I've recently started seeing someone and we've been mildly sexual. Everything is perfect. There's mind-blowing chemistry and he drives me nuts in a really good way.
Recently we were playing around a little and I started to pay him some attention while he was doing the same to me, but he seemed more interested in what he was doing than what I was doing to him. I asked him about it and he said he really doesn't care about getting his. He's totally a giver and not really a taker, saying that it "takes too long" for him to really get anything out of it. I mean, he seemed to be really enjoying himself, too.
I'm slightly confused or concerned or something. As much as I crazily enjoy the things he does to me, I want to give that back to him in return.
I'm sure some of you have been there before. Any advice on how to make him enjoy himself more? I mean, having someone totally focused on pleasing you is a wonderful thing, but it's nice when it goes both ways. I'm just not sure what to do to put things more in balance.
From what he's told me about his past experiences in relationships and such, he's been with people that don't really give anything back either in the relationship or sexually, so I've started to think he's developed the total giver mentality because of that.
Recently we were playing around a little and I started to pay him some attention while he was doing the same to me, but he seemed more interested in what he was doing than what I was doing to him. I asked him about it and he said he really doesn't care about getting his. He's totally a giver and not really a taker, saying that it "takes too long" for him to really get anything out of it. I mean, he seemed to be really enjoying himself, too.
I'm slightly confused or concerned or something. As much as I crazily enjoy the things he does to me, I want to give that back to him in return.
I'm sure some of you have been there before. Any advice on how to make him enjoy himself more? I mean, having someone totally focused on pleasing you is a wonderful thing, but it's nice when it goes both ways. I'm just not sure what to do to put things more in balance.
From what he's told me about his past experiences in relationships and such, he's been with people that don't really give anything back either in the relationship or sexually, so I've started to think he's developed the total giver mentality because of that.