Does your sex drive match your partner's?

Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Mine is higher then my hubby's. sometimes it's annoying to be wanting it so bad when he's not in the mood makes me feel unwanted, even though I know it's just a difference in libido and energy.
06/29/2012
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
We have about the same sex drive but mine's a bit higher. he also isn't a fan of/doesn't get off on things like cybersex or phone sex whereas a lot of things turn me on
07/08/2012
Contributor: Cora Jane Cora Jane
I've always felt like I had a higher sex drive than my partners in the past, but now I'm dating a much younger man and I think we're pretty even.
07/08/2012
Contributor: duff duff
I want it more often than him
07/08/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
My partner definitely has higher sex drive.
07/08/2012
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I have a high sex drive, she doesn't have one at all.

I'd divorce her if it wasn't for our kids. All I hear every day is how much women want sex and their men can't provide it for them. And here I am wanting anything/everything, day and night, and only getting effectionless missionary a few times a year.
08/01/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
Yes, I am experiencing it now. I am at my peak, the hubby is on the decline. I am so damn horney I am ready to hump the couch!! And he is satisfied with maybe once every 10 days! WTF??? I am pretty depressed over it. We've only been married 1 1/2 yrs. He is 52 & I'm 42 so I understand his decline, but DAMN!!! I need A LOT MORE!!!
08/01/2012
Contributor: Pururin Pururin
I'm female and my partner's sex drive is usually higher. I wish we were about even though. It doesn't usually bother me too much. What does bother me is usually he'll want it and I'm really not in the mood for a few days, and then when I finally am in the mood he's not or he gets mad and pretends he's not in the mood.
08/01/2012
Contributor: Amber1319 Amber1319
My boyfriends is definitely higher
08/01/2012
Contributor: chelly411 chelly411
My partner and I both have incredibly high sex drives, which works out ;-)
09/01/2012
Contributor: lia ayala lia ayala
we are the same
09/12/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm female and have a higher drive.
09/13/2012
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
bout the same
09/13/2012
Contributor: joelb42 joelb42
My sex drive is much higher than my wife. It used to be pretty equal but lately that has changed. It does not bother me. It has made me become more creative it trying to get her turned on.
09/16/2012
Contributor: pirata pirata
mine is higher and it kind of bothers me sometimes, but i got over it
09/16/2012
Contributor: sw33t1zm3 sw33t1zm3
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
mines is extremely higher than his. it actually depresses me i think i need some help about it its like i cant function.
09/17/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
No my sex drive is much higher.
11/27/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I feel for you sweetie! My partner has a lower sex drive. And from what I've read around these parts...mine is pretty low too!

I used to feel bad about it but don't anymore. So what if he loves reading books more than having sex? His intelligence is one of the things I like best about him, so I can't feel resentment towards that.

This issue is precisely what lead me to this site...I need to take care of my own business! It's fun to treat myself right whenever I want to, and it has gotten me off of his back.

The change I made that helped me the MOST in not feeling bad about it is to not try to initiate sex by acting sexy and rubbing on him. I would just get myself all worked up, and would be disproportionately upset if he says no thanks. If he (politely) turns me down when I'm not turned on yet, it's easy to deal with!
11/28/2012
Contributor: linnlinn linnlinn
My sex drive has always been higher and it made me feel abnormal and annoying when I'd always ask for it.
11/29/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
I really don't know. We are happy and have an awesome sex life.
11/30/2012
Contributor: lilacviolet lilacviolet
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Originally posted by Gracie
In most relationships one partner ends up being the high desire partner. Sometimes it works out that the high desire partner doesn't feel as wanted by the other partner and feelings get hurt. Society seems to expect that the male is the high ... more
That's how I feel. I feel like something's wrong with me because I have a very high sex drive and my boyfriend has none, zero, nada, zip. It angers me to no end. It's very stressful to me but it doesn't phase him at all which just angers me even more. I talk about how I feel, how frustrated I feel and we talk about it, he says he understands and "wants" to help me but he's all words and no action when it comes to sexuality, he never takes any action to actually help me out. He just leaves me to deal with it myself but I can't even deal with it myself. It's so insanely maddening(an ger) . He's a very caring, sensitive, attentive guy but when it's about intimacy, he just doesn't care how upset I feel.
12/03/2012
Contributor: naturegirl naturegirl
Mine's been noticeably higher since I've been on HRT, not a problem, he is happy to let me pleasure myself as much as I want if he is not up to doing the deed for me!
12/03/2012
Contributor: atorturedsoul atorturedsoul
Mine is (and has always been) much higher. I always thought this was backwards, but from what I am seeing here I guess it's more the norm.
12/06/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Both my man and my sex drives are about the same
12/06/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
He has a higher sex drive than I, but if he could have sex 24/7 he would.
12/10/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Very few of the partners I've had over the years have had as high a drive as I do.
After a long time I finally figured out that having a great partner in other ways is better than someone who is only great in bed. Finding the partner who is that perfect match is like winning the lottery. For those of you who have indeed won that lottery, CONGRATS!
12/10/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Male and much higher
12/10/2012
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
Our sex drive matches
12/10/2012
Contributor: malantha malantha
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I always thought that men were all about having sex, but it seems like my man has a much lower sex drive than I do. Makes me feel kind of unattractive. Anyone else been through this?
My partners sex drive is higher than mine.
12/10/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Mine's the same as his.
12/10/2012