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Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I am a Cancer survior and I wanted to know how many of you have had cancer are being treated or are in remission etc.
How do you feel about all of it, and how has it changed your sex life, etc.

I was diagnosed with Osteosarcoma (bone cancer, in my femur) in December of 2006 at the age of 18 almost 19. By then I was loosing my sex drive, because I was in so much pain from the tumor growing in my femur, before I found out it was cancer I thought It was just a sprain.

I did not have sex all through my first treatment which lasted through the year till the beginning of fall. I had lost a lot of weight through that time, and I was really comfortable with my body, I loved to show it off, I even started doing some modeling. My bf at the time was really attracted to me but I didn't want to have sex at all. Part of me was afraid to while I was on chemo, part of me just wasn't interested at all.

After chemo he got me to try a little bit but I just wasn't enjoying it. I think one time I let him fuck my feet because I didn't want to have sex lol.

Also after finishing chemo I started gaining my weight back and I stopped doing the modeling.

Eventually we broke up it was a mutual thing, we just weren't attracted to each other anymore, we were always fighting, it just wasn't working out. I do believe that he never cheated on me, even now looking back I say I probably would have because it was just ridiculous what I put him through. By he was always there for me and very loyal, we are still really good friends its better this way.

A while after we broke up I started getting a bit of my sex drive back and started seeing a few men. My sex drive has been building ever sense then, even though my cancer had come back, in my lungs this time, about a year after finishing chemo. Now I have been doing my second round of chemo and have been sexually active through the whole thing.

Because of my cancer I have had to have several surgeries and I have several scars from those surgeries. I am not self conscious about the scars at all and I actually like to show them off.

However before my Knee surgery that removed the cancer from my femur, I was so worried about the scar. I was like I am never going to be able to wear a skirt again. Lol it cracks me up to think about how worried I was about it, because right after the surgery I was showing it off to everyone that would let me.

I don't ever think of going through all of this as a bad thing, it has improved the way I feel about like and I really think it has over all made my life better. I have been absolutely comfortable with who I am through the whole thing. I actually loved being bald and never cared about the weird looks I got when I went places bald. I like to talk about it and I am completely open about it so if you do have any questions feel free to ask.

Now I would love to hear any stories other cancer patients or survivors have to tell.
05/08/2010
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Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Miss Naughty Kitty
I am a Cancer survior and I wanted to know how many of you have had cancer are being treated or are in remission etc.
How do you feel about all of it, and how has it changed your sex life, etc.

I was diagnosed with Osteosarcoma (bone ... more
This is an awesome story! Your ex sounds like a very patient man and that is great that you guys are still friends. It sounds like he was a big part of your life and finding yourself!

I actually had a cancer scare recently. The doctor told me that it was one of two things, and one of them was cancer. Thank goodness the treatment worked and ruled out the possibility of developing cancer but it scared the hell out of me. I thought of how it would effect my life. I had just graduated, but the rest of my life was ahead of me and I was scared it would be stunted. I am a very strong person and am grateful that I didn't have to go through more (one more procedure this summer) but I hope that if I am ever presented with the situation for real, I have the same attitude about it as you. Because, really, to be honest, I freaked out lol.
05/08/2010
Contributor: deceased deceased
I've had bladder cancer. I got a lot of cisplatin as chemo, a couple operations to resect the bladder, and as a result one kidney completely failed from toxicity. It did not hurt at all. Never took any pain medicines. Two years ago I had an abdominal tumor removed that weighed a little over six pounds. It was next to the dead kidney. I got a major infection and had to wear a drain from the inside of my body to the outside. It hurt, but I did not take anything for pain. I got some chemo, but I continued to work. I only missed two weeks work in total. I did lose 30 pounds, but I gained it right back when I was off chemo and antibiotics and allowed to go to the gym. Cancers are just your body making lots of copies of cells gone bad. Its a person's attitude toward it that can kill them. My dad had lung cancer and was given 3 months to live and he lived 10 more, dying of something else. He also had prostate cancer at the same time he had lung cancer. The lung cancer was on both sides, so they removed the right lung and fried the left with chemo, unfortunately they damaged his heart so he had to keep getting the lining of his pericardium drained. But he kept working. He had a picc line for the chemo. He had good days and bad days, but he had a positive attitude like "it ain't no thing".
We have a few nurses here at my hospital working and battling cancer....
05/09/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I've had borderline ovarian cancer. Its in the grey area between malignant and benign. It only has a 15-20% chance of recurrence. It doesn't respond to chemo, so thankfully I skipped that experience. I honestly don't think I would have tolerated chemo as well as other people do.

This didn't save me from two months of worry knowing I had a solid growth the size of a plum on my ovary, an abnormal ca125 and fluid in my abdomen. Its terrifying to not know for sure.

I kind of like my long abdominal scar too, like its a badge of courage.

My sister has appendix cancer that has spread to her lungs. She had radio frequency ablation to knock out 4 tumors, but the fifth is inoperable and untreatable.

I hope your last chemo treatments did the trick for you.

The only way this has changed my sex life is that now I have a scar where my cervix used to be and that hurts when something bumps against it. Plus with the forced surgical menopause I've shrunk quite a bit vaginally, but it could be that that was happening anyway and I didn't notice until my post-cancer scare attitude adjustment and renewed interest in sex.
05/09/2010
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
My husband and I got married August 22, 2006 in February 2007 he was diagnosed with testicular cancer and was given a 57% chance of living. His left testicle was removed. His skin was yellowish looking and he was always tired. He went through very severe chemo. He was at chemotherapy Monday-Friday 5-6 hours each day. Every month he landed in the hospital due to no immune system. So his chemotherapy lasted about a year because of the hospital trips. He ended up for a total of 3 times in the hospital for about 3-4 each time. I was 25 and he was 34. He was the one who introduced me to the world of sex and masturbation.

We were both virgins when we married. We went for over a year without sex during his chemotherapy. Worst part was my sex drive was in full force (no I never did cheat on him). I didn't even have a good toy to get me through that year. The first toy I ever got was one I picked out but my husband paid for it it was a ridiculous huge [rabbit vibrator|link].
When we first got married each time we had sex it would last almost two hours. We both loved it.

Now since his chemo we are good to make it to 30 minutes. Which is not the fault of what he went through it's that fault of me having a bladder disease that makes intercourse painful all though for some weird reason masturbation in not painful.
11/04/2010