I got married in October to a guy I was dating for almost 5 years. He was a virgin and wanted to wait until he got married for sex but I had been previously married and had plenty of sex in the past. Well, I agreed and we fooled around a little but waited to have sex. Wedding rolls around and everytime we tried to have sex, he couldnt stay hard to penetrate. So, he got viagra and that still didnt keep him hard. He promised he wouldn't masturbate until we had sex but he never initiates anything. I have found rags around from when he sneaks in playing with himself and have confronted him about it. I told him he should be coming to me and trying to have sex with me instead. I don't have anything against masturbation but he should not be doing it if he can't have sex with me. I should be his outlet until whatever is wrong is fixed.
That is how I see it and last time I asked why he does that, he said that he had no idea (on why he would masturbate after promosing me not to).
I am beside myself about the whole thing and I am super depressed. My sex drive has gone downhill because of the depression. I am 37 and I want kids and I feel that chance disappearing because I am getting old.
It is really hard to even think about this without crying. I've never had this problem before. I've even been told in the past that I was good in bed.
I honestly don't know what to do. He mentioned that we needed to get more comfortable in bed together but when the only sexual relationship he has is with his hand, i don't know how that is going to happen.
I can't even find advice on the internet about this.
If anyone has any good advice, I could use it.
That is how I see it and last time I asked why he does that, he said that he had no idea (on why he would masturbate after promosing me not to).
I am beside myself about the whole thing and I am super depressed. My sex drive has gone downhill because of the depression. I am 37 and I want kids and I feel that chance disappearing because I am getting old.
It is really hard to even think about this without crying. I've never had this problem before. I've even been told in the past that I was good in bed.
I honestly don't know what to do. He mentioned that we needed to get more comfortable in bed together but when the only sexual relationship he has is with his hand, i don't know how that is going to happen.
I can't even find advice on the internet about this.
If anyone has any good advice, I could use it.