier. It is lots of fun that we seem to always be saying, "I never would have imagined you liked that sort of thing..."
10/09/2010
Contributor: Yiggi Yiggi
He's definitely kinkier.... and he always makes me be dom.
10/14/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
A lot of us here are pretty well sexually compatible with our current partners (some anyway) but it always seems like one is a little edgier than the other. Who is kinkier, you or your partner? And is the one answering, the man or the woman, and are ... more
I'm female in a heterosexual monogamous relationship with my husband, and I'm kinkier. A lot of stuff that I want to do he's not interested in. But it's okay. I go solo on the stuff I like.
10/15/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I found that with my husband he was up for anything but was very tentative about a lot of what I requested. I am much kinkier than he was, he had fantasies absolutely, but voiced them only reluctantly. Essentially he was happy just getting some from me no matter how it came.
10/23/2010
Contributor: sweet434cream sweet434cream
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
This was actually hard for me to answer. I'm more obviously kinkier than my husband..but I think deep down he's very kinky and he's never minded any of the kinky acts we've done..he just doesn't seek them out as much as I do.
I know the feeling seems like i cant ever get mine to do anything anymore i got on here to get afew thigs hoping he woul wanna do more but it still feels like i cant get him off the couch and in the bedroom wHAT MORE COULD I DO?
10/25/2010
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
It seems like my wife and I are both pretty kinky, but I am more often the one curious about trying new things. She is still very open though about trying new things when I get ideas.
10/27/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I am in a heterosexual relationship and I am definitely kinkier than my partner. He was tame before he met me and now I have corrupted him. But, he's not exactly like me.
10/27/2010
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
Id say we are on a pretty even keel, although I may be a bit more extreme in areas he isnt and visversa
10/30/2010
Contributor: Latsyrc728 Latsyrc728
My Husband is very traditional. I am more up for different, new things. He would try anything I asked him to though (within reason)
11/09/2010
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I'd really like to think I'm kinkier, but my wife has come up with her fair share of things that out-kink many of my ideas. I guess what it really comes down to is that I come up with many mildly kinky things to do before and during when we have sex, but when my wife decides to do something kinky, it's a doozy.
01/07/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
A lot of us here are pretty well sexually compatible with our current partners (some anyway) but it always seems like one is a little edgier than the other. Who is kinkier, you or your partner? And is the one answering, the man or the woman, and are ... more
I'm a female in a hetero relationship and I'm kinkier I think
01/09/2011
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
My partner is kinky, but VERY reserved in his kink. So I am kinkier...
01/18/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
My husband and I are both pretty vanilla, but looking into more kink. We've both got a slightly kinky side that we're just now exploring together, so pretty equal so far. He might be a little more than me tho, because he brings it up more oten, but I don't really mind.
01/18/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
I tend to attract a very vanilla crowd, but I'm very open about my interest in BDSM and I've converted/tempted a few into the community. Although the last one would probably never admit to another woman that he loves being spanked, which he wouldn't have known if it weren't for me. Last male interest was a cold fish and boring in bed. I've always loved cuddling, but he made me sick of it. If he wanted to cuddle all the time, he should just get himself a goddamn cat.
01/18/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
There's no contest. I've tried to come up with a list of things that I won't do, and I have a really hard time getting to 10.
01/19/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I'm more experienced but I think he and I are about the same amount of kinky, we're pretty solidly matched
01/24/2011
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
I am much more kinkier than my husband.
01/25/2011
Contributor: Confusedxfreak Confusedxfreak
I feel i'm kinkier although I know my husband has "thoughts," but doesn't express them to me.
01/31/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
A few months ago, if I had seen this post I would have said I was kinkier (in my thoughts. I really never voiced those desires because I was afraid he'd think it was silly). However, since then I have grown more vocal and he has gotten more creative. I think we are a perfect match!
01/31/2011
Contributor: 16one94@gmail.com 16one94@gmail.com
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
A few months ago, if I had seen this post I would have said I was kinkier (in my thoughts. I really never voiced those desires because I was afraid he'd think it was silly). However, since then I have grown more vocal and he has gotten more ... more
I like the sound of that. In general I think I am about where you were a few months ago. Perhaps I can convince my partner to come out of his shell a bit more as well!
02/03/2011
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
A lot of us here are pretty well sexually compatible with our current partners (some anyway) but it always seems like one is a little edgier than the other. Who is kinkier, you or your partner? And is the one answering, the man or the woman, and are ... more
This was a very confusing poll for me.. haha
02/14/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
My partner and I are about the same level of kink, and we're both really open, which is also helpful.
02/15/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Close to the same, but I am a bit more
02/17/2011