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Contributor: Kissy Kissy
So, each day (thanks to EF, toys and you all) my sex life gets better and better. I am for sure on an upper trend! But then I just thought today... when is my sex life going to downturn? Yikes!

Do you think about this? Age factor? Relationship lack of lust? Kids? Etc?
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Yes
15
No
10
Sometimes
13
Other
11
Total votes: 49 (43 voters)
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05/15/2012
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Contributor: js250 js250
I don't think about this anymore. My husband and I went through a stage when the kids were around 8-13 where our sex life was active only when....not tired, the kids were sleeping, we were not fighting, someone did not need us, we were alone, we stayed home and when I felt sexy.

Then the kids -he has one, I have one- turned 13-14 years old and they did not need us as much. We could spend time together and the sex life started again. Then when they were around 17+ total freedom!!! We were and are worse than teenagers. And I love it!!!
05/15/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I don't think about this anymore. My husband and I went through a stage when the kids were around 8-13 where our sex life was active only when....not tired, the kids were sleeping, we were not fighting, someone did not need us, we were alone, we ... more
I have siblings that have said exactly what you stated. )
05/15/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Kissy
So, each day (thanks to EF, toys and you all) my sex life gets better and better. I am for sure on an upper trend! But then I just thought today... when is my sex life going to downturn? Yikes!

Do you think about this? Age factor? ... more
I think my fluctuating weight is my biggest factor. Since I had my daughter, I often find that I don't get turned on as easily or stay as energetic.
05/15/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think it's best to focus on the up and not worry about it stopping
05/15/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Eh, I try not to worry about this stuff. I've been with my partner for almost a decade now and there have been plenty of fluctuations in our sex life, good and bad, but I think it's only natural to have those sorts of changes.
05/15/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I didn't answer the poll, because I couldn't figure out what the "yes" "no" etc meant! It wasn't a yes or no question.

Anyway, My Man and I have been together for more than 20 years. We've been through an Open Relationship, through getting married and having kids, through really rough times and really great times. Our sex life now is better than ever. He's in his 50s and I'm.... a bit younger than he is. Things slowed a little in our sex life when we had babies. Babies NEED you more than anything, and they need you 24 hours a day. Sex was probably the last thing on my mind when I had little babies. But, they are only little for a short period of time. Sex is still active, but put on the back burner for a while, we probably decreased our activity by 50% when we had small babies. We usually have sex daily, so it was still often, but it didn't seem like it to us.

Our kids are older now, our baby is 12, so we're back in full swing.

Relationships are dynamic. They change and grow. My husband and I have talked about how we'll still be getting it on regularly when we're old and wrinkled, and he said I can shoot him (and he wants me to LOL!) if he ever loses interest in me.
05/15/2012
Contributor: ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
I think everyone thinks and worries about it but I just want to live in the now
05/15/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
I think it's best to focus on the up and not worry about it stopping
I agree! Keep focused on the up and keep moving forward.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
As a guy, I'm more concerned about the sex drive for my wife. I don't think it's something I'll worry about in the next 20 years though.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
For me, it's the age factor. I'm in my late forties and am going through my perimenopause stage, it's affecting my libido so I'm not hungry for sex like when I was younger; I used to want sex all the time in my thirties.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by Kissy
So, each day (thanks to EF, toys and you all) my sex life gets better and better. I am for sure on an upper trend! But then I just thought today... when is my sex life going to downturn? Yikes!

Do you think about this? Age factor? ... more
Diablo 3?
05/15/2012
Contributor: dragonn dragonn
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I didn't answer the poll, because I couldn't figure out what the "yes" "no" etc meant! It wasn't a yes or no question.

Anyway, My Man and I have been together for more than 20 years. We've been through an ... more
Lol, thanks for sharing. Great insight for me!
05/16/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I don't think about this anymore. My husband and I went through a stage when the kids were around 8-13 where our sex life was active only when....not tired, the kids were sleeping, we were not fighting, someone did not need us, we were alone, we ... more
LOL we have noticed the same thing Sigel and I. Our girls have a pretty near soundproof room and we can go to a movie, out to dinner, ect, all those things that used to lead up to pretty wonderful sex again.
05/16/2012
Contributor: oldman oldman
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I didn't answer the poll, because I couldn't figure out what the "yes" "no" etc meant! It wasn't a yes or no question.

Anyway, My Man and I have been together for more than 20 years. We've been through an ... more
How could anyone lose interest in you, P'Gell? You are such a fascinating woman.
05/18/2012
Contributor: oldman oldman
January 17th was my 43rd anniversary being married to the only woman I have ever been with. We have 5 kids, 6 grandkids (another coming in November) and have had quite a few pets along the way. I would still have sex daily (maybe more!) if only my body would let me.

Recently I read something (don't remember who, what or where...) that included something like, "...sex may only be 5% of a relationship, but it's the FIRST 5%..". I took that to mean that if your sex-life isn't in order, its hard to get the rest of the relationship to work.

Just a thought from an Oldman!
05/18/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I didn't answer the poll, because I couldn't figure out what the "yes" "no" etc meant! It wasn't a yes or no question.

Anyway, My Man and I have been together for more than 20 years. We've been through an ... more
P'Gell - nice summary. Although our specifics vary - the theme is the same. We're getting ready to enter the empty nest stage - and loving the whole concept!
05/18/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I only think about it sometimes but I don't let it bring me down.
05/18/2012
Contributor: Nora29714 Nora29714
we don't have any kids. so when we come home from the shop (we own a business) and then spend time with jewel ( my pic) (my cockatoo) we go to bed. but sometimes i'm coming home alone. cause he'll be stuck at the shop until 12 or later working someones car. or his own...
05/18/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kissy
So, each day (thanks to EF, toys and you all) my sex life gets better and better. I am for sure on an upper trend! But then I just thought today... when is my sex life going to downturn? Yikes!

Do you think about this? Age factor? ... more
Life always has stumbling blocks to relaxation and sex, at every stage. However, there never needs to be a turndown, if your both want to keep your love life alive and HOT. It just take some concerted effort too keep that going.
05/19/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I definitely consider that it might happen, but I do think it is like many other activities where you just have to start making a more conscious effort to keeping involved with it.
05/19/2012
Contributor: prettynpink prettynpink
I think every relationship goes through a dry spell
05/21/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
We've been together for 13 years, married 9. Our children are 3 and 5 so it is hard at times to find our time when we're not both tired, the kids are asleep or visiting their grandparents, etc. He works full time and goes to school online full-time so it takes its toll on him to do the best everywhere.
07/31/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I have been together more than 20 years and the sex is wonderful! Better than ever.

We did, of course, have times when it was put on the back burner; when we had babies. We DID have sex, but it was down to 3-4 times a week, as I was pretty exhausted but it did help with baby blues. But, as soon as our babies started sleeping more regularly (don't be in a hurry, they'll do it when they're ready) your sex life springs back.

Our kids are now older (our youngest is 12) so we have been on an upswing for years. Even some things that slow other people down, don't do that for us. I had a Major Depressive Episode after my second baby weaned (I though she was our last and it was tough for me and I had had PPD, too) I actually found sex was one of the few things I could enjoy! So, our frequency went up when I got depressed.

But, now, it's great. My husband has said, "We'll be fucking like teenagers when I'm in my 90s, won't we?" "Yeah!" I happily answered.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Nora Nora
Quote:
Originally posted by Kissy
So, each day (thanks to EF, toys and you all) my sex life gets better and better. I am for sure on an upper trend! But then I just thought today... when is my sex life going to downturn? Yikes!

Do you think about this? Age factor? ... more
Our sex life sort of ebbs and flows, but it is definitely getting "better" since finding EF (among other things)! The ability to get lots of variety in our sex toys has certainly helped though.
07/31/2012
Contributor: Rory Rory
My sex life has been like a roller coaster some ups many downs. A few of the downs were caused by health issues but for now - ALLS GOOD!!!
10/01/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
For me, it's the age factor. I'm in my late forties and am going through my perimenopause stage, it's affecting my libido so I'm not hungry for sex like when I was younger; I used to want sex all the time in my thirties.
oh my, me to - the 30's. my sex life hit the fan w/ the last partner/ass I was w/. AND my body reawakened about 5 months ago - I'm 58. so it can thrive when we are older - YAAAY!!!
10/12/2012