My husband is different. Ever since I started getting sex toys from Eden Fantasys he's been jealous and we barely have sex anymore...At night I burst into tears because I just want to talk to him, or make passionate love with him, but he's exhausted because he'd been playing Halo all day...I don't know what to do, and I know that we've been going out driving and having romantic poker games, but every time we do something, it ends up in an argument of some kind and we get upset...and I cry. Do you have any suggestions for our communication issues? Do you have any romance ideas that will help with the toy problem, and with our basic relationship? What do I do? I don't know if it has to do with the sex toys, or with me. I don't know why everything is so out of sorts but I thought, even if I might not have supplied enough information...maybe there's some good advice for me out there. Thanks, guys.
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11/10/2010
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How is that he's playing games all day? It seems to me that he needs to get a job - and a life. He has an addiction and needs treatment like any alcohol, drug or gambling addict. Maybe there is a video-game anonymous? Good luck!
11/11/2010
I guess I would start by checking what the recurring theme of the arguments is and trying to work that issue out...thats pretty much all I could say.
11/11/2010
Have you considered couples therapy? I know some people swear by it. And I think you both would benefit from an objective point of view. Whatever you choose to do, good luck!
11/11/2010
Gaming can be an addiction like gambling; if he's putting gaming above all else, lying about how much he plays, etc., then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Couples counseling is definitely a viable option and I cannot recommend it more strongly.
11/11/2010
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I find that the younger generation is especially full of folks who use an addiction to gaming to self medicate.
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
Gaming can be an addiction like gambling; if he's putting gaming above all else, lying about how much he plays, etc., then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Couples counseling is definitely a viable option and I cannot recommend it
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Gaming can be an addiction like gambling; if he's putting gaming above all else, lying about how much he plays, etc., then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Couples counseling is definitely a viable option and I cannot recommend it more strongly.
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11/11/2010
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We've decided to tame both our addictions-mine to Eden, his to gaming. Yesterday we compromised on it, and we'll see what happens. Whenever one of us gets off, so does the other, and we spend time together. He has IBS so he plays to distract himself from being sick...He got laid off some time ago because the company went out of business and he's looking for a job. Since the other day we said we'd each only get on our own addicting electronics for an hour or two a day, at most.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
How is that he's playing games all day? It seems to me that he needs to get a job - and a life. He has an addiction and needs treatment like any alcohol, drug or gambling addict. Maybe there is a video-game anonymous? Good luck!
11/12/2010
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Sometimes he does lie about how long he's been on, but not often. It's very complicated, I'd say...He doesn't want couples counseling because our arguments and issues are private, so he doesn't know about this, but I am so freaked out about what to do and I was hoping to find some valuable advice from you guys...Are there any Couples Counseling books out there that we could use to help our relationship? I mean, not sexual aides, but communication guides, really. That would help a lot.
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
Gaming can be an addiction like gambling; if he's putting gaming above all else, lying about how much he plays, etc., then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Couples counseling is definitely a viable option and I cannot recommend it
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Gaming can be an addiction like gambling; if he's putting gaming above all else, lying about how much he plays, etc., then maybe it's time to get some outside help. Couples counseling is definitely a viable option and I cannot recommend it more strongly.
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11/12/2010
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Try the "5 love languages", it's a good book for understanding how different people give and receive affection.
Originally posted by
Sera
Sometimes he does lie about how long he's been on, but not often. It's very complicated, I'd say...He doesn't want couples counseling because our arguments and issues are private, so he doesn't know about this, but I am so freaked
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Sometimes he does lie about how long he's been on, but not often. It's very complicated, I'd say...He doesn't want couples counseling because our arguments and issues are private, so he doesn't know about this, but I am so freaked out about what to do and I was hoping to find some valuable advice from you guys...Are there any Couples Counseling books out there that we could use to help our relationship? I mean, not sexual aides, but communication guides, really. That would help a lot.
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11/12/2010
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I'll second that. It's a great book, and I've found it helpful in not only romantic relationships, but those other people in general as well.
Originally posted by
Alicia
Try the "5 love languages", it's a good book for understanding how different people give and receive affection.
11/12/2010
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Where can you get this book? Can you get it through Eden?
Originally posted by
Alicia
Try the "5 love languages", it's a good book for understanding how different people give and receive affection.
11/12/2010
I don't think so, but Amazon does.
11/12/2010
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OMG I have Ibs too..I have it bad..tell him to go to helpforibs.com and buy the books,fennel tea,and acacia..or maybe you are ok with funds and would surprise him with it as a gift?
Originally posted by
Sera
We've decided to tame both our addictions-mine to Eden, his to gaming. Yesterday we compromised on it, and we'll see what happens. Whenever one of us gets off, so does the other, and we spend time together. He has IBS so he plays to distract
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more
We've decided to tame both our addictions-mine to Eden, his to gaming. Yesterday we compromised on it, and we'll see what happens. Whenever one of us gets off, so does the other, and we spend time together. He has IBS so he plays to distract himself from being sick...He got laid off some time ago because the company went out of business and he's looking for a job. Since the other day we said we'd each only get on our own addicting electronics for an hour or two a day, at most.
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11/12/2010
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Amazon? That's great! I've got to look into it! Do you know who wrote the book? And thank you Alicia!
Originally posted by
Tori Rebel
I don't think so, but Amazon does.
11/12/2010
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What does Fennel tea and Acacia do? I've never heard of it..
Originally posted by
kinky girlfriend
OMG I have Ibs too..I have it bad..tell him to go to helpforibs.com and buy the books,fennel tea,and acacia..or maybe you are ok with funds and would surprise him with it as a gift?
11/12/2010
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