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Contributor: Sarebear&Del Sarebear&Del
How do you deal with having different sex drives? Lets say one has a high sex drive while the other has a very low/non-existent sex drive.
07/24/2016
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Contributor: CharlotteNicole CharlotteNicole
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Originally posted by Sarebear&Del
How do you deal with having different sex drives? Lets say one has a high sex drive while the other has a very low/non-existent sex drive.
Is it possible that the partner with a lower sex drive is simply not as interested in typical penetrative sex (ie PIV)? Maybe try playing around with other sex acts that interest both of you. Even focusing on more intimate time without the expectation of sex could be helpful. You could try to make more time for cuddling and just gentle touching, knowing that it's okay if it doesn't go any further than that.
07/25/2016
Contributor: Annabel Lee Annabel Lee
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Originally posted by Sarebear&Del
How do you deal with having different sex drives? Lets say one has a high sex drive while the other has a very low/non-existent sex drive.
To me, it's about compromise. A relationship with vastly differing sex drives can only work if BOTH partners are willing to accommodate each other.
07/25/2016
Contributor: MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by CharlotteNicole
Is it possible that the partner with a lower sex drive is simply not as interested in typical penetrative sex (ie PIV)? Maybe try playing around with other sex acts that interest both of you. Even focusing on more intimate time without the ... more
I kind of agree, without better communication of needs... it isn't usually as simple as higher/lower sex drives. It might be the type of sex, way that the mood is set, foreplay, etc.

Now it's possible that one partner is more asexual or less driven by sex, and if the other partner does in fact have an overcharged sex drive or need for penetrative sex of some kind. Then this usually isn't a good combination... but agree with Annabel Lee, compromise will likely need to be required, or making allowances for masturbation, etc.

But with any relationship, both partners need to communicate and discuss this perceived or existing difference in sex drive.
07/25/2016
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Sarebear&Del
How do you deal with having different sex drives? Lets say one has a high sex drive while the other has a very low/non-existent sex drive.
I would like to ask. Has it always been this way ? Or after x number of years? Was there anything dramatic that may have led to it ?

Many of the fore mentioned comments are good.
07/26/2016