I was hoping someone could help me out. I've been sexually active for some years now but stopped for over a year due to singleness. Well I started the nuvaring and began having sex with a new boyfriend within a couple weeks. The sex was painful due to my lack of anything sexual in months, but not so bad. Well it's now 4 months later and the last time we tried having sex I almost cried because I couldn't take it. I stopped using the Nuvaring after the second round because it was drying me out and thinning areas that shouldn't be thinned and my partner was tearing me. I have terrible insurance so I've only been able to go to different Planned Parenthoods. First they told me I was too small and to give it some times, then they said I had a bacterial infection and gave me pills which didn't work (I'd already tried yeast infection medication because I'm prone to them), then they told me I had herepes because I had open "sores" (due to the tearing) which came back negative (along with all my other STI tests). We use lube all the time which helps a bit, but it's just becoming so painful I don't even want to have intercourse because I'm afraid. The pain is located at the entrance (the deeper pain has disappeared with the discontinuation of the nuvaring) and hurts the most at the beginning. He is the largest partner I've ever had so I'm starting to wonder if maybe I'm tensing up unknowingly so that his added size is pushing on my already tensed muscles and that's making it worse or if there is something else wrong :/ urination is normal and pain free and I tend to be sore a couple days after sex but no pain if we don't for a few days. I'm hoping to use a dildo and try some "streching" exercises to see if that works.
Can anyone offer some advice or help?
Can anyone offer some advice or help?