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Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of the class, but I didn't catch the title) that the "average time per day devoted to sex is four minutes and three seconds."

Combining this with a factoid I heard long ago that the average male lasts 4 minutes before ejaculation makes me wonder whether in the average lovemaking session, it takes 3 seconds for the couple to remove their clothes and there is no foreplay.

Discuss.
03/28/2009
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Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
Wow, that's a short time! If you count foreplay, and actual intercourse, our daily devoted time is usually an hour or more.
Even if it's a "quickie", it's a lot more than that!
03/28/2009
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Yes. It doesn't seem like it could be right to me either. But it was presented like a research result.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I haven't had a chance to look at the lecture from your link, but I'm wondering if he's averaging the foreplay and sex over a year, and including masturbation? So, if a couple only has sex 2 times a week, for an hour per session, that's averages to something like .012 hours/day on average?
03/28/2009
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I haven't had a chance to look at the lecture from your link, but I'm wondering if he's averaging the foreplay and sex over a year, and including masturbation? So, if a couple only has sex 2 times a week, for an hour per session, ... more
Exactly, Sammi.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
An average is every day. That means days with no sex, either. And since there are folks who fuck every day and folks who fuck twice a year... you can see where an average is not very valuable to each of us personally. Unless it's an average of our *own* sexual frequency.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Exactly, Sammi.
Those pesky margaritas are getting to me . I was hoping that made sense.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
An average is every day. That means days with no sex, either. And since there are folks who fuck every day and folks who fuck twice a year... you can see where an average is not very valuable to each of us personally. Unless it's an average ... more
D'Oh! Jeez. Averaging over no-sex days didn't even occur to me.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
A pretty interesting statistic, though!
03/28/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I haven't had a chance to look at the lecture from your link, but I'm wondering if he's averaging the foreplay and sex over a year, and including masturbation? So, if a couple only has sex 2 times a week, for an hour per session, ... more
I think that would make the most sense... I'm not sure how useful those research results are, then. Wouldn't it be more helpful to have hours per week or hours per month? Or time per continuous session.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I just found the book on amazon. "Faster: The Acceleration of Just About Everything" The point of it apparently is that we're doing everything faster and are always in a hurry, unable to keep up. The first review of it slams it for presenting "endless anecdotal and semi-documented examples." So reading the book might not clarify exactly how that statistic was derived.

In any case, academicearth.org is a wonderful site even if one lecture on sex and psychology used a misleading statistic.
03/28/2009
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
I have a sneaking suspicion that the averages in this community might be a little higher than this four minutes and three seconds a day percentage.
03/29/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Gary
I have a sneaking suspicion that the averages in this community might be a little higher than this four minutes and three seconds a day percentage.
Four minutes and three seconds a day! Give me a break! Kinda proves that stats can "prove" anything!
03/30/2009
Contributor: Cocoa88 Cocoa88
I don't know where I saw it but they also have stats on who performs longer....by race which I think is bull. To each person there own. Sometimes my partner likes to go fast and sometime he likes to go slow. It's pretty hard to determine when there are people who have prostate or different problems. Are all these people completely healthy? and Are they adults? lol there is a chance of interviewing teens who are not in their sexual prime with endurance....
04/10/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Four minutes and three seconds a day! Give me a break! Kinda proves that stats can "prove" anything!
That's what stats are for
04/12/2009
Contributor: sry sry
Sounds like the best 4:03 I'd spend for the past 22 years.. If sex is all that it's cracked up to be of course.


I hope she would stick around for after play
04/13/2009
Contributor: Dragon Dragon
Yeah. It's been a reality before. Some things shouldn't be. I'm not the only one. Have a friend who says, "I'm not a bullseye."
04/13/2009
Contributor: Josmoseph Josmoseph
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
I think he was divding the sessions by multiplying the number per year and dividing by 365.... man i wonder now where we are in that equation... Need to get a graph sheet out and try that...see ya
05/08/2009
Contributor: Purple Sexy Purple Sexy
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
I feel sorry for those people. My sex actual sex not foreplay or afterplay is atleast 30-45 minutes.
09/10/2009
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
Quote:
Originally posted by Tuesday
On academicearth.org , a site with videos of university lectures, is a lecture
by Yale professor Paul Bloom titled "Psychology, Sex, and Evolution." link

The professor cites from a book by James Gleick (he waved it in front of ... more
I don't know if you are stll wondering about this, but my comment't change much over time. is that this is an average, which means some folks will devote 6 hours to sex and others no time. Even within our own self you must notice that sometimes all your waking time is devoted to sex and sometimes not so much. Also, although I haven't gone to the link, just from what you said it sounds like he is referring to all kinds of things--thinking about sex, sex with another and solo. Or he could mean the average time it takes for a male to climax. If he is referring to all the things I listed then the 4 minutes plus seems awfully low, but if he is referring to the 2nd thing I mentioned, that sounds about right from what I have read. Statistics like that probably don't change much over time.
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